Showing posts with label Natasha Devon. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Natasha Devon. Show all posts

Thursday, 3 October 2013

The New Power Generation

Over the last few days I have seen a number of different discissions on Twitter and other social media platforms about the 'younger' generation and how we can teach them to love themselves.

I grew up very lucky that I can not remember ever really hating my body, but I know that isnt the case for everyone. I also know that body image issues and hatred don't just happen when they are seemingly justified. The truth is that from every direction we are told how to feel about how bodies, how they should look and what we should be doing to improve them  - so is it any wonder that young girls (and boys) are growing up not knowing how to love and respect their body.

One of the biggest discussions over the last few days is what the government and schools can do to help young people like their body, for me - it isn't rocket science!

The media is full of slim celebrities telling us about their bodies, even in subtle ways! But the likes of Blogger, Twitter, Tumblr and more are full of inspirational women of ALL sizes telling us to stick it to the man! 

Why not show children in schools the tweets, videos, words of wisdom from these people who survive every single day in this big, bad world!

Some of the inspirational people I would love to see shown to school children:

Mary Lambert




I love this poem by Mary Lambert. The I Know Girls (Body Love) poem might be a little hard-hitting but the sentences about body love are fantastic and something every girl should hear! 

And with words like "I am a big girl. A voluptuous, curvy, dress-wearing lesbian. I love my body; it’s the only one I’ll ever have. I eat a lot of greens and work out and drink gin martinis and put M&Ms in my froyo and sometimes I don’t do anything but watch Project Runway. I am allowed to look sexy, feel sexy, and be in love. I am worthy of all of those things, and so are you. Own your good and bad, and all the scary parts that you’ve been covering up because it is yours and no amount of judgement can tell you how to love your body. In the words of Sonya Renee, the body is not an apology. You are magic." which is posted on her Facebook recently she should be used more when it comes to teaching people to love their bodies!

Natasha Devon

I have mentioned Natasha Devon before and I will again! She already does so much for helping young people love their bodies - her company Body Gossip go into schools to talk about confidence and body love! It would be great if more was made of this.


Rachel Wiley

I have blogged about her poem before  - 10 thoughts on being loved by a skinny boy. I love stuff like this and find the words inspirational. I follow her on Twitter and she often tweets out words of wisdom, which young people would most definitely benefit from!

This is just a small, tiny, teeny handful of the women who put themselves out there everyday to help people love their bodies. Online campaigns such as Eff Your Beauty Standards and Honor My Curves are full of everyday women showing their own body love. People such as Tess Munster show that you can love your body and make a career out of it!

Even if schools can't promote these precise people, why not show young people a way of looking up inspirational people online? I am sure there are plenty of people I don't know about (I would love to read about them if you know any!)... but I read a lot of Tumblr and Twitter and everyday I am inspired by something that is posted!

Who are your main inspirations?

Debz xx


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Wednesday, 11 September 2013

Size 16 Mannequins? A Big Fat Yes From Me!

Over recent years there have been rumours and viral photos claiming that stores have/are going to introduce plus size mannequins. Of course when I say plus size, I actually mean a size 16 - which is the UK average, so not very 'plus' at all when you consider it, but that's another argument!

It wasn't until I logged onto Facebook this morning and saw Body Gossips post about Natasha Devon's debate on BBC Ulster Radio yesterday that I realised there is a real chance of it becoming a reality.

You can listen to the debate here: http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b039jmgt (starts from about 1 hour 9 minutes in)

In an interview with the Sunday Times Equalities Minister Jo Swinson has spoken up about her feelings and the need to have size 16 mannequins in stores.

She told The Sunday Times: "The images we see in the world of fashion are all pretty much the same — it’s as if there’s only one way of being beautiful.”


A Facebook image which has gone viral of a store using a plus size mannequin

Evans actually already use size 16 mannequins where as Topshop and Miss Selfridges use size 10. Wallis and Dorothy Perkins seem to fall in the middle with mannequins sized around a 10-12. 

However when you consider that in the past decade the average dress size of a UK female has gone up to a size 16, from a size 12 it is easy to see why size 10 mannequins just don't do the job.

Natasha Devon makes a good point in that it shouldn't just be plus size mannequins that we see in our shops. Instead they should be a range of diverse mannequins to reflect the range of bodies that shop on the UK high street.

When you think about it - why don't we have tall mannequins short ones? Why not have fat and thin mannequins? Big breasted and flat chested? That way, whoever is shopping in the stores has a better chance of seeing what the clothes look like on a mannequin that resembles their body.

If we are spending our hard earned cash on clothes why shouldn't we get a better idea of how they'll look on our frame before we part with our money?

I'd love to know what you think

Debz xx

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Tuesday, 10 September 2013

Clothes To Make You Feel Be-You-Tiful

You might have guessed - I like clothes! More importantly I like wearing clothes that I am in love with. I am passionate about people looking and feeling great in the clothes that they wear... I am happiest when I find a dress I can fall in love with and wear without worrying about what I look like.

Above all else... I love positive body image! I want people to love their amazing bodies - whatever they look like. Whether they're 'media beautiful' or not, people should love the skin that they're in, feel proud of who they are and be happy with everything that they are. The world is an amazing and diverse place, why should the people who live here be any different?

One company that feel the same is Body Gossip. I have blogged about Natasha Devon and the Body Gossip project in general before, truth be told - I probably will again. I love what they stand for and the way that they work (often tirelessly) to promote self confidence and love.

When I discovered that they offered a range of t-shirts to help promote the self love message I was over the moon. The t shirts are amazing and I'd love to own one. Sadly at the moment they only go to a size 22 (to small for me... boooo) but I have asked them and been told this is down to budget than ruling anyone out! You can be sure that if they ever expand their range to large sizes I will be first in line to grab one!

Here are some of my favourite shirts that they have.





You can get yours from www.bodygossipshop.com

Which one would you buy?


Debz xx

Of course my love for the Be-You-Tiful t-shirt has nothing to do with the fact it matches my tattoo ;)


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Thursday, 27 June 2013

Body Gossip Flash Mob - I'll Be There, Will You?

I have always wanted to go to a flash mob... the nearest I have been is watching one as I walked through St. Pancras train station once, but it isn't enough!

Then I heard that Body Gossip are holding a flash mob tomorrow in London and I know I had to be there! The Body Gossip team are fantastic for promoting body acceptance and positivity and as you all know by now, Natasha Devon is a bit of a hero of mine :)

So... On 28th June, we’re gathering outside the Southbank Centre (riverside) in London.

We’ll give each person who attends a large paper heart and ask them to write something they LOVE about their body on the heart.

At 1pm, everyone to hold up their heart for 3 minutes



I'll be there... Will you?

I haven’t been to anything like before, I am really excited to see what it’s like! I’ll try and get some photos and write up what it was like. Now I just need to decide what to wear!

If you were (or are) going; what would you write on your paper heart?


The team are working on this being an online flash mob too. See their page for all the details on how to be involved!

Debz xx

Wednesday, 5 June 2013

Size Doesn’t Matter – As Long As You’re Under A Size 20.

Yesterday, I attended a talk called ‘Size Doesn’t Matter’. I had never been to anything like this before, but I saw it advertised online and thought I would go and see how it went (Mainly because I love Natasha Devon and wanted to see her speak live).

Before I attended I thought I had no expectations of the event or any thought on what it would be like, but as I left feeling that something wasn’t quite right I realised I had built up a whole host of expectations in my head.

I should point out that this is my personal review and that many people I spoke to on the night really enjoyed it – so I think it is my personal perception and expectation which led me to feel unsatisfied by it, but never the less I attended, it seems appropriate for this blog so I thought I would review it!

The 2 and a half hour event was packed full of different people talking about their experiences of body image and what it meant for them. On paper, it seemed fantastic and something that I would definitely love to be involved in. I am sure most of you by now realise that I am very much a love your body advocate and have for many years felt comfortable in my own skin.

One of the first things that made me feel uncomfortable was Carole Spenser talking about supermodels being a ‘genetic abnormality’. She spoke about them having odd giraffe like necks and shoulders that were too wide. To me, it seems an odd approach to take on a talk that was about loving your body shape no matter what, and that everyone is beautiful in their own way... So, to call anyone a ‘genetic abnormality’ seemed an unusual way to promote this...I understand you would not want to promote an eating disorder/starving yourself to have the body of a catwalk model but this really did seem a strange way to talk.

That is without explaining her choice of outfit (lose and unclingy) being chosen because she had eaten too much.Maybe I misunderstood that point of the talk, but if you have indeed eaten ‘too much’ then you should still be able to wear what the fuck you like – because you are beautiful anyway so why hide it?

Natasha Devon gave a talk which I loved – her campaign to bring body positivity into schools I think is a fantastic one and one that is long overdue! One of their slogans actually matches one of my tattoos (Be-You-Tiful) which I had before I even know about Body Gossips campaign.... However it seems that you can only spread the ‘Be-You-Tiful’ slogan on your clothing if you are under a size 22. I understand that there are probably budget restrictions and more surrounding this, but it did seem a massive shame.  (I am only saying this out of bitterness, because I want a black and bright pink version of their top which I can’t have L)

After the first break there was a talk from two sisters who run a company/campaign called ‘Beyond Chocolate’ which is about breaking free of diets... All very well, but they talked about how to eat the ‘right foods’ and have the ‘right’ approach to eating...  Their book is called 'how to stop yo-yo dieting and lose weight for good', but I wasn't (I didn't think) coming to a talk about diets and the right approach, I thought it was about feeling good about yourself, whatever - even if you choose not to diet! Again, maybe I misunderstood the point of the talk, but I would assume  a talk headed ‘Size Doesnt Matter’ would also be about being able to be plus size and still do what you want to do if that is your choice.

I loved the paintings showcased by Sarah Jane Szikora, but the audience reaction to laughing everytime a fat lady painting was shown I wasn’t sure how to take. Raised eyebrows from people who obviously had the opinion that, the body shape was wrong was also very noticeable. I understand that audience reaction can’t be helped, but it did make me wonder if I had come to the right place.

I loved most of what the messages were about – poems by Hollie McNish were fantastic, Linda Papadopoulus’ talk was great and comedian Deborah Frances White had a great reaction from the few hundred strong crowd.

My only wish is that the messages conveyed had been more tailored to everyone. In my personal opinion it seemed that most of the messages were about being happy in yourself and loving your beautiful body as long as you’re healthy, you aren’t too fat and you think about what you are eating so as not to overeat.... Yes, a fantastic message to portray and I can’t knock that but perhaps the title of the show ‘Size Doesn’t Matter’ (to me) was a little misleading. To me, a positive body image is about everyone, of every shape and size loving themselves for what they are. So if you’re a ‘genetically abnormal’ supermodel or someone who sits and eats Lindor chocolate all day, that really is OK because you are you, and that is all you can ever be.

I would love to have seen a wider spectrum of people talking however I guess I have to understand the limitations. If you haven’t been to an event like this, then I would say go along to a Be Real Talk – they’re easy to find, affordable and the whole night was well organised and ran smoothly, but for me it was something that didn’t match my expectations. However I fully understand that is more than likely my understanding of what it was about, so if you haven’t – then give it a try!

Happy Hump Day


Debz x

Wednesday, 29 May 2013

No Means No and a Short Skirt Does Not Mean Yes!

This is my first ranty blog post for a while, and comes inspired from an article by Natasha Devon.

If you haven’t read her “Dress provocatively? Overweight? You're not 'asking for trouble' nor are you the root of the problem” article then you can do so here: 

http://www.independent.co.uk/voices/comment/dress-provocatively-overweight-youre-not-asking-for-trouble-nor-are-you-the-root-of-the-problem-8634750.html

I am not overly versed on all of Natashas work, but the bits I have seen have amazed me. She is an advocate for positive body image and self esteem, to say the least! You can read her Twitter updates here  - https://twitter.com/BodyGossipTash! She is well worth a follow.

I loved her article because it said what I have thought for a long time – the only person who is ever to blame for a crime is the person who carried out the crime. 

We are taught that we should hide our sat navs from view in our car, not walk down the street with our mobile phone in our hand and not to leave our front doors open. There doesn’t seem to be many people that are screaming out “don’t commit a crime”. Sure, for most of us it is built into us not to break the law, but should money really be being spent on teaching us to avoid crime over teaching people not to commit it?

I understand that we take some responsibility for our own actions and that in essence, walking down a street with our iPhone in easy grab could be seen as ‘silly’ – but actually, we SHOULD be allowed to if we want to.... and if the worse comes to worse and the iPhone is stolen, only the criminal is to blame and not the victim.

If a person of any gender wants to wear clothing that shows off a lot of flesh, they are not doing so as an invitation to drag them down a dark alley and rape them. For people who say they were asking for it or it wouldn’t have happened if they wore ‘something sensible’ that is fundamentally what you are saying. That by wearing a low cut top, or a short skirt you are also sending out an invitation that says you want to be pulled to the ground and your body violated... And, anyone who feels that there something right about this – I find you baffling!

I would love to know what other people thought of this article!

Debz x

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