Tuesday, 21 April 2020

Meeting New People in Lockdown

I don't really want to talk about how tough lockdown is, because I know you can read about that anywhere. We're all living it so we already know what that is like! Instead, I have been giving some thought to how to meet new people.

I moved to Hampshire nearly a year ago now - can you believe it? Although I didn't sign up to The Birmingham Dating Site, I definitely was a girl living in Birmingham using online dating. It's bought me a very happy relationship so how can I not recommend it?

One of the things I found when using online dating is that lots of people were in a rush to meet. They wanted to chat one day and invite you to their house the next day. Now, there is nothing wrong with this if both parties are happy but personally I wanted something a bit slower paced. If there is a benefit to online dating during lockdown it is that everyone has to move at the same pace, and that can online be a good thing!

Getting To Know Someone

Of course, not everyone is home all day, every day currently as many people have to go out to work etc. still. However, this is a great time to get to know people online. There is no pressure to meet because no one can go out dating, so you can take your time and get to know people slowly. Sign up to something such as The Belfast Dating Site (there will be ones local to you) and see who is local and fancies a chat.

Another bonus is that this can be a great distraction. If you are someone that is at home for most of lockdown then finding new ways to spend your time is probably something you’re keen on. Chatting to new people, finding out about their interests and talking about things different to what you would usually do is a great distraction. This is especially true if you meet someone that you get on with and spend a few hours a day chatting – such fun!

Chat, Video & More

One of the things I have learned during these unusual times is how many different ways there are to communicate online. You can video chat, set up quizzes for each other and even watch the same event online if you wish. I know that none of this is a real substitute for the real thing but it is a fantastic and novel way of getting to know someone before you take the plunge to meet them.

It is important to know that there is no right or wrong with all of this. If you’re single don’t feel pressured into talking to lots of people or spending lots of time. The best thing to do is go at your own pace and what you feel comfortable with, as this will mean you enjoy it more!

What tips do you have for people who want to online date?


*Collaborative post

1 comment:

  1. I was hoping this post was about meeting new people, as in friends, but it's only regarding dating. As someone who is in 'permanent lockdown' as I call it now, I hoped it might link to places to meet others with the intent of friendship, not looking for sex/ a partner.

    I've lived in the UK 8 years now, and still have just 1 friend - my partner, who I live with...and whom I have absolutely zero in common with. You might think about changing the header to 'how to meet potential partners in lockdown'. Or even better, create a post on how to meet new people but not because you're solely looking for a relationship.

    It's so far proven impossible for me to make friends, what with only getting out a handful of times each year, quarantine or not. Even when I do go out, I can't seem to make friends because I'm not British or English, am in my 40s, and don't click with British people - perhaps because for the most part, they seem to make friends at school or work, and keep those friends forever so never want, nor need to make new ones.

    I'm from another place, far far away, where people tend to make new friends throughout their life. We change consistently throughout our lives, and the people I was friends with in my late teens to early 20s, I would have next to nothing in common with now. Back home people are more aware or in tune with this, so enjoy the oppurtunity to make new friends in their 30s, 40s and beyond. This doesn't seem to be the case in the UK - my partner met all his friends by his mid-20s and even though he's lived in another region these last 3 years hasn't made any, even though he tends to go out a couple times a week.

    If you have any pointers on how to make friends with British ppl, who are solely looking for friends and not romantic partners, I'd gladly takeany and all advice.