Wednesday, 29 April 2015

They Shouldn't Wear That - But I Always Will #WeAreTheThey

Unless you have been on Mars for the past week you will have seen that something quite amazing has happened with a little hashtag I started - #WeAreTheThey.

I decided that I wanted to keep the movement going and so tonight we're once again hitting blog posts and social media! The idea behind the set of posts this evening is what 'they' shouldn't wear. What size body you have, there are usually a set of rules put to you to help you dress 'better'. Whether that's to accentuate your curves, stop you from looking to short or avoiding heels if you're tall. I say stuff that and where what you want.

Browse the #WeAreTheThey hashtag tonight and you'll see a whole range of beautiful, amazing women showing you exactly how they break fashion rules! Why not add your own?

Do Not Wear Short Dresses




Avoid Stripes




Don't Wear Oversized Swing Dresses



You're Too Fat For Primark




The only rule you should listen to when it comes to dressing yourself is whether you want to wear it or not!

Debz


So many bloggers joined in with the challenge and I can't possibly link to them all. I will be retweeting and sharing on Twitter though, so come over and see!

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Monday, 27 April 2015

Here's What I Would Have Spent: Topshop

As you know every few weeks I get together a bunch of bloggers to do a Here's What I Would Have Spent. This time I wanted to do Topshop. They do up to a size 16 although looking at it they tend to do many items up to a size 12/14.

They have some lovely items on their website so it is a shame they don't do a larger range of sizes. Prices are affordable although not on the same wave length as Primark etc - obviously!

So, it's a really short post today - so much has been going on with #WeAreTheThey that I got a bit behind everything else!
But  - Topshop, if you did my size - Here's What I Would Have Spent




Debz xx


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Friday, 24 April 2015

When Retailers Get It Right - #WeAreTheThey

A really, really quick blog post today, my world has gone crazy! So many people are supporting are #WeAreTheThey and it's amazing. Today it's been featured on The Huffington Post, Look Magazine, Plus Size Model Magazine, The Daily Telegraph and so many other places. So much positivity and I am in love with everyone who supports it.


As if on cue Lady V London have bought out a brand new range of dresses under their Lady Voluptuous umbrella. If you are new to my blog then have a read through old Lady V London blog posts - I have shouted my love for them from the rooftops many times!


The new dress is called Phoebe and she is beautiful!

The reason I wanted to rush out a blog post about them is because as a collective Lady V London stock dresses from a size 8 right up to a size 32. There are a few retailers that stock a fantastic range of sizes but a brand that stocks size 8 to 32 is literally amazing to me.


Over the last few days we have seen the #WeAreTheThey take off as living proof that we do need something like this. It is proof that as women we need clothing ranges that suit us and that small sizes, big sizes and everything in between.

Personally I think I need the flamingo dress in my life, but they're all beautiful - There are also new versions of the Cossette dress!





#WeAreTheThey and we need fashion just as much as anyone else! 

Lady V London you did good!

Debz xx

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Thursday, 23 April 2015

Why We Need 'We Are The They' #Wearethethey

Yesterday I wrote a post putting a face to the people bullies refer to when they say 'they should feel ashamed. I clicked post and suddenly the world went BOOM! A few hours later #WeAreTheThey was the 2nd most talked about topic on Twitter. People from all over were posting their photos and words of support. Men and women of all shapes and sizes embraced the hashtag and it literally made my heart want to burst with joy seeing so many people standing together against bullies. 


I don't even mean just Jamelia any more, it has become so much more than that. Now we stand together as a team against those who bully others because of the way they look.

And then, well today - WOW! The campaign has been mentioned on different radio stations thanks to some amazing bloggers for spreading the word. It has been mentioned in The Daily Mail, The Mirror, The Metro and Look Magazine. There are too many blog posts for me to even keep up with reading and we trended again today.



I am so proud of everyone who has shared photos and words of love. Who have battled the trolls who took glee from writing negativity in our hashtag and even an article where we were compared to animals being fattened to slaughter - awful.

But as much as those people fought to bring us down  - they didn't. 


We as a collective team rose above it and we trended and we caused a ripple in the media and THAT is why we need campaigns like this.

The truth is that there will always be bullies and there will always be people who want to bring us down. They'll always talk about the way others look and make claims about what they deserve just because of the size of their bodies. I would love a world where these people do not exist but we're a long way off of that. So for now, we need to stand together and create a force to be reckoned with and a support work.

The biggest power we have is showing others that they are not alone. The more people we can show that loving their body is not a sin the better and that is why the success of #WeAreTheThey has literally filled my heart with joy.


#WeAreTheThey and we are not ashamed. 

You all amaze me. Thank you x

Debz xx


If you feel the same as me then please share this post on ANY social media you can. Let's spread the word. If you're below a size 6 or above a size 20 then tweet and Instagram your photos. Let's put even more faces to the people Jamelia feels should be made to feel uncomfortable. 

Use the hashtag on any posts so I can see you all!!

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Wednesday, 22 April 2015

Jamelia - We Are The 'They' #Wearethethey

Unless you have been living under a rock for the last few days, you will have heard about Jamelias comments regarding clothes shopping on the high street. I blogged about it here.

Today she has 'apologised'. Reassuring us that she only meant 'extremes' in sizes and that she feels the high street should stock sizes 6 to 20... It really is quite laughable. 


I feel that by saying 'they' should shop in specialist shops and 'they' should be made to feel uncomfortable it is all very anonymous. It is easy to say that a bunch of blank faces (and bodies) should be treated a certain way, but what Jamelia (and anyone who agrees with her) needs to realise is that WE are real people. We have REAL feelings, REAL jobs, friends and families. When you say that people should make 'them' feel uncomfortable you are encouraging them to treat US differently.. US as in real people.



So, Jamelia and anyone who feels that 'they' should be made to feel uncomfortable...


WE ARE THE 'THEY'






Sam // Lisa // Kate // Daisy




Lindsey // Kerry // Charlene //  April //


Zoe // Michaela // Lucia

Susan // Lisa

Dawn // Lauren // Alyssa // Janet 


Katie // Cat // Rebecca // Vicky

Sharon // Katt // Joanne Sian


Elaine // Hayley // Sue

Shereen // Kerry-Ann // Tammy 


Nikki // Claire // Fig // Leah

It is worth pointing out these these women are bloggers and non bloggers, wives, girlfriends, sisters, mothers, cousins, friends, white, black, tall, short, large, extra large, casual dressers, vintage dressers, tea drinkers, bike riders, gym goers, couch potatoes..... and above all else the women that Jamelia feels should be MADE TO FEEL ASHAMED just for buying clothes to go on their back.

If you feel the same as me then please share this post on ANY social media you can. Let's spread the word. If you're below a size 6 or above a size 20 then tweet and Instagram your photos. Let's put even more faces to the people Jamelia feels should be made to feel uncomfortable. 

#WeAreTheThey and we are not ashamed.

Use the hashtag on any posts so I can see you all!!

Debz xx


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Tuesday, 21 April 2015

Dear Jamelia #Wearethethey

Dear Jamelia...

I don't know if you realise it, but there have been fat women around for very many years. As a 32 year old woman, I grew up as a chubby child and a fat teenager. Even those older than me, very many generations before me have been fat. You may or may not agree that fat people are healthy and you may assume that this 'epidemic' needs to be cured, but surely you have to agree that fat people are just that, people.



Let me assure you that I have been fat for a very long time - for almost as long as I can remember. Long before there were plus-size fashion blogs to read and long, long before there were options outside of Evans when it came to clothes to wear on my body. This lack of inspiration and clothing options did not make we want to be thin. Instead, it made me a fat girl stuck in a body wearing clothes that did not make my heart sing or my mind happy.


It saddens me that someone in your inspirational position could almost pray for someone's unhappiness. The fact that you WANT someone to feel uncomfortable whilst they are clothes shopping sickens me. If you think that the fact someone wears clothing a couple of sizes 'too big' makes them the right kind of victim to shame and bully then your position as a TV presenter makes me sad. You speak to a nation of people every lunch time and you have the power to do such good. Today you choose to tell people that fat people should be made to feel uncomfortable when they are clothes shopping - what type of person does that?

I understand if you do not want to be fat. I even understand if you are baffled by my weight and how I could possibly be happy in the skin I am in. I even get that you could feel as though something should be done about the health of our nation. What I do not understand is the call to arms to ask fashion retailers to shame us. If you feel that as a fat woman denying me the right to go shopping on the high street with my friends is going to make me thin you are mistaken. All it does is make me a fat, unhappy person rather than one that is happy and strives for better. As a fat women I work hard and I need clothes to wear to work - if you feel that I should be SHAMED when I walk into a store to buy them then I feel you must be a very narrow-minded individual. Why should I be made to feel uncomfortable when I go out to stores to spend my hard earned money on clothing for my body?


I saw on Twitter that you have been supporting the #SelfieEsteem campaign put on by Good Morning Britain. This is all about teaching people to love their reflection and what they see when they take a photo. 4 days later you are saying that fat people should be made to feel ashamed when they shop for clothes - how exactly do you think that is going to affect peoples self esteem? You can't pretend to battle the issue of negative self esteem whilst you are one of the people who are part of the problem!

I hope that you look back on what you said and realise that the notions you are asking for are misguided. I promise you that fat people have been around for far longer than plus size fashion stores. I also promise you that throughout years of body shaming and fat bullying our nation is still overweight. Perhaps it is time to take a different approach? You are a strong, independent woman and I hope one day you find the power to bring up other women (no matter their dress size) rather than bring them down.

Debz xx


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Thursday, 16 April 2015

Checker Board Chic: A Topsy Curvy Review

A couple of days ago I blogged about a lovely blazer from Topsy Curvy. Now I bring to you another item that they also stock up to a size 32. As you know I have waxed lyrical about the size range that Topsy Curvy offer - for a small independent brand, they do plus size fashion SO well!



I really love this checked top from Topsy Curvy (that they sell in a number of colours by the way). The length of it means that you don't have to worry about it riding up and you having a gap between the top of your trousers/skirt and your top.



It's a thick, waffle like material - though there is probably a better way to describe it! It's a really nice item to wear and I think could be styled in lots of ways. I wore it with jeans the other day, although I failed to snap any pics (bad blogger).




Topsy Curvy are getting some really nice items in, right up to a size 32. Head over their website and have a browse. What do you have your eyes on?

Debz xx


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Wednesday, 15 April 2015

#KeepThePlus - It Helps Not Hinders

Good Evening!

Over recent weeks you may have seen different discussions on social media and blog posts about 'Drop The Plus'. It is a campaign that is all about dropping the term plus size , mostly in the modelling industry. However it has grown and now people are campaigning to Drop The Plus everywhere, which gets a big FAT no from me!

Growing up in a larger body (and probably a smaller one) is not easy. I have nearly always loved by body, or at the very least liked it. There have been times when I have embraced it but not often I have hated it but I know I am a rare breed. The truth is that we're surrounded by mainstream media and subliminal messages that tell us we're wrong if we're overweight. 

So, How can I love my body when so many people are telling me that I shouldn't? Quite simply, the term 'Plus Size'.


Just look at all the different shapes, sizes and styles you get just by searching on Google for 'plus size blogger'. Sorry I can't credit everyone but you all look FAB!

For starters it has allowed me since the age of 14 to look up influences that I want to see, not what the media thinks I should see. Yes as a teenager it can be scary looking up (On Ask Jeeves of all places #Old) the word plus size, but let's face it there is so much in our teenager years that is scary so this is kind of small in the grand scheme of things. Even back then searching plus size fashion online bought up a number of influences, Google the term now and you're literally bombarded with images! 

As a teenager and even as a grown up, helping our bodies to feel normal is one of the best ways to encourage us to love the skin we're in. When you feel like you're the only fat girl in the world, it can be a lonely place. Google plus size bloggers and you get to see that there are hundreds of girls exactly like YOU who are rocking it every single day! Surrounding yourself by this media helps you to feel much more at ease with your body, trust me it works.

And then there is the topic of clothes shopping! I dream of a day when I can walk into a clothing shop, pick out any item and know that they stock it in my size however we all know that is a reality that is far from the truth. So, rather than wander into shops and browse websites and guess (usually with disappointing results) whether they sell items for me I can look for plus size retailers and know that I am far more likely to get positive results. Yes, perhaps one day we'll live in a world where we don't have plus size retailers and instead every shop will stock clothes for everyone, but honestly I think we're a long, long way off of that!!


The only time I can see it would be OK to drop the plus is when we don't need it any more. When catwalks embrace every size and shops stock all size ranges then we won't need it and it can be dropped... but whether we'll see that any time soon who knows... One can only hope!

Rather than getting rid of the term plus size completely, I think we need to take away the power it holds over some people. The truth is that being plus size is COMPLETELY OK! You don't have to feel sad if you're classed as plus size, it's just a label and doesn't have any baring on your life, your good qualities etc. I believe that rather than worrying about whether we should be calling people plus size or not, we should be putting our efforts into teaching girls to love their bodies and embrace their size (whatever that happens to be). Once you love the skin you're in, the label that people put on it is harmless!

So, those are my opinions on the DropThePlus Campaign... but what do you think? Do you embrace the term plus size or think it should be eradicated?

I put the feelers out for some positive thoughts on plus size and here is what people had to say!

Nikki from Natty Nikki "I think we should keep it! I call myself a plus size blogger because that is what I am. When I search for clothes online I look for plus size options in google to find the clothes in my size. I have no problem with the term to me it is the same as using petite or tall in clothing sections."

Filipa "I think it should be kept for multiple reasons, I don't see it as a bad or offensive thing. How else would we find the shops that carry our sizes?"

Leah from Just Me Leah "I think we should keep it. I can see why 'plus size' models don't want to be called plus, because they're not, but we all know a size 12 IS plus size in the modelling world. But for the women who ARE plus size and identify as being so, what else should we call ourselves? For instance I call myself plus size because it's a descriptor. I'm happy to refer to myself as fat in most areas of my life but many people aren't on the same journey as me and get upset by the word, so plus size is a judgement free term for me"

Becky S "Plus size helps me find clothes that fit! I don't view it as an insult - it's a description of the clothes I wear"

Kat from A Curvy Cupcake  I'm all for #keeptheplus. Its just a search term at the end of the day. The people who want to drop it are the same people who would be up in arms if plus size stores like Evans, Yours etc were called "fat shops" or something. So what do we call plus size ranges? Because we all know size inclusivity is a looong way away so you can't just not categorize. It'd be too hard to find anything!"

You can also listen to Georgina from Fuller Figure Fuller Bust talking about the topic here.

This blog post is also worth a read.


So... what do you think?

Debz xx


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Monday, 13 April 2015

My Plus Size International Wish List

I don't know about you, but I have a bit of an internet window shopping problem. I can spend hours opening tabs and browsing websites looking at items I would love to buy. Of course often budget is an issue but also I have a bad of habit of looking at international websites. 

I know that I can shop internationally, and I often do! However sometimes the cost of shipping, possible customs charges etc. puts  me off. It seems that many bloggers feel the same so we decided to do an International Wish List. 

If you want to see what other bloggers are lusting over be sure to check the list of bloggers taking part at the end of the post.

Torrid

One of the nicest things about the Torrid website I think is their Disney selection. I love Disney (who doesn't?) and some of their dresses and other clothing items are really lovely! Items I like from Torrid (Disney and otherwise) include:




I love that they have a range of unique and quirky items for sale.


Chubby Cartwheels

I have blogged about them before, I probably will again! One day I will shop with them and get my hands on their items!



eShakti


Unfortunately these don't ship to the UK but I know lots of people would be happy if they did!



Of course, there are hundreds more dresses to choose from out there, but for today these are some of my favourites

Debz xx

Don't forget to check out the other ladies taking part in the challenge!

Katt - www.acurvycupcake.com
Kelly - http://www.adventuresofariotgrrrl.com
Steph - http://www.seeingspots.co.uk/
Kim - http://www.callmekim.net/
Sharon - http://www.bigfatbetty.com
Sarah - www.plussizeproud.co.uk
Victoria -
TheCurvedOpinion.com
Becky - http://www.doesmyblogmakemelookfat.com/
Leah - http://www.justmeleah.co.uk/
Nikki - www.nattynikki.com
Vicky - http://therandomnessoftwee.blogspot.co.uk/
Charli - http://curvygirlthin.blogspot.co.uk
Mookie - http://www.mookieslife.com
Filipa - http://uniquelyfilipa.blogspot.pt/



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Sunday, 12 April 2015

Scarlett & Jo: Revisited

I have blogged about Scarlett & Jo before and to be honest, I have no doubt that I will blog about them again. Scarlett & Jo are a brand that sell exclusively at Evans. One of the things I love most about the range is that ALL of their items go up to a size 32. They don't pick and choose what they think different customers of different sizes want - instead everything is available in all the sizes - such a revelation!



Over recent months they have bought some some beautiful dresses and skirts. They have definitely found a look that works for them - and it's safe to say, I am a fan! They're also big supporters of the blogging industry which is really nice to see.


A couple of weeks ago they sent me this beautiful dress which are far as I can see is not on the website yet. I wore it quite casual just out for dinner but it definitely has potential to be styled up and worn with more glamour.



As usual with Scarlet & Jo items, it's a fantastic fit and really high quality. Whenever I get items from this range I am always pleased with the look and feel of the material of the items - they never disappoint!


Head over to the Scarlett & Jo website today and have a look at their range. What do you have your eyes on?

Debz xx

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Friday, 10 April 2015

I Love It When A Retailer Listens - Topsy Curvy Fashion

I bloody love the ladies at Topsy Curvy and have been lucky enough to meet and hang out with them a couple of times. One of the things that absolutely shines through about this independent brand is their passion for plus size fashion. I have chatted to them many times about the plus size clothing industry and what I would love to see.

Over recent months I have seen more and more Topsy Curvy items go up to a size 32 which is fantastic. Originally many of their items stopped at a size 26, which while that is great for a small retailer like this I always told them that I would love to see more and bless them they listened.

Currently in my wardrobe I have some jeans from them that fit my body amazingly (review coming soon), a checked top and this lilac coloured blazer.



They have both the checked tops and the pastel blazers up to a size 32 in a variety of colours - YAY for choice! Both of the items fit me well and feel really nice to the touch. They're really good quality and for the price tag I feel well worth the investment. We all need fast, affordable fashion choices and now thanks to Topsy Curvy a size 32 body is getting those same choices!  I will review the top soon!!!

But now, onto the blazer! The fact that they do it in a size 32 and in different colours is great. I found it a bit too small to meet in the middle at the front but to be honest I would always wear a blazer like this open. It's a nice feeling material, quite lightweight which is perfect for summer. I love the pastel colour of the blazer too, which seems to be exactly what my Spring wardrobe needs




I know that the ladies have much more up their sleeve when it comes to fashion so it is well worth keeping an eye on their website to see what they add. A really nice touch is their Facebook page too. They usually post photos of their items up with at least 3 (sometimes 4) girls wearing the same item and doing the same pose. This is a fantastic way of giving customers an insight into how the item will look on a body the same/similar shape and size as them and this really helps. Just another way that Topsy Curvy have listened to their customers and attempted to make the minefield that clothes shopping can sometimes be that much easier.



I love the blazer and I can't wait to see what else I can wear it with! Dress is ASOS Curve, bag is New Look and shoes are Primark.

Debz 


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Dress To Impress

Dress to Impress and make a Statement in the Process
There is an old saying that tells us you only ever get one chance to make a first impression, and this is particularly true when you enter the dating market. Getting to know someone online is all part of the dance these days, and that’s a good thing for both sides, but when the first actual meeting takes place it’s cards on the table time.
Even those people who have been meeting guys and girls for a number of years will still get those all too familiar butterflies as the big moment approaches. This is the time when the waiting is finally over. You may have charmed someone on the web for a number of weeks, but how will you continue that momentum in person?
You will hear plenty of advice about being yourself, acting naturally and not trying too hard, but it may not be easy to remember all of this in the heat of the moment. Just before that meeting, be sure to take a deep breath and to think – and talk – slowly. If you are anxious, you may start babbling like a nervy chatterbox, and that won’t help.
Concentrate more on what you say than how you look
Unless your date is a particularly shallow person, he or she will be more impressed by the things you say than the way you look, but of course your appearance will still have a bearing on the success of the meeting. That’s why it’s vital to remember to dress for the occasion and the venue. Remember this when you’re picking an outfit.
Sometimes it doesn’t help if you look too perfect. Your date is looking to meet a person, not a china doll, so make an effort but don’t get overly obsessed about it. Using a high quality skin product like Proactiv is a good idea, because a top class complexion will always get you noticed. Take care to look good but natural as well.
It doesn’t matter if you are a total novice or someone who goes on dates all the time, you need to work at it from the start. The web has made things easier for us in many ways, of course, but it may perhaps have taken a little of the wow factor away from a first date. The benefits are greater than the drawbacks, however.

It may not be possible to always make the perfect impression, but there are of course times when everything seems to go just right. The dating scene in the UK is much the same as it is anywhere else, so good advice applies no matter where you live. The most important thing is to have fun, so go and enjoy it!
What top tips would you like to share for looking and feeling amazing?
Debz xx
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Friday, 3 April 2015

I made Yogurt!

I know, random blog post title and to be honest with you random topic!

A few weeks ago on Twitter Hobbycraft reached out to see if anyone would like to try one of their yogurt maker kits. Personally I think yogurt is perfect for summer so I jumped at the chance. Always up for a challenge and all that!

They sent me the Easiyo Starter Kit and I love it!



The kit itself came in a couple of days and I was really impressed. I haven't ever done anything like this before so I had to no idea what to expect. It came in a large, bright box and had everything I needed to get started.

I don't want to include too many photos simply because I don't want to spoil the suprise. For me, opening the box, seeing what was inside and getting stuck in was half the fun! However what you consider that the pack contains.... you can see that there is a lot of fun to be had!

Once I made the yogurt I wanted to experiment with how to eat it. I did some with a bit of extra sweetener in and it was lovely and sweet (obviously). Eaten with jelly and fruit was also delicious. The yogurt came out quite thick which is perfect for me, but I can imagine that you could do something different to make it runnier if you wanted.




I actually had no idea that you could even make your own yogurt at home so it was a real eye opener for me  - a fun one though!

The cookbook that is included in the kit has 64pages of recipes - who knew yogurt could be so inventive? There are dessert recipes of course but also meal ideas such as yogurt crumb chicken barbecue steak with plum sauce, which sound delicious and are next on my list to try!

Have you ever tried making something like this? How did it turn out?


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