Showing posts with label Body Positivity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Body Positivity. Show all posts

Friday, 11 July 2014

How On Earth Do Your Love Yourself?

This week a post on the Fuller Figure Fuller Bust Facebook page got me thinking again! With the likes of Linda Kelsey and Katie Hopkins fighting in the opposite corner to us, how is it really possible to love ourselves? I know that body image troubles come in all shapes and sizes and that you don't have to be fat to have doubts about your self worth, but sometimes it seems the media is particularly against those that are overweight.

A post on Georgina's Facebook page was a question from a reader of hers asking about confidence and how to get more of it!


For me, a massive part of the journey to loving my body has been surrounding myself with a new type of media. Every day we are surrounded by media that tells us that our hair should be a different colour, we should be dressed in a different way and that our clothes should have a small size label attached to them. If our bodies dont meet those standards then the media bombards us with hints and tips on who to style ourselves on and how to get a bikini body! It's tough to fight against all of that, when that is all we see!


A few years ago I discovered a whole new world of media that is helpful and brings us up rather than drags us down. Now I regularly discover new articles, poetry, books, journalists, photos and more that work towards helping people love their bodies!


I thought I would share some of my favourites here, so feel free to have a read!


This post by Natasha Devon about health vs weight makes a fantastic read.

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/natasha-devon/body-image-and-health_b_5573580.html

And this video by Meghan Trainor is a fun(not to be taken too seriously) look at loving your body if it is larger.




Twitter and Tumblr are full of quotes like the below, just search for tags like #Bodyimage to find them

Browse Instagram to see what people like Tess Munster, Honor Curves and many more have to say! Their pages are often full of positive words and pictures, so well worth checking out. Inclduing hashtags such as #EffYourBeautyStandards and #HonorMyCurves

Samatha Peterson has some fantastic things to say here http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/06/03/samantha-peterson-slam-poetry_n_5438474.html

Artists like Carol Rossetti have some amazing, body-positive pieces of art like the one below




And there are hundreds more like them! I try to share any that I come across on my Facebook page, so feel free to come and give me a like if you want to see more. In general the media doesn't tell us anything positive, instead they want us to buy into not being good enough. Take responsibility and surround yourself with a much better, more positive media - you'll notice the difference, I promise!


Do you know any body positive influencers? Share them with me!!


Debz xx


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Thursday, 22 May 2014

Loving Your 'After' Photo...

I know I have blogged already today, but I have to share this with you!

Every so often one of my friends sends me a link to something they think I would be interested in. All of my friends know that I strive for body positivity and spreading the word of self love and they send me links and articles that they know I'll find interesting, or enraging!

Someone pointed me in the direction of this article last night and WOW I am glad they did. https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/embrace/embrace-the-documentary-that-will-create-global-ch

I watched the video with a mix of emotions because I know that it is something many people can relate to.  The loving your body after going through some big changes, the pressure to change your body if you don't meet media standards and the surprise of people when you tell them that you love yourself despite your 'flaws'.

The page linked above is a Kickstart project to fund a film on a 'Love Your Body' project. I am simply spreading the word because I think all of the positivity in the short video on the page and the letter below is amazing, not to try and raise funds although that would of course be amazing.

"Women and girls are constantly held back and lead to believe they’re not as good as they should be. Why? Because every day we feel we’re being judged on our appearance and how far away it is from an unachievable ideal."



Taryn Brumfitt had the idea for the documentary after posting this photo of herself online. She posted it and was surprised when it went viral (3.6 million hits very quickly after it posted), simply because she was proclaiming to love her body in the AFTER photo of this picture... People claimed she was brave but many also claimed that it wasn't possible. How could someone who was a body-builder with the perfect body actually love themselves after they have put on a little weight? Impossible, surely!?

She is making a documentary around her "The Body Image Movement" which is teaching women to love their bodies. She wants to make a life-changing documentary on body image, create change on how people feel about their bodies and the way people re-act to someone else's body.

The video in the page above is well worth watching so take 5 minutes out of your day to give it a click! Did you like it? Spread the word!




The world that you have contributed to the documentary by using the hashtag #ihaveembraced. Once you have made your contribution please take a photo of yourself with the hashtag #ihaveembraced and use social media to spread the message.

I'd love to know what you think

Debz xx

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Tuesday, 18 March 2014

YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH!!

If you follow me on any social media sites then you'll know that scrawling words of body positivity on my body is nothing all that new. Just last week I had this lovely little number tattoo'd on me - and I love it!



Of course not all body-scrawling has to be quite so permanent as I found out when I stumbled across the http://smileandspreadtheword.tumblr.com/ page. I spent ages going through pages of photos of people, who were spreading such a positive message - and I loved it! Anything that spreads positivity especially when it comes to confidence, self belief and body image is a good thing in my book and this campaign was no exception.

So - I wanted to get the plus size community involved and put a call out on Twitter. If you check the #PSBYouAreGoodEnough tag on Twitter you'll be able to see everyone sharing their pictures and talking about what they love on their body - it makes you feel all warm and mushy inside!




Unfortunately this week has been crazy busy for me as I am moving a couple of days and having to get packing - what a bloody nightmare! Anyway it;s now nearly midnight and I have snapped a few pics for you - no make up, blotchy skin, tired eyes and hair that could do with a brush... I nearly didn't post them and thought I would just post in the morning when I had a chance to do some "nice" pictures then I realised the whole point of the campaign - YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH




And whatever I am wearing, however I look. I am good enough! Over recent years I have learnt to love all of my body and I have never felt more confident in my skin.

Please take some time to read the other ladies who have taken part - it's honestly a real pleasure to read them!


YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH!!


Debz xx

Other ladies taking part are:

Debz - www.wannabeprincess.co.uk
Kitty Kaos - http://misskittykaos.blogspot.co.uk/
Hannah - www.fabulouslyfatfashion.com
Lucia - www.ucantwearthat.com
Sarah - www.plussizeproud.wordpress.com
Michaela - www.cardifforniagurl.blogspot.com
Kathryn - www.misskathrynsmisstakes.co.uk
Steph - http://www.seeingspots.co.uk/
Katt - www.acurvycupcake.blogspot.com
Sally - www.thehumanmannequin.co.uk
Nikki - http://www.nattynikki.com
Vicky - http://therandomnessoftwee.blogspot.co.uk/
Mayah - http://beautyfulyouniverse.blogspot.co.uk
Vicky - Www.thecurvedopinion.com



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Tuesday, 19 November 2013

Taking Body Positive Influences From All Over

Evening :)

If you have read my blog before then you will have seen that I love finding positive body image sources from all over. I have linked to different people before and I think it's important to surround yourself with positive stuff, where possible. I am not saying it's a miracle cure, but I am very happy and content in the skin I am in - and for years I have sought out, collected, watched and shared positive images, videos and sayings... I guess the two are related!

Anyway, when I find pieces that I like, I want to share them because I think its important for people to have places they can stumble across little rays of sunshine when they didn't expect it - so here you go!



Carrie Hope Fletcher

The little sister of Tom McFly has had a YouTube channel for a while now. I don't pretend to know lots of facts about her but I do love her singing voice! Anyway, last week she released this video of her talking about body image, her own body and how she feels about confidence etc. I really enjoyed watching it and I hope you will too! :)



Hollie McNish

I have blogged about Hollie before and my love of her poems. This week I was reminded of her words when I found out that some of her poetry was being used for Dove adverts. 

My favourite of hers is a poem called "WOW"


One of her Dove advert ones can be seen/heard here:




I love all of these pieces - and a couple more by Hollie McNish. As ever I love Mary Lambert, Natasha Devon and so many other people!

Surrounding myself with positive influences like this really helps me to be happy with who I am... 

What do you do to help yourself with body confidence? Do you find people influential to the way you feel about your body?

I'd love to know your thoughts!

Debz 

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Friday, 25 October 2013

You Are More Beautiful Than You Think

Discovered this on twitter tonight. I loved it! The world sees you very differently than you see yourself... You are beautiful, love yourself always!! 


Thursday, 18 July 2013

Where Can I Buy Confidence?

Some of you may have seen that I was quoted in The DailyTelegraphs Wonder Woman section last week...

“Debz, 30, is an internet marketer, who also runs a plus size fashion blog Wannabe Princess. She knows Miranda through Twitter (there’s definitely a scene) and loves Club Indulge, although she says her size doesn’t put her off going to mainstream nights.

“I’d go anywhere, I don’t really care, but we all come along to this together, so it’s a good opportunity to see people.” Although she admits: “If I can’t fit past someone here, I’ll tell them to move, whereas in a normal club I’d feel like I had to squeeze past or go the long way round.””

Apart from learning that I probably shouldn't talk to journalists when I am drunk, I was glad to have a link to my blog & some new visitors - Hiiii!

Anyway, I guess write-ups like this lead to 'normal' people discovering blogs and BBW websites etc. because it is something that they wouldn't usually Google to find.

I had a lovely email from a lady the day after the article and it made me realise that the blogs that we all write (And I don't mean this in a big myself up way - I mean it generically across the board) are doing some good!

" I stumbled accross your site through an article in a paper about BBW night clubs. I was so happy to see this, you look so confident and your clothes are fab.... I feel that in my life long quest to be thin I have wasted so much time on being unhappy being fat. I have so much more confidence now as I used to feel succesful when im thin and unsuccessful when im fat! I am learning to accept me as a big person, not easy though, any tips please, I love your style and confidence. xx"

I wrote back to the lovely lady (Hello if you are reading this) but it made me think, how exactly do you 'get' confidence?

This has been saved on my computer for years, I do not know the original source - sorry!


A few years back one of the biggest things for me was realising that many people suffer with the same body image issues - whether they're 'justified' or not. I started to post body positivity quotes that I liked on my Facebook and I was surprised at the number of friends that related to what I was saying. I always thought my thin, beautiful friends would never understand how I felt but actually in this image-conscious world we are all fighting the same battle.

What was also a big step for me was realising that if people wanted to pick on something about your image/look/style they will - they'll call you out for wearing glasses, or having the wrong haircut or having the wrong clothes.

This has been saved on my computer for years, I do not know the original source - sorry!


However the truth is that these people don't own me - they don't have any bearing on my life or the good memories I make with the people who do matter. Someone might make a comment in a nightclub or while I am out, but they are the ones who spend their night concentrating on others - I am usually so happy to be out with people I care about that I don't even register other people’s negativity.


I am not saying I am 100% confident - who is!! But what I am saying is that any issues I do have are just that - my own issues. I do not have to let any ill confidences I feel about my body have a negative effect on my life - or even my day. 

Whatever size clothes you wear, you deserve to be happy & have good people in your life, so never let the haters bring you down!

This has been saved on my computer for years, I do not know the original source - sorry!


I hope you're enjoying the sunshine

Debz xx



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Monday, 17 June 2013

Fat Is Not A Feeling


Today I read ‘When Your Mother Says She’s Fat’ an open letter by a lady to Kasey, to her mother. If you haven’t read the letter then please take 2 minutes to read it, it’s inspiring.

The letter covers Kasey’s body image issues, how she feels they stemmed from her mother’s ever-present hatred of her own body and how Kasey does not want those to project onto her 3 year old granddaughter.

In the letter Kasey uses the words ‘fat is not a feeling’ and that is true. All too often we are taught that if we are fat then we should feel sad and uneasy with our body. Eventually this manifests itself into ‘fat  = sad’. Before we know it, if you’re overweight then you must be sad.

The truth is that fat is a body type – it is not a feeling or an emotion.

You cannot ‘feel’ fat.

You can be fat and that being fat can make you feel sad (or happy) but you cannot feel fat.


In the letter Kasey touches on wanting to have a better body image for her daughter in the future and it would be lovely if we could all strive for this. If you are someone that has ever looked in the mirror and hated what is looking back at you, why would you want someone else – the next generation even – to feel the same way that you do.


We are in a time that is lucky to have access to all sorts of media which looks at body image in a positive light, but it is not enough... All too often we read tweets about a celebrity that has gotten too thin or someone that has put on a few pounds and is now too fat. I know that we’ll always live in a world where we look other people’s body types, but I would love to live in time when it wasn’t the most important aspect of someone.

In Kaseys letter she describes hearing her mother despair that she was fat, old and ugly. From that very moment, just a young child Kasey linked them together. If you were fat you were ugly. 

It didn’t matter that you could be fat and successful, or fat and happy, or fat and healthy or fat and the queen of your very own world, all she saw was that fat was ugly – and she never wanted to be there. She was just a child who hadn’t even had time to live through the trials and tribulations of high school and she had already been taught that if she ever made the ‘mistake’ of being overweight.

Instead of talking about body hate in front of our children, or even our friends let’s try and think about what we do like about our bodies... Trust me, you can be fat and happy with your body it just sometimes takes a little practice and a nudge in the right direction.

Be-You-Tiful


Debz xx

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