I don't really want to talk about how tough lockdown is, because I know you can read about that anywhere. We're all living it so we already know what that is like! Instead, I have been giving some thought to how to meet new people.
I moved to Hampshire nearly a year ago now - can you believe it? Although I didn't sign up to The Birmingham Dating Site, I definitely was a girl living in Birmingham using online dating. It's bought me a very happy relationship so how can I not recommend it?
One of the things I found when using online dating is that lots of people were in a rush to meet. They wanted to chat one day and invite you to their house the next day. Now, there is nothing wrong with this if both parties are happy but personally I wanted something a bit slower paced. If there is a benefit to online dating during lockdown it is that everyone has to move at the same pace, and that can online be a good thing!
Getting To Know Someone
Of course, not everyone is home all day, every day currently as many people have to go out to work etc. still. However, this is a great time to get to know people online. There is no pressure to meet because no one can go out dating, so you can take your time and get to know people slowly. Sign up to something such as The Belfast Dating Site (there will be ones local to you) and see who is local and fancies a chat.
Another bonus is that this can be a great distraction. If you are someone that is at home for most of lockdown then finding new ways to spend your time is probably something you’re keen on. Chatting to new people, finding out about their interests and talking about things different to what you would usually do is a great distraction. This is especially true if you meet someone that you get on with and spend a few hours a day chatting – such fun!
Chat, Video & More
One of the things I have learned during these unusual times is how many different ways there are to communicate online. You can video chat, set up quizzes for each other and even watch the same event online if you wish. I know that none of this is a real substitute for the real thing but it is a fantastic and novel way of getting to know someone before you take the plunge to meet them.
It is important to know that there is no right or wrong with all of this. If you’re single don’t feel pressured into talking to lots of people or spending lots of time. The best thing to do is go at your own pace and what you feel comfortable with, as this will mean you enjoy it more!
What tips do you have for people who want to online date?