When it comes to being confident, there
isn't really a right or wrong way to get there. For most people it is a long
journey, where things become easier and harder as they go along. Sometimes it
can be a case of faking it until you make it, it all depends on you.
One of the things to remember is that it is
an individual journey. What someone else tells you has worked for them may not
work for you. So take things slow, work out what feels good for you and then go
Social media is a great way of seeking out
new inspiration. Mainstream media tends to bombard us with lots of people who
look really similar, which can be disheartening when it comes to yourself. I
made a conscious decision a few years ago to follow lots of different bodies.
This gives me a constant reminder that all types of people exist and that just
because I don't look like people on TV or in magazines, doesn't mean that my
body is wrong.
There are different ways to get educated. I
chose to look up lots about body positivity, fat politics etc. when I wanted to
learn more. This has given me strength to stand up to people who may not have
the same opinions as me. You might choose to sign up to somewhere like Tavistock
Tutors to learn a new skill or refresh your memory in a qualification,
Whatever you choose, learning more about a subject can be a great way to build
your mental strength and confidence.
Getting Through Each Day
There are lots of little ways that you can
help yourself feel more confident throughout the day. I find that being
organised and knowing what I am up to during the day helps as it means that I
feel less frazzled and anxious. If I am going anywhere on my own I always wear
headphones and blast out some of my favourite tunes and I always make sure I
wear comfortable shoes.
To be honest there is no ABC guide that I
can write to help you become more confident. Just remind yourself that you are
worthy and that your worth is not based on how you look. Wear clothes that you
like and are comfortable, not what you feel other people should see you in.
Follow a range of social media accounts and read lots about subjects that interest
you. It can be a hard journey but it’s definitely worth it!
What confidence building tips would you
like to share?