Showing posts with label Rant. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Rant. Show all posts

Monday, 17 June 2013

Abercrombie And Bitch...

Over recent months you may have read about some of the comments made by the CEO of fashion brand Abercrombie and Fitch. I think it will be obvious to almost anyone that a designer brand like this will only stock smaller sizes - they're not the first and they certainly won't be the last designer fashion label to have no plus size clothing on their clothing rails.

If you are fat, or very short or very tall then you probably know what a struggle clothes shopping can be. I think (and I speak from personal experience) that things are getting better, but often if you aren't the 'norm' then shopping on the high street isn't always easy! That said, most of these brands simply go about their business stocking what they want - they don't have to make comments about the people they don't cater for and why they don't.

Only For Cool Kids

Mike Jefferies, CEO of Abercrombie and Fitch was quoted as saying "In every school there are the cool and popular kids, and then there are the not-so-cool kids. Candidly, we go after the cool kids,” the oh-so-attractive executive said. “We go after the attractive all-American kid with a great attitude and a lot of friends. A lot of people don’t belong (in our clothes), and they can’t belong."

The comments came about when asked why they don't stock anything above an 'large' in their stores. This roughly equates to a size 14-16. Mike Jefferies comments struck a chord with many people, who once thought they weren't 'cool' because they wore XL sized jeans.

Being unable to shop in normal stores or within designer fashion ranges is no big revelation to anyone who is plus size and it will more than likely never change (although we can hope!). However what I feel is sad is that Mike Jefferies feels it is OK to suggest that anyone who is plus-sized isn't cool. 

Mike Jefferies - CEO Of Abercrombie & Fitch
The truth is that actually you are as cool as you want to be. As an adult you should have an open mind and have learned not to judge people by the size of the clothes that they wear. We are no longer in high school and we no longer have to worry about fitting in with the cool crowd. I am sure as adults, we all have friends of different shapes and sizes. We like them because of who they are and not what they wear - so even if they can't fit into this ultra cool range of clothes!

Body Acceptance

The notion that you have to be thin to be cool and fit in is something that is so outdated. To suggest that you are not popular because you are fat or that you don't have a 'great attitude and a lot of friends' because you are plus size is ridiculous.

Body acceptance has come on leaps and bounds in recent years, but it is people like Mr Jefferies who think they have a right to put people down that show us that we still have so far to go!

These comments made a few years ago have been picked up by the media over recent months and now stars like Ellen and Miley Cyrus have joined the campaign to Boycott the fashion label over the comments. Mike Jefferies claimed that the brand was "exclusive", but it seems that he could have excluded more people that he realised.

What Do You Think? xx

Friday, 14 June 2013

Size Doesn't Come Into It!

I must have missed it the first time around, but apparently not so long ago a film critic refered to Melissa McCarthy as a 'hippo'. 

Back in February, film critic Rex Reed reviewed Ms McCarthy's new film, Identity Thief  Apparently he was less than impressed with the film and certainly didn't hold back on his feelings!

Whilst you could say that the long standard film critic was only doing his job I think that calling her 'tractor sized' and a 'humongous creep' was taking things too far! Personally, I haven't seen the film so I don't know if it is any good or not, but is Mr Reed there to review the size of Ms McCarthys waist or her more than obvious talent for acting?



Melissa McCarthy made a name for herself when she stared in hit American comedy Mike & Molly, from there she went on to film Bridesmaids which saw her really be recognised as the fantastic actress that she is. 

There can be no denying that the actress is on the heavy side and even she doesn't shy away from mentioning it in interviews.

"Sometimes I wish I were just magically a size six and I never had to give [my weight] a single thought"But I am weirdly healthy, so I don’t beat myself up about it -- it wouldn’t help, and I don’t want to pass that on to my girls."

Other comments that Rex Reed used in his 'review' include called her 'obese and obnoxious with equal success' and refering to her as a female hippo.


What I do not understand is why people allow such garbage to be printed? 

This 'gentleman' is paid to review films & very good he apparently is at it. However to me that means she can comment on the plot line, the acting and everything else surrounding the film. However big or small the characters are in the film does not come into it, especially when you want to make such damaging and hurtful remarks, which add no substance at all to your write-up!

Tuesday, 11 June 2013

Real Women Have Curves!

As someone interested in positive body image online you invariable end up following a few Twitter accounts, liking Facebook pages and following Tumblr accounts of people with the same interest and inspirations. This is a fantastic way to get ideas on what to write about and to see how other people feel about body image and their own bodies.

For many years now I have read blogs and Tumblr pages on body image which feeds you a varied range of quotes, photos and stories on how other people feel about positive body image and their own bodies.

When you start to follow these pages you tend to see the same things over and over again. There are a number of quotes and photos which tend to be used in the name of body image, but that I downright disagree with.

The truth of the matter is real women do not have curves. All women are real women and whether you are thin, curvy, short, tall or out and out fat you are a real woman. 

In actual fact bones are not just for dogs - there are plenty of men out there that find thin women attractive! And that is without me even getting onto the subject of referring to women as 'bones'.

Quotes like this can be found all over the internet!

It makes me sad that we have to justify our liking of our body (or that body type in others) by using quotes to put down other peoples bodies.

I read something on Tumblr once which simply said 'All Bodies Are Good Bodies' and I cannot agree more. 

I have hundreds of quotes saved on my computer which promote the fact that our weight does not define us and that beauty is not measured by the size of our jeans & I cannot agree more! What I feel we cannot do is use the flip side of this to put down people who are thinner than 'us'... 

If our weight does not define us, then how come you're only a 'real' woman if you have curves? It makes no sense to me!

There is no need to compare yourself to others!

I have seen many comparisons between Marilyn Monroe and models today. Many of them claim that Marilyn Monroe is the ultimate curvy goddess and that thin women of today pale in comparison! The truth is that, both body types will be attractive to different people.


No, No, No and no again!

I fully stand behind loving your body for everything it is and loving yourself for who you are... This fighting body types against one another is only making the fight for body positivity so much harder... If you are fat then you are no better worse than someone who is thin, it just doesn’t work like that. 

There is so much that makes you a good, decent person & the dress size you wear has no bearing on this whatsoever!

So.. a nice cheerful blog post for today! haha

Debz xx


Monday, 27 May 2013

The Subtle Approach...

I understand that messaging someone on a dating site can be a tough chore - how do you know what to say? Have you said too much, or perhaps not enough?

I think, that people like this man (whom I have never spoken to before) need to adjust this blatant copy and paste message though!




Have you ever had any interesting messages on a dating website?


Friday, 15 February 2013

Same Sex Adoption? That's So Gay!


When I started this blog, I had no idea what I would write about. When I re-started it I had even less of an idea of the direction I wanted to take it in. I guessed most of it would be about body image and positivity, which as most of you will know now is something that is very dear to my heart. However, what is also very close to me is people being given a fair chance. 

Today I was horrified to read that the Welsh Secretary had made some statements about gay adoption. Now, I know that same sex adoption is something that has very much split public opinion and I am not asking you to agree with it. However David Jones statement about gay couples "clearly" being unable to provide a "warm and safe environment" is wrong. As someone that is in authority, I feel that he should only use facts and figures when he makes comments about such important events. I would like to know where his facts come from that gay couples are "clearly" unable to provide a safe environment for children.
"I regard marriage as an institution that has developed over many centuries, essentially for the provision of a warm and safe environment for the upbringing of children, which is clearly something that two same-sex partners can't do." 
I was lucky enough to grow up in a stable household. I had two parents who were married (to each other!) and two siblings who shared the same set of parents as me. It wasn't until I was about 14 that I realised how lucky this made me. I now know that not every childhood is so happy and not everyone is so lucky.

If you are against same sex adoption then that is your right to be so... but I do feel that any stable home is better than a care home (although I don’t have any experience of these so I am only making an assumption). If two people are willing to go through the strict adoption process in order to team up and give a child a loving home, then in my opinion - let them!

What I do not agree with is gentlemen such as David Jones turning his opinion into statements that make them sound like facts. If there was clear (and unbiased) evidence that showed children were not ever able to have a "safe and warm" environment then I think most of us would be against gay adoption, however as far as I know there is no such thing. 

Instead there are gay couples that adopt successfully and gay couples who perhaps aren’t as good at it - just as there are straight couples and single people who adopt. The sweeping statement that Mr Jones made about gay couples being unable to provide a "safe and warm environment" is ludicrous and he really should make sure he has the facts to back up such a claim before he goes ahead and makes them in the future.

It is probably worth pointing out that he is one of two cabinet ministers who voted against gay marriage although he does not believe he is homophobic, insisting he has "people in my life who are important to me who are gay".

Have a great weekend!

Debz x


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