Showing posts with label Real Women Have Curves. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Real Women Have Curves. Show all posts

Saturday, 16 November 2013

"Meat Is For The Man, Only A Dog Wants A Bone"... ??

I know, I have already blogged today - but something has really got my blood boiling and I have to rant somehow!

So anyway... Real Women Have Curves!

That's right isn't it? That if you're a REAL man you'll admit to being a chubby chaser, or that if you're a curvy woman you should embrace it because your body shape is real -so much more real than the size 10 girl down the road!

It all started with this post by Superdrug post (which I found via http://www.bigfashionista.co.uk/2013/11/body-shaming-by-superdrug.html)



As you can imagine - there were some choice words said against their use of this photo. It was deleted within a few hours and they apologised via Twitter the next day.

It once again got me thinking about the mantras that SO many body positive influencers use, to try and make curvy women feel better about themselves... You know the ones I mean, 'Real women have curves', 'Meat is for the man, only dogs want a bone'... I have ranted about these before and no doubt I will again.

If you believe that 'real women have curves' then please look at this photo:


I am proud to say that the gorgeous girl on the left is my little sister. I have talked about her and her weight loss before so I won't go down that route - but can you HONESTLY say that she is not a real woman?? She looks amazing - and she is kind, funny, clever and has all of the good qualities that a decent person should have. I honestly do not believe that she or I have better body types that each other (not that it is a contest  - I believe we both have good bodies and that mantras like 'real women have curves' only serve to segregate people in the fight towards a body positive world and that is the last thing we need. 

Are bones only for dogs, or is my beautiful little sister just as entitled to be loved (by the way she is!) by a man as I am... We're all good, and I really can not stress enough how much sayings like these make me cringe - especially when they're used in a way to promote positive body image.

Real Men Like Women With Curves. 

That sentence right there ^^ makes me SO angry. I saw it on a website called 'Curvy Partner' although i can't see it on their page any more, so maybe they have seen the error of their ways. 

They do have this tweet though:



Someone who finds my sister (or someone similar) attractive is no more or less real than someone who finds me (or someone similar) attractive. We're all real - even those of us who are 'bad' or make bad decisions - we're REAL! Every single bloody one of us.... 


SO PLEASE STOP WITH YOUR BODY-SHAMING BULLSHIT!

I will never, ever understand the concept of bringing down a body type in order to make someone else feel better. I have said it many times - ALL BODIES ARE GOOD BODIES! If you are fat, or thin or like fat girls or thin girls (or boys!) that is OK! Your preference is OK and your business alone. 


You do not need to be detrimental to one body type in order to make another feel better!

I'd love to know your thoughts - Do these sayings make you feel better, or do you agree with me?

Debz xx

P.S I apologise for the rant, the anger and the swearing :)


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Tuesday, 11 June 2013

Real Women Have Curves!

As someone interested in positive body image online you invariable end up following a few Twitter accounts, liking Facebook pages and following Tumblr accounts of people with the same interest and inspirations. This is a fantastic way to get ideas on what to write about and to see how other people feel about body image and their own bodies.

For many years now I have read blogs and Tumblr pages on body image which feeds you a varied range of quotes, photos and stories on how other people feel about positive body image and their own bodies.

When you start to follow these pages you tend to see the same things over and over again. There are a number of quotes and photos which tend to be used in the name of body image, but that I downright disagree with.

The truth of the matter is real women do not have curves. All women are real women and whether you are thin, curvy, short, tall or out and out fat you are a real woman. 

In actual fact bones are not just for dogs - there are plenty of men out there that find thin women attractive! And that is without me even getting onto the subject of referring to women as 'bones'.

Quotes like this can be found all over the internet!

It makes me sad that we have to justify our liking of our body (or that body type in others) by using quotes to put down other peoples bodies.

I read something on Tumblr once which simply said 'All Bodies Are Good Bodies' and I cannot agree more. 

I have hundreds of quotes saved on my computer which promote the fact that our weight does not define us and that beauty is not measured by the size of our jeans & I cannot agree more! What I feel we cannot do is use the flip side of this to put down people who are thinner than 'us'... 

If our weight does not define us, then how come you're only a 'real' woman if you have curves? It makes no sense to me!

There is no need to compare yourself to others!

I have seen many comparisons between Marilyn Monroe and models today. Many of them claim that Marilyn Monroe is the ultimate curvy goddess and that thin women of today pale in comparison! The truth is that, both body types will be attractive to different people.


No, No, No and no again!

I fully stand behind loving your body for everything it is and loving yourself for who you are... This fighting body types against one another is only making the fight for body positivity so much harder... If you are fat then you are no better worse than someone who is thin, it just doesn’t work like that. 

There is so much that makes you a good, decent person & the dress size you wear has no bearing on this whatsoever!

So.. a nice cheerful blog post for today! haha

Debz xx


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