Tuesday, 30 September 2014

Loving You, Is Easy Because You're Beautiful

A few days ago I read this post by Lucia at U Can't Wear That and it really stirred something up inside me. If you haven't read it yet, please take 5 minutes out to read it, you won't regret it!

As plus size bloggers it can sometimes seem easy for us to put on a pretty dress, smile for the camera and 'be confident', but the truth is that it doesn't always come that easy. In fact I would say for most of us the journey to loving our bodies has been a long and varied one - with many people not knowing they would ever be in the position of loving their body just as much as they do - but it's proof you can get there! This is a bit of a rambly post, not sure where it's heading or if it even has much point, but I'll publish it anyway!

I honestly think that my confidence came with age - it came with the knowledge that although some people can be cruel most of the time people don't care if you're a fat body in a tight dress or whether you're covering up your calves with leggings - they're too busy going about their own business to pay much attention to you. 

However, as Lucia said it would be lovely to live in a world where we don't need to develop like fine wine and get 'better' with age, but instead grow up loving our bodies and being confident in our skin from the get-go. But how do we get there?


Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought that you shouldn't wear what you were wearing because you were too fat, too thin or had the wrong shaped body to pull of such a look? If you have, then you are far from alone! Now imagine your friends thinking that about themselves, ludicrous isn't it! Could you imagine saying any of the things you say to yourself, to your sister, your mother or your friend? The truth is that the horrible words you say to yourself, your loved ones are saying to themselves too and we need to make it stop!




Loving yourself is amazing and feeling confident in your own skin is something that money really can not buy. It's about more than pretty dresses and having access to a varied wardrobe of clothes - its about knowing you can put on any of those clothes and shine. It's about not being scared to walk into a pub on your own (we've all been there) or staying home because you 'have nothing to wear'. Yes, we all have those days and yes we all fight with our wardrobes on Saturday night trying on a thousand dresses only to end up with our original choice - but it is possible to do that with a body you love and are comfortable in.

I have spoken before and I will again about the importance of positive and varied media. I read Heat Magazine and I can't resist Chat Mag, but I also read plus size media, look at art containing disabled bodies, listen to poetry about body positivity and so much more. I honestly believe it has shaped me a life of being happy in my very big body and I can tell you now it's an amazing position to be in.

Much like Lucia in her article, I can only hope that we can all get there - in this world it isn't always easy but it is possible. Be a little easier on yourselves & compliment each other - we're the only ones who can build ourselves up instead of dragging each other down!

Leave someone you love a compliment today!

Debz xx

Friday, 26 September 2014

The Lady Who Went To Tea Featuring Lady V London

You might remember a few months I wrote very excitedly about the Estella Dress by Lady V London, designed by Georgina at Fuller Figure, Fuller Bust. At my birthday celebrations earlier this week I could have cried with happiness when my friends presented me with a package that contained one of them! I am SO happy to say I am now a proud Estella Dress owner and it feels good!



This morning I ran a Macmillan Coffee Morning locally to me and I used it as an excuse to wear the dress out for the first time... Well tea and cake does go perfectly with a pretty dress like this. The dress fits perfectly and I love the shape it gives my body. 



I had to wear a vest to underneath to protect my modesty and I would probably usually wear it with a cream or white best top but I don't think the black top looks bad at all! (On that note, I hear that  the new out Lady V London dresses have an improved fit with a stitch on the wrap part at the front so I would be interested to try it).


The material is a lot thicker than I expected but not in a way that makes it too hot or too stiff to wear. It doesn't have much stretch but that does mean that it 'brings you in' and I love the shape that this gives me. I wear the waist quite high so the length is perfect but you could easily get away with this if you were taller too!



Lady V London have just released a range of polka dot dresses in the same shape, which I would love to try especially with the extra stitch on the wrap to give a better fit.

Do you have an Estella dress? Which one is your favourite?

Debz x

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Thursday, 25 September 2014

Double Floral Pattern - Cute as a Bunny

I am just back from spending a long weekend in London, and it was brilliant! I wore some lovely new outfits, so expect some outfit posts coming up over the next few days.



On my actual birthday I headed into Soho to a new eating place there called Bunny Chow. The actual venue isn't open yet, but they're doing some sneak previews and trials and invited me down to sample their goods with Lucia from U Can't Wear That and boy, I am glad that I went!

Bunny Chow is a type of food that takes its inspiration from South Africa. They have a range of food items on their menu, which are served in a bread roll - YUM! I went for the haddock in a white sauce choice and it was delicious... not only is the food nice, but you get to eat your bowl afterwards so no washing up for anyone - WOOP! 



They do desserts of fruit salads inside an apple too, genius!




Back To The Outfit

A few days before I left for London ASOS announced a flash sale of 20% off full price items and I for one can't resist a bargain. I went for this mixed floral printer skater dress which was just £20 and I am so glad that I did. 



Bag - New Look via ASOS Curve
Shoes - Primark (old stock)


The skater dress is a lovely fit and the perfect length for me (it would be great for taller people too as I wear the waist of the dress quite high). I love the idea of the two different patterns and the sleeves are a great length too! The Tuesday in London was a lovely sunny day and it was amazing to feel a bit of sunshine for once!



Me outside Bunny Chow with a lovely lemon muffin they sent me home with - YUM!

Have you bought from ASOS lately? What bargain did you snap up?

Debz x

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Monday, 22 September 2014

£10 Could Be Yours!

Tomorrow I get the honour of celebrating turning 32! To help me prepare for this beautiful, lovely feeling of old age approaching Yours Clothing have given me £10 to give away to one of you guys - YAY!

To me, Yours Clothing are another plus size brand that are doing so well at the moment. They have been to a few of the events I have been at recently (Style XL and Plus North) and it seems that they're really listening to what customers want at the moment, which is always a good thing!

If I won £10 I'd definitely put it towards some of these great items! What would you buy?




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Good luck!!

Debz xx

Friday, 19 September 2014

As Seen On Someone - A Look at ASOS Curve

I don't know if it is just me, but I really feel like ASOS Curve is killing it at the moment. What I like about browsing the range of clothes at ASOS Curve is that it always feels like there is a selection of outfit types... like they're a plus size retailer that actually recognises people like different things. From skater and swing dresses to over sized t shirts and bodycon dresses there is all sorts!

I have bought a few items from ASOS over the last few weeks, some of which I haven't worn yet and some of which I just haven't photographed yet. New additions to my own personal ASOS Curve collection include



I love a bit of floral and I think that ASOS do these patterns so well!

I am off to London this weekend and all of these items are in my suitcase, so I will finally have some photos to show you. In the mean time - here's some amazing bloggers looking great in their ASOS outfits for my As Seen on Someone feature (clever eh?)

Hannah from fabulouslyfatfashion.com looking brill in her ASOS jeans




Miss Kathryn from MissKathrynsMistakes in a beautiful sunflower dress (I regret not buying this)


Mrs Bebe in looking great in ASOS jeans and shirt and some ASOS dungarees


Laura from Laura on Life in an oversize graffiti print dress from ASOS



Lucia from U Can't Wear That in a paisley print dress & a squiggle print dress



Big Fat Betty in her ASOS outfit



Leah from Just Me Leah in a lovely ASOS strapless dress


A bit of smock dress loveliness from Natty Nikki!




Last but not least, Pink Gemma




Of course, I've worn the odd bit of ASOS in the past too ;)




Have you tried ASOS yet? Did you like it?

Debz xx

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Thursday, 18 September 2014

Yours Clothing At Westfields, Derby

A few months ago (I haven't had a chance to post this for ages - sorry)I went to visit Lucia from www.ucantwearthat.com and as she lives in Derby we decided to visit the Yours Clothing store at Westfields. Being able to visit a physical store and try on clothes in my size is amazing and something that I really enjoy! Actually Westfields in Derby is really good for plus size shopping, so if you get the chance to go - make sure you do! They have Yours Clothing, Simply Be, Evans, Bon Marche, New Look Inspire and Primark! 

I wrote a piece for the Yours Clothing website about my visit to the store, you can read that here!

When I visited I wore my turquoise dress from Yours Clothing and thought I would share some pics. You can see the original pics here but I thought this one shows the lovely pattern and colours a bit better. Excuse my squinty eyes - it was SO sunny! (I really miss the sunshine!)



Look how pretty the Yours Clothing shop is!!



Have you visited a Yours Clothing store? What did you think?

They're actually doing a pretty good job of opening up loads of stores up and down the UK - find your nearest Yours Clothing store here.

Remember If you're new to Yours Clothing you can use my Blogger18 code to get £10 off of a £20 spend on their website.

Debz xx

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Sunday, 14 September 2014

When A Former Fat Girls 'Tells Us Like It Is'

Dear Vicky Chandler

Here I was, spending a Sunday morning on my sofa catching up on Sunday Brunch when someone tweeted a link out to your article (For those who haven't seen the 10 Fashion Staples Every Plus Size Girl Should Own article you can read that here).

I must say I found in quite enlightening, I had no idea that as a short, fat girl I should avoid wearing ankle boots or that pencil skirts should be a certain pattern depending on my size. Of course, I already knew that my fat body should never be dressed up with horizontal stripes - every fat girl knows that rule.

I had no idea that the shape of my jeans mattered to a stranger on the internet, who would spend their time writing an article to tell me that delicate necklaces are a no no or that I shouldn't wear tops with a spaghetti strap - WHO KNEW!

I am of course, being a sarcastic little princess today because I think you, your rules and your body shaming are disgraceful. I feel sad for you that you need to write an article on how strangers should or shouldn't dress. Your weight loss is great and I am happy for you that you are happier in your skin  but just because when you were 5 stone heavier you wouldn't wear halternecks or thought that you looked bad in cropped length jacket that doesn't mean that your rules fit everyone.

So... Just to prove my point I put a call out to the people who live a life breaking your silly, pointless rules & just look how good they look whilst they do it!!

Rule: "steer clear of wide legged jeans if most of your weight is carried on your bottom half.. FYI NO SUPER SKINNY"

Skinny jeans on Arched Eyebrow

Rule: "Big designs are a no-no..."

Leah from thirtysomethingcurvyme.com
I stay right away from big designs.... *Sigh*
Rule: "Stripes are the hardest pattern to tackle, but the key is to avoid horizontal ones"
Meeeee!
Emily from http://www.fashion-north.com/


Kim from Call Me Kim looking good in stripes!
Laura from http://laurapantslifestyle.blogspot.co.uk/

Rule: "I’m afraid that studs and delicate necklaces just don’t cut it"

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Kathryn in studs and a delicate neck chain  - shock horror!


I love Lauras studs!
Georgine Horne breaks some more rules!
Rule: "Pencil skirts... If you’re bigger on the bottom half, stick to a solid colour, preferably darker, and pair this with a lighter coloured top. If you’re slimmer on the bottom and want more of a curved effect, a brighter, more daring pattern will do just the trick."
Kathyrn looking great!


A pencil skirt AND ankle boots from Georgina at http://www.shemightbeloved.com/ - Sin City!

Rule: RE Jackets "Avoid anything cropped and instead opt for hip length and longer"

Kathryn from http://www.misskathrynsmisstakes.co.uk/ in a great cropped jacket!

Oh Leah, not a cropped jacket AND stripes. Tut tut! ;)


Hannah from http://fabulouslyfatfashion.com/

Rule: "Not to state the obvious, here, but spaghetti straps and halter necks don’t do us any favours"
Georgina from Fuller Figure Fuller Bust - Spaghetti Straps, Halterneck and a moustache - winner!
Halterneck - OOPS!
Spaghetti straps - Oh no!
The lovely Mags from Twitter and friends


Urmm.. Straps!! Lucia at www.ucantwearthat.com

Rule: "PLEASE, avoid ankle boots that seem to cut your height in half"
I see no problem with ankle boots here!
Sarah from http://plussizeproud.wordpress.com/ breaking the 'rules' as usual!
Leah from justmeleah.co.uk

Ladies (and gents) STOP listening to these rules complied by strangers to tell you what you should and should not be wearing.


If you put something on and YOU think YOU look good and you like it on YOUR body that is all that matters. If you don't like ankle boots or halternecks that is fine too - your body your rules! And as these photos  show - the rules people make up mean nothing anyway because they look FABULOUS!


Do you have pics that break these rules?? I'd love to see! Send them to me on Instagram, Facebook or Twitter and use the hashtag #IBreakPlusSizeRules

A massive thank you to all the bloggers who raided old outfit posts, instagrams, dropboxes and more to help me put together this amazing collection of photos - you're all rule breakers and I couldn't be prouder! Some of the photos might be in a mismatch order because they came through so thick and fast on Twitter and Facebook. I couldn't use them all but they were all brilliant! Lots of them were hard to know where to place on the rules, because you all break numerous rules within one outfit - love it!
Debz xx

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