Saturday, 9 December 2017

3 Tips For Trying Online Dating For The First Time

At the grand old age of 35 I would say I am quite experienced in the world of online dating so thought I would pass on some tips! That said, as a disclaimer I am still very much single so if you're one of the Belfast singles reading this or you're looking for Glasgow dating, maybe take some of these with a pinch of salt!

Set Up A Good Profile

One of my pet hates when it comes to online dating is people who have not filled out a profile. After all, how am I suppose to know if I want to date you if I don't know anything else about you or even what you look like. It is all well and good signing up to a Belfast dating website, but if you aren't telling people what you're looking for then you may struggle. Personally, as a plus size dater I choose to make sure I have a couple of full length photos included in my profile, but that is very much a personal preference.

Know Your Worth

If you do join a Berkshire dating website you will be sent a variety of messages, and not all of them will be pleasant. It is really important that you ignore these and recognise your worth. Some of them will offer different types of meet ups! Just a note, it is fine if you do want to go ahead with any type of casual meeting but also know that just because someone is offering this, you don't have to accept. 

Also, some people make a hobby out of being abusive to people on dating websites. Give these messages as little time as possible. Simply, block and delete.

Enjoy Yourself

When you sign up to something such as a Guernsey dating website, you're doing so to meet some new people. Do what you can to enjoy the whole experience. Even if you have a date that doesn't go as well as you would like, simply write it off as a bad experience and move on to meeting someone else!

Debz x

How Can You Show Someone You Like Them?

I am big fan of honesty when it comes to dating, it can make for some awkward conversations but why would you want to be left wondering whether someone is interested, when you could just ask? Of course, I don't mean if you meet someone on a Jersey singles website you should start tying to map out life plans on date one, but if you get to know someone for a while why not check what they would want from you?

For me, this goes both ways. If I have started talking to someone via a Dorset dating or Hertfordshire dating website then I try to be really honest with how I feel and how I feel things are going. This is the same as if I don't feel chemistry, I will be honest and tell someone how I feel.

Showing Someone You Like Them

Whatever stage of dating you are at, one of the most important things you can give is time. It is all well and good telling someone you want to date them, but if you are showing them that you have time to do this, why would they?

We are lucky to live in an age where we can contact people instantly with very little effort at all. So if you have met someone on a Bristol dating website, keep conversation alive by sending photos (even if it's of your dinner) and voice notes to say throughout the day! This helps to keep conversation going, which can sometimes be a struggle if you are trying to get to know someone new.

At the end of the day, if you message someone via a Hampshire dating site and feel that you like them - tell them! If it is early days then be cautious of your wording, but why not take steps to let them know you're enjoying getting to know them?

Debz x

Friday, 8 December 2017

How to Host a Christmas Cocktail Party at Home

The holidays are always the perfect time for entertaining and hosting gatherings at your home. It gives everyone a chance to get together, celebrate the season, and share some laughs. If you plan on hosting a Christmas cocktail party at your home this season and want to be sure it’s one that will have your guests gushing for weeks afterwards, then you’re going to want to check out these helpful hosting and planning tips.

Make Sure You Have a Head Count

It’s hard to plan for a great cocktail party if you aren’t sure how many people will be there. You need to know numbers so you can buy enough food and drinks for all, and have ample seating. Make sure to include an RSVP on your invitations when you send them out. E-invites are usually a good way to go as it makes it easy on your guests to quickly respond.

Create a Food and Beverage Menu

Now that you know how many people will be coming it’s time to put your “menu” together. This should include everything you plan on serving. Since it’s a cocktail party you’ll want to focus on cocktails obviously and appetizer-type foods. It’s always fun to offer a few unique and special cocktails to your guests such as the popular lemon drop drink. Offering these specialty cocktails just helps to take the party to the next level.

If you’re stuck on what other cocktails to serve, a simple internet search of popular holiday-themed cocktails should do the trick.

Of course, you will also need to offer non-alcoholic options for those who don’t drink or who may be driving.

As for the food menu, as stated you’ll want to stick to appetizers since it’s not a meal that you are hosting. There are some general rules you can follow with appetizers that will make it easier to figure out how much to buy and cook. Experts suggest you plan for 8-10 pieces per person for a cocktail party that is two to four hours in length, and 12-15 pieces for a cocktail party that will be more than four hours in length. Remember it’s always better to have too much food than not enough, especially if you are serving alcohol.

Use Decorations to Create the Theme

Because this is a Christmas cocktail party you will be able to easily find decor that works with the theme. Include a variety of colors and pieces that all have that Christmas-twist. Decorations really help set the tone of the event. You can use such things as poinsettia plants, Christmas garland and ivy, wreaths, Christmas ornaments placed in decorative glass bowls, scented pine cones and cinnamon sticks, and anything else that feels like Christmas to you.

Prep as Much as Possible in Advance

The final tip is to prepare as much as you can in advance so that the day or night of the cocktail party, you will be able to mingle and enjoy chatting with all your guests instead of being stuck in the kitchen.

What do you have planned this festive season?

Debz x

3 Things A Guy Might Do If He Likes You

Although I try not to buy into gender stereotypes, I thought I would write about what a guy might do if he likes you. Sometimes it can feel that men are hard to read, but often it is just a matter of speaking to them and finding out what you want. After all, if you have both joined something such as a Guernsey singles website, the chances are you're looking to meet new people. 

1 - Send You A Message

If you are someone with a level of self-doubt then remind yourself that if he has sent you a message then he has some level of interest for you. If people are signing up to websites to meet Hampshire singles and Hertfordshire singles, then they're probably on there for similar reasons to you!

2 - Attempt Banter

Attempting some level of humor can often be a good way to get someones attention, you might find that they attempt banter with you. This can be with some gentle teasing and even tagging in funny memes - after all, if you're on an Isle of Man singles website, why wouldn't you use the internet as part of your pulling technique?

3 - Date You

It sounds really obvious, but if he dates you then he likes. I often see people wondering why their significant other is with them and doubting the relationship. However whether you have met via a Isle of Wight singles website, or a different method - the truth is that if someone is dating you, they want to be with you. So be confident in your relationship and enjoy it!

How would you show someone you like them?

Debz x

Thursday, 7 December 2017

What is Romance?

As part of being invited to look into online, I started to think about romance and what people look for in a relationship. As much as romance is lovely topic, it is also something that is quite complicated - because everyone looks for different things and has different expectations. 

When it comes to online dating people using websites such as Oxfordshire dating and Cheshire dating for different reasons and that is perfectly okay. I have always thought along the lines of a relationship really only mattering to the people that are involved in it. I think with social media we can get really tied up in what other people are doing and measuring our relationship against theirs. 

Comparing Romance

What is really important to remember is that most people only post their best bits on social media, so we only get their highlights rather than the bad bits also! This means you're comparing your WHOLE relationship to someone else’s best bits and that is never going to be a winner. The only thing that matters is that you're happy with your relationship, so stop comparing it!

What is Romance?

This really is something that varies from person to person. When you join something such as a Gloucester dating website, you might even find that a new partner introduces you to a type of romance you didn’t even know you needed!

For me, I think grand gestures can be great however it is the small things that really make a difference. I think if someone sees something in a shop they think you'll like and brings it home that shows you were on their mind at that time - even if it is a 50p bar of chocolate! Being able to pick someone up from work or pay for their taxi home from work in the snow is a really nice gesture and really doesn't cost more at all. Think of all the nice things you could do for someone if you were to meet a new partner via a Glasgow singles or Gloucestershire singles website - it's a nice thought isn't it?

It doesn’t even have to be about spending money – remembering they have a big day at work and sending them a text, or making their favourite dinner after a long day can all be things that show you care, and to me that is what romance is all about!

What romantic gestures are your favourite?


Tuesday, 5 December 2017

Taking A Fresh Start With Dating

If you have been dating for a while, then it can start to seem like a hard slog. In general I enjoy dating and meeting new people, however sometimes it can feel like an endless cycle that doesn't get anywhere. I guess, it depends on what you're looking for from dating - if you're looking for something casual then you may not mind this. As someone who would ideally like a relationship from dating, I prefer to know that dates have the prospect of going somewhere!

When it comes to dating, I am a big fan of taking a break when you need to - much like any other activity that is demanding of your time. If you're signed up to Cambridgeshire datingDerbyshire dating or other local dating websites then you can find that it really eats into your time. If you are finding that you're not getting many dates that make you happy then this can seem like a hard slog. After all, if you're using Staffordshire dating and other similar websites, you're doing so for a reason.

There is nothing wrong with switching off profiles or not checking messages if you feel like you need a break, Your well-being is the most important and you'll definitely have a much better approach to do dating as you'll feel much more positive about things. Upload new photos and take some time to rewrite your profile and you’ll hopefully be contacted by different people – which will give you even more chance to meet new people!

Coming Back From A Break

If you do decide to take a break from a Birmingham dating website or similar, why not take the time to revamp your profile and maybe upload some new photos? I often find that after some time away from dating I have time to reflect on what I really want from dating so I can re-write my text and get this on my profile. Sometimes I find that having lots of information on my profile cuts down on the number of messages that I receive, it also means the ones that i do get are more than likely to be on the same wavelength of what I am looking for. People join websites such as Surrey dating sites for a plethora of reasons and personally I would rather just be contacted by people that are looking for the same as me. 

What are your thoughts on online dating?

Debz x

Monday, 4 December 2017

New Year, New Me?

As this time of year approaches we're encouraged to think about what we might do differently in 2018. In all honestly, a lot of 2017 was a bit of a write off for me so I am hoping for a better year next year. 

As I have lived in Birmingham for over 12 months and not done an awful lot of dating, I think I would like to do more of that now - before I am too old and have to start considering things such as senior dating sites and other senior dating methods.

I know that there are different Norfolk dating and Shropshire dating sites so I am sure there must be some Birmingham and Midlands ones, so these might be worth trying! One of the things I like most about the idea of dating someone local is exploring more of Birmingham. To say I have lived here over a year, I haven't really seen much of the city and that is something that I would really like to try and do in the up-coming year. 

New Year, New Dates

Whether you're on a Bedfordshire single website or you're looking for potential new partners elsewhere, why not challenge yourself to try some new date ideas in 2018? I know I am stuck in a bit of a rut and tend to go to the same, safe places when I am arranging a date. I think, next year I'd like to try something new - maybe visit a gallery or attend a cocktail making masterclass rather than a standard bar date!

What are your dating plans for 2018?

Debz x

Disqus Shortname

Comments system