Showing posts with label Jamelia plus size. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Jamelia plus size. Show all posts

Thursday, 23 April 2015

Why We Need 'We Are The They' #Wearethethey

Yesterday I wrote a post putting a face to the people bullies refer to when they say 'they should feel ashamed. I clicked post and suddenly the world went BOOM! A few hours later #WeAreTheThey was the 2nd most talked about topic on Twitter. People from all over were posting their photos and words of support. Men and women of all shapes and sizes embraced the hashtag and it literally made my heart want to burst with joy seeing so many people standing together against bullies. 


I don't even mean just Jamelia any more, it has become so much more than that. Now we stand together as a team against those who bully others because of the way they look.

And then, well today - WOW! The campaign has been mentioned on different radio stations thanks to some amazing bloggers for spreading the word. It has been mentioned in The Daily Mail, The Mirror, The Metro and Look Magazine. There are too many blog posts for me to even keep up with reading and we trended again today.



I am so proud of everyone who has shared photos and words of love. Who have battled the trolls who took glee from writing negativity in our hashtag and even an article where we were compared to animals being fattened to slaughter - awful.

But as much as those people fought to bring us down  - they didn't. 


We as a collective team rose above it and we trended and we caused a ripple in the media and THAT is why we need campaigns like this.

The truth is that there will always be bullies and there will always be people who want to bring us down. They'll always talk about the way others look and make claims about what they deserve just because of the size of their bodies. I would love a world where these people do not exist but we're a long way off of that. So for now, we need to stand together and create a force to be reckoned with and a support work.

The biggest power we have is showing others that they are not alone. The more people we can show that loving their body is not a sin the better and that is why the success of #WeAreTheThey has literally filled my heart with joy.


#WeAreTheThey and we are not ashamed. 

You all amaze me. Thank you x

Debz xx


If you feel the same as me then please share this post on ANY social media you can. Let's spread the word. If you're below a size 6 or above a size 20 then tweet and Instagram your photos. Let's put even more faces to the people Jamelia feels should be made to feel uncomfortable. 

Use the hashtag on any posts so I can see you all!!

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Tuesday, 21 April 2015

Dear Jamelia #Wearethethey

Dear Jamelia...

I don't know if you realise it, but there have been fat women around for very many years. As a 32 year old woman, I grew up as a chubby child and a fat teenager. Even those older than me, very many generations before me have been fat. You may or may not agree that fat people are healthy and you may assume that this 'epidemic' needs to be cured, but surely you have to agree that fat people are just that, people.



Let me assure you that I have been fat for a very long time - for almost as long as I can remember. Long before there were plus-size fashion blogs to read and long, long before there were options outside of Evans when it came to clothes to wear on my body. This lack of inspiration and clothing options did not make we want to be thin. Instead, it made me a fat girl stuck in a body wearing clothes that did not make my heart sing or my mind happy.


It saddens me that someone in your inspirational position could almost pray for someone's unhappiness. The fact that you WANT someone to feel uncomfortable whilst they are clothes shopping sickens me. If you think that the fact someone wears clothing a couple of sizes 'too big' makes them the right kind of victim to shame and bully then your position as a TV presenter makes me sad. You speak to a nation of people every lunch time and you have the power to do such good. Today you choose to tell people that fat people should be made to feel uncomfortable when they are clothes shopping - what type of person does that?

I understand if you do not want to be fat. I even understand if you are baffled by my weight and how I could possibly be happy in the skin I am in. I even get that you could feel as though something should be done about the health of our nation. What I do not understand is the call to arms to ask fashion retailers to shame us. If you feel that as a fat woman denying me the right to go shopping on the high street with my friends is going to make me thin you are mistaken. All it does is make me a fat, unhappy person rather than one that is happy and strives for better. As a fat women I work hard and I need clothes to wear to work - if you feel that I should be SHAMED when I walk into a store to buy them then I feel you must be a very narrow-minded individual. Why should I be made to feel uncomfortable when I go out to stores to spend my hard earned money on clothing for my body?


I saw on Twitter that you have been supporting the #SelfieEsteem campaign put on by Good Morning Britain. This is all about teaching people to love their reflection and what they see when they take a photo. 4 days later you are saying that fat people should be made to feel ashamed when they shop for clothes - how exactly do you think that is going to affect peoples self esteem? You can't pretend to battle the issue of negative self esteem whilst you are one of the people who are part of the problem!

I hope that you look back on what you said and realise that the notions you are asking for are misguided. I promise you that fat people have been around for far longer than plus size fashion stores. I also promise you that throughout years of body shaming and fat bullying our nation is still overweight. Perhaps it is time to take a different approach? You are a strong, independent woman and I hope one day you find the power to bring up other women (no matter their dress size) rather than bring them down.

Debz xx


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