Saturday, 13 January 2018

Weddings When You’re Plus Size

Whether you’re a plus size bride or have been invited to be part of a wedding party when you’re fat, it can sometimes feel a little daunting. As much as we would all like to say it isn’t a big deal, it can feel like one when you’re planning to attend a day where you know lots of people are going to be staring at you. Of course, on a day like your wedding they’re going to be staring at you with love but in the build-up to the occasion that can still be a daunting concept.

You Belong To Be There

If you’re getting married then quite frankly, the day won’t go ahead without you. If you are invited then the people getting married want you there - so that makes your belonging there factual. I have spoken before about the time I was invited to be bridesmaid and turned down the opportunity immediately because I knew that shopping for dresses in a size 10 and a size 32 would be near on impossible. 

I’m very lucky in that my friend (the bride) had already found someone to make the dresses BEFORE she asked me – so I felt wanted at the big day there and there. Your size doesn’t dictate your worth and if you are invited, then you’re wanted so take that as your belonging.

Planning When You’re Plus Size

There are some amazing plus size wedding dress boutiques out there now a days. You might need to travel and make a day of it, but you absolutely deserve a day of trying on dresses and feeling like a princess. Do a little research and start to look at your options, because I promise you’ll find something! 

The rest of the planning, your size doesn’t really come in to it. Make your life easy by visiting somewhere such as confetti shop, because they tend to have everything in one place.
When you use somewhere like this, you can get all of what you need from one website, which makes your life much easier. Even if there is the odd item you don’t want to get from there – you’ll be able to use it for inspiration on what to buy and for your wedding wish list.

Enjoying the Day

Whatever you do, however you plan, whatever you wear - the most important thing is that you enjoy the day. Do what you can to make sure you’re comfortable and then get on with enjoying the experience. We all know that days like this are going to fly by, so do what you can to take it all in and make the most of it.

Pack some comfortable shoes to change into, take loads of photos and make some amazing memories. This day is going to be one of the ones you remember for a long time so you want to do what you can to make sure that the memories are amazing – so get out there and have fun!

Debz x

Friday, 12 January 2018

The Online World of Plus Size Dating

I have never been a thin online dater, so I don’t know whether their experiences differ much from my own but I do know that as a fat online dater – life can be tough! Don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy dating and I have a plan to date more in 2018 but some aspects of it can be really frustrating!

Plus Size Specific Dating Sites

I have been a member of different plus size specific dating websites; ones based around those that are fat or find fat people attractive. I guess in a way these aren’t very different from Kent dating sites or those aimed towards single men in Leicestershire – they’re aimed towards a niche and taking advantage of these can be really helpful.

As I am friends with some amazingly attractive fat women who are also single one of the most annoying things about online dating when you’re plus size is bumping in to the same faces. Often I will tell my friends about a guy I have been chatting to and they may have had a message from him or even talked to him before. There’s nothing that the guy has done wrong but it can be off-putting even when you know it shouldn’t be.

Local Dating Websites

I often wonder whether those on Yorkshire singles websites or sites tailored towards dating Southampton niches have the same issues. I guess when you’re dating within a local area or social scene you’re likely to come across the same people and then I suppose, the same issues that I have.

What I Love About Dating

Whether you’re on Hampshire dating sites or something else, dating is there to be enjoyed so make the most of it! One of the nicest things about adult dating online is that there is something for everyone. You can join a generic dating website, one based on your sexual preferences, religion and even hobbies.

I love being able to talk to different people, have fun conversations and meet different people for nights out, dinner and drinks. For me, it is a great way to meet local people and see more of the local area. Yes, turning up to a date with someone you haven’t met yet can be nerve wracked but really it is just a few hours of your life, so what do you have to lose?


Thursday, 11 January 2018

Planning Your Wedding on a Budget: Five Tips

Every little girl dreams of the perfect wedding. Unfortunately, only a few of the grown up
princesses will have enough money to fund it. If you don’t want to start your married life in debt,
you might want to start planning early, and make sure you are weighing up your options.

You can have a perfect reception without renting the entire Hilton.

Find five useful tips on planning your dream wedding below.
  1. Consider a Tent or Marquee

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If you are planning your big day for the summer, chances are, you can get a marquee set up in your
or your parents’ back yard, instead of paying for the big venue. You can create the perfect atmosphere,
and don’t have to worry about leaving on time. You can get a marquee wedding designed around a
theme, and hire all equipment cheap including the sound system and special lighting.
  1. Ask Friends for Their Holiday Home

In case you don’t have thousands to pay for a venue, you can ask your friends if they are willing to
rent you out their holiday villa for the wedding. You are likely to get a reasonable price, and they will
be excited to host your party. Chances are you will find plenty of wedding organisers in the area, and
your friends will be happy to help make arrangements.
  1. DIY Decorations

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You can save money on tableware, flowers, and other decoration if you learn a few skills or ask your
friends to help you out. Do you have a friend with a sewing machine? Are your nieces creative? Can
someone make the handmade invitations? If yes, you can ask people to help you out, and - if you are
lucky - you can sell on your DIY creations later after the wedding cheap for other couples looking to
cut their budget. Get creative and check online for DIY wedding decor ideas.
  1. Shop Online for Services

Instead of having an event manager look for the right ring and services, you can shop online for
almost everything. Check out the retailers’ website for discounted quality wedding rings sets, and buy
early. This way, you are not paying a premium price just because you are making your purchase in the
middle of the wedding season. If you see something you like, put down a deposit immediately,
and set up a payment plan, so you secure the same price.
  1. Don’t Use Credit

Using your credit card to pay for your dream wedding is never a good idea. It makes every purchase
more expensive. If you can, try to borrow money from your relatives and friends for the deposits,
and create a tight budget for repaying the loan. If you are expecting presents from your guests,  
ask them to give you gift vouchers, instead of an item you don’t really need or want.

Planning a wedding on a budget requires creativity. Make sure you shop around,
and think outside of the box. Get creative, and get involved in DIY. Avoid getting in debt,
and make sure you review your budget regularly to avoid disappointment.

Wednesday, 10 January 2018

Trying New Things in 2018

Although I haven’t strictly made any new years resolutions, I do want to try and get out there and do more stuff this year. Those of you that have followed my social media for a while will know know that I moved to The Midlands in October 2016 with grand plans for adventures and memory making; only for the start of 2017 to be a big pile of crap!

Now, everything is on a much more even footing I would like to try and get out there and do more stuff. What this stuff is going to be made up of, I’m not sure – mostly likely pub quizzes, theatre shows, afternoon tea, crazy golf and a few trips to different cities in the UK.

Getting Out There

One of the things I have been promising myself to try is a bit more dating. Although I am happy single, I like the idea of meeting new people. Maybe I’ll join a Kent dating site to try and make some dating Kent memories – combine dating with visiting new places!

Whether you’re one of the many  Suffolk singles or you’re a member of Yorkshire dating sites, why not try something new in this years dating life too.  We can all go to the pub for a couple of drinks and use the time to summarise whether we like someone, but why not try afternoon tea, pub quizzes, art galleries and other fun activities. The way I see it, that way – even if the date doesn’t go to plan you’ll have tried something fun or eaten something delicious and that can only be a good thing! Perhaps you’re on the search for single women in County Fermanagh, in which case why not plan some fun dates to ask them out on – I bet they’re more likely to say yes!

Other Things To Try in 2018

I guess trying no strings dating might be a bit much of my less than adventurous self, I do have something’s that I would like to make sure I do this year. I want to visit a physic and watch a show put on by local amateur dramatics company. I want afternoon tea and to see more of my friends.
So there you have it, my less than exciting plans for 2018. 

Do you have anything that you’d like to do more of this year?

Debz x

Friday, 22 December 2017

5 Perfect-For-The Garden Events All Year Round

If you love entertaining, chances are you enjoy inviting friends and family over to your home for all those big and important occasions. Things can get a little crowded indoors when the guest list starts to get longer! Have you ever considered using your garden as an entertaining space? Sure, the weather can make it a little tricky, but there are plenty of ways to manage that. Here are just some of your perfect-for-the-garden events you might be able to cater for:

New Year
Celebrating New Year should always be done with plenty of friends. You might light a few fireworks in the garden at midnight to bring the new year in with a bang. Of course, it does sometimes rain at the most inconvenient times, so you might have to stick to indoor sparklers! Still, you can set up a gazebo to keep the windchill off, and the rain away from your new hairdo. It also means you can let the party overflow into the garden, making more room for all the neighbours too!

Summer Anniversary
There is nothing like a big barbecue with friends to celebrate that all-important anniversary.
You’ve reached another milestone, so make it count! Whip up some cocktails and enjoy an amazing
spread. You’ll need plenty of seating and a really great dining set. If you’re worried about a passing
shower, then pick up some ideas from this waterproof cushion selection. If you love hosting
barbecues, it might be worth investing in an outdoor kitchen too. This is covered and protected from
the wind so it can be used all year round. It keeps the sun off the food and the diners to make your
outside dining experience much safer.

Kids’ Birthday Party
Kids make a mess. They jump up and down on the furniture, and there are always inevitable breakages
The cost of hiring venues for the little ones has skyrocketed recently. Why not set up your garden for a
children’s party? You can hire a bouncy castle or an entertainer. There is lots of room for tables and
food. And if anything gets dropped and spilt it won’t matter because it’s outdoors.

Best of all, there is a lot more room out there to run around and burn off all that excitement

(and chocolate, cake and jelly).

A good Halloween party deserves to take place in the dark. The setting of your garden can be perfect.
You might use some spooky lanterns in the shrubs and even set up a scary haunted grotto in your
gazebo. Messy games and plenty of props are so much easier to set up outdoors. Best of all, none
of that sticky yuck and spooky cobwebs will be on your sofa!

Fireworks Night

Bonfire night is definitely an outdoor activity. If you love having home displays then you probably
already use your garden for fireworks. Keep things safe, and enjoy the light show.

How do you use your garden for fun events all year round?

Debz x

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Thursday, 21 December 2017

Simple Solutions To Heat Up Cold Flooring In Your Home

We have many different flooring options at our disposal when it comes to decorating our home.
Some of the most popular types include laminate, hardwood, tiling, and carpet. Now, unless you’ve
chosen carpet as your flooring, then the chances are you suffer from one common issue; cold feet!

No, I don’t mean you’re scared of doing something, I mean you literally have cold feet because your
floor is freezing. Carpet is nice and soft, meaning it retains heat easily, while the other options don’t.

Have no fear, a cold floor isn’t a permanent problem as there are many solutions you can try.

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Unroll Some Rugs

A quick fix for cold flooring is to buy some rugs and lay them down on top of your floor. This has the obvious benefit of creating a barrier between your feet and the flooring itself.
Essentially, you’re getting the same effect you’ll receive from walking on carpet. The rugs will be soft,
trap heat in the room, and will even be fine to walk on barefoot. You have the added bonus of providing
your home with extra decorative features too. A lovely rug can make your hallway or living room look
a lot better and tie together a look. Plus, you can chop and change them depending on the situation.

If you have someone coming over, you can get out the fancy rug to impress them!

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Install Some Underlay

Most people haven’t even heard of underlay, which is probably one of the reasons your flooring is
so cold. Basically, it’s a layer of material that lies underneath your flooring. The type of material
differs depending on your flooring choice. The best underlay for laminate flooring might not be the
best option for vinyl or wood flooring, so bear that in mind. However, underlay is one of the best
ways of insulating your floor and stopping heat from escaping it. You should find that it’s much
more bearable to walk on, and you don’t have to wear three pairs of socks and slippers every time
you walk around your house.

Think About Underfloor Heating

If you want to take things to the extreme, you can throw this problem out the window by
getting underfloor heating. This means your rooms will be heated from the ground up, which can
lead to warmer rooms, and flooring that’s nice and toasty. There’s no real point talking about how
this helps as it’s pretty self-explanatory! But, I will say that this isn't the ideal solution for everyone.
Some people find the costs too much and installation too disruptive. But, if you can afford it and want
to switch things up in your home, then it’s certainly a great idea.

You’ve got three different options here if you have cold flooring in your house.

Keep your feet nice and warm, and you’ll save a fortune on socks and slippers!

Seriously though, these are some great ideas that help with this common problem.
If coldness is stopping you from getting a fancy new flooring, then maybe you’ll start to think twice

Debz x

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Tuesday, 19 December 2017

Making A Splash in 2018

With the brand new year fast approaching, I bet you're bombarded with emails about New Year Resolutions and changes you can make for the next 52 weeks. 

Firstly let me say that you do not need to make any changes to your body if you do not want to, and you certainly don't need a brand new year as an excuse. If there is something you want to change or do differently, you can do that anytime - not just the new year!

Changing Your Habits

One of the biggest things that people tell us for the new year is that we should change something about ourselves to be better. This can be to eat less, move more or simply eat differently - these can be quite strong messages and only something you should listen to if you would like to!

Treat Yourself

The way I see it, you are perfect just the way you are and you are not obligated to change your body or do anything differently. However, if you do decide that there is something that you want to change - treat yourself and approach it from a place of positive rather than negative.

Want to move more? Treat yourself to some plus size swimwear and go swimming because you love it and not because some resolution has made you feel like you are obligated to. Your body is something that should be treated with love and nothing less.

Commit To Loving Yourself

I realise that sometimes loving your body can feel like an upwards battle but I promise that you can get there. If you do want to make a change this new year, why not make it to be kinder to yourself? if you are struggling then get online and read lots of body positive hashtags for inspiration - places such as #Effyourbeautystandards on Instagram is a really good place to start!

The thing with body confidence is that it can be a long journey, but it is worth it. Remember that small steps can make a difference, so take something that you dislike and work on improving this, and you will notice that you feel so much different. So for example, if you feel self-conscious about your arms spend a little time each day with these out – remove a cardigan while in the office or spend sometime in front of the mirror admiring your arms and seeing how wonderful they are.

A big part of not liking ourselves is fear of the unknown. We don’t often see fat bodies in the media so it can seem unusual so you need to get yourself used to seeing bodies that look like yours.

This is where reading plus size size blogs can really help, because you get to see a variety of bodies of various shapes and sizes, so it really helps to bring home the fact that your body is not unusual, and even though it is unique to you – it is brilliant!

Spend 2018 loving yourself!

Debz x

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