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Wednesday, 9 April 2014

Wednesday Wishlist - Another Look At New Clothes

You might have noticed that yesterday I blogged a summer wishlist of items I would buy after my spending ban is up (9 days!!)...Unfortunately I am a glutton for punishment and I can't stop online-window shopping! I thought I would do another little post on items I am lusting after, just because there is SO many nice clothes out there at the moment!! I love that there are some viable choices for fashion out their for plus-size women this season - the fact that there are fashionable clothing choices for people of all sizes!!

Pink Clove

Those cheeky beggars at Pink Clove added another new dress to their website yesterday after my blog post. This pink, lip pattern tunic dress is amazing and only £18!



Yours Clothing

Yours clothing pop up quite a lot on my blog because they're firm favourites with me. What I love about their current selection of clothes is that they have such a range of items - from casual dresses and jogging bottoms to summer dresses and prom style dresses there is everything! Some of my faves include:



ASOS Curve have always been well liked amongst the 'fatshion' community because they offer so much worth buying! This season is no exception and there are SO many nice items I am interested in getting my hands on when my ban is over!


No doubt I'll be lusting over more soon.... So much pretty stuff out there at the moment!

Do you have your eye on anything?

Debz x


Don't forget, if you haven't used Yours Clothing before then you can use the code 'blogger18' to get £10 off of a £20 spend. New customers only but what better excuse do you need to give them a try?

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Monday, 3 March 2014

Sweet Like Chocolate - Simply Be Dress Review

Last week the lovely team at Simply Be offered to send me a dress... how exciting! I spent AGGGESS going through the website trying to decide what to get. I am at stage now where I love dresses but I want something a bit different. You'll know from previous posts that most of my dresses are bright, colourful, full of pattern and eye catching, so I thought I would go for something a bit different. That said, I couldn't bring myself to get a black dress so I choose this chocolately little number instead.



As you can see, I went for the big hair again. I don't know why but I am really loving that at the moment! I really need to find a way to get it bigger, probably learning how to plait nearer to my head as I am not very good at that at the moment.

I struggled to know what accessories to wear with this because lots of my shoes and all of my belts are black... in the end I decided it didnt matter. I went for beige shoes (Primark), a black belt and my trusted Lovely necklace from Primark.



I haven't worn anything from the Jeffrey and Paula range at Simply Be before, which is where I got this from so I ordered my normal size. It's a lovely thick jersey material which is really generous size, I could easily have sized down at least one size, maybe two! I am so glad I went for this dress for a bit of a change, it's a welcome addition to my wardrobe! It's currently £40 on the Simply Be website - http://www.simplybe.co.uk/shop/jeffrey-paula-jersey-print-dress/uc829/product/details/show.action?pdBoUid=9985

I wore it to a night out where I drank too much vodka and danced all night - it was comfy to wear all night & lots of people commented on the gorgeous colours in the dress.



On a slight side note, a few weeks ago Alibi health drinks sent me a crate of their drinks to try. I am not usually into health drinks like this but they're sparkling water in either Pomegranate or citrus flavour - they taste surprisingly nice. In one can you get most of your daily allowance of vitamins and minerals which is always a bonus. 




It might not be the aim they are going for, but after a night out one of these cans in the morning really sorts me out & fixes the fuzzy head I have caused by one too many lemonades the night before ;)

Debz xx

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Wednesday, 26 February 2014

Fat Women Real Talk - Cosmo Questions... What Being A Fat Woman Is Really Like!


If you have been reading twitter, blogs or general social media over the last few days, you might have stumbled across lots of people talking the recent Cosmpolition article "What Being A Fat Woman Is Really Like". The article asked two women a set of questions about their life, dating, relationships and more and how they feel fat has affected them - it makes an interesting read! According to the general twitter-sphere, lots of people could relate to the article and it got people chatting! When Claire/ChatterMonkey suggested that bloggers should set about answering the same questions I knew straight away that I wanted to be involved! This is done as a bloggers challenge, so we're all posting them up at the same time! Be sure to check out the links below to read all of the other ladies answers. You can also check out the original Comsopolitan article here.

How do you feel when other women around you complain about feeling/being fat? 

Sad. Sad for them that they don't love the skin they are in, although I know that self-acceptance is a long and hard journey. I know that many people feel angry that someone smaller than them could possible complain about being fat, but I don't mind that. I get that not everyone likes their body and to many people being fat is not something that they would ever be at ease with - and that is OK! I try to tell people the things that I like about their body in the hope that a little bit of my positivity rubs off on them. Generally speaking how others feel about their body doesn't affect how I feel about mine.

How has your body image changed since high school? College? 

I have always been fat, but I don't think I have ever thought too negatively about it. I would say growing up that I was indifferent to my body which meant that it stayed a pretty blank canvas. I didn't hate my body but I didn't really care enough it to do anything with it. It is only over the last 5-7 years that I have come to realise that my body is something to be liked and I now pay more attention to body image, what I wear, how I look etc - which is a lovely place to be in. 




Have you tried dieting? What happened? 

Of course... I have dieted in the past, although never fad-dieted really. Dieting is great if it works for you. It never has for me, because I don't dislike my body so I don't really have the motivation to change it. 

Do you think in your case your weight is partly or entirely genetic? 

No. My sister is a size 10 (and works hard for the body she has) and I am the biggest in my family. I take full responsibility for my weight and realise that my diet and lifestyle play a role in why I am the size I am. If I wanted to be a size 10 I could go to the gym every day and eat well, but I don't have the slightest inclination to do that.

Do you consider yourself healthy? Have there been instances where people assumed you were unhealthy? 

Yes. I would say I am healthy. Of course people assume otherwise, because fat is the demon and it is something that kills us all. I am not naive enough to think that my weight doesn't affect my health, but everyone's lifestyle affects their overall health so I am not unique in that. Generally speaking my health is good and I very rarely have to go to the doctor. *touch wood*

Are your parents both supportive of you at the weight you're at? Have they always been? 

Yes. They don't pressure me into anything. My life is just that, my life to live with my choices. 

How do you think retailers can improve clothes for plus-size people? 

I think clothing can be improved for everyone, not just plus size people. I hate that people assume that plus size is a problem, when it isn't. There are plenty of bodies that cannot find clothes to fit them perfectly - the very thin, the very tall, the very short, those with big thighs and small waists, people with broad shoulders or with bigger feet. Generally speaking I think clothing ranges need to be changed across the board. We need to recognise that people aren't designed to fit into boxed and categories and that we should offer solutions to fit them & not the other way round. 

Do you think plus-size women are judged differently than plus-sized men are? How? 

I guess generally speaking, women's bodies are more sexualised so our shape is paid more attention to. That said ,I don't think we can take away from the fact that men have body issues too. We can't assume that it is a female only problem, because that is not the case at all. I think women assume men are judging them for the way that they look, because women are judging but actually more often than not it is us putting pressure on ourselves rather than other people paying that much attention to what we look like.  But I do think that both genders have their problems - people judge and they don't realise the affect their words often have.




Do you think there’s an assumption made/stereotype that exists about plus-size people? How would you respond to it? 

Yes. There is an assumption that we hate our bodies and would do anything to change. Would I like to be thinner? Yes. Do I want to change my life to be thinner? No. The assumption that I hate my body is wrong - I do not. I embrace it and I love it. I dress it up and I look after it, because it is mine and no one else's. I would be thinner only for ease of life (shopping on the high street, finding a bra that fits etc) but not because I am unhappy. 

There is an assumption that if you are fat, something or someone put you there - a bad experience, an unhappy childhood, a deep hidden secret that you are comfort eating your way through and that is  not the case at all. I know many, many fat girls that are fat just because they are and they totally live life that way, loving every second of it. 

Do you think there’s ever a right way or time to express concern about someone’s weight?

Yes. When someone asks for your opinion and no other time. 

What are the worst things people have said to you about your body? 

To be honest with you, the insults are not very imaginative. Fatty, fat bitch, wow look at the size of her - that's about the extent of it. Are they the 'worst' things? I guess so. But when you're telling me I am fat I don't really let it bother me, because they're not really telling me anything I don't know. 




How did you respond? 

Usually I pull people up on it. A man called me a fat bitch under his breath in a supermarket once. I stopped him and asked him very loudly why he would assume I was a bitch just by looking at me? I told him that he could ask any of my friends and they would tell him I am lovely and not a bitch at all. The shop stopped and everyone looked, but I didn't care. I am strong enough to deal with something like that but others are not, so I stand up to it when I can in the  hope that it stops that person insulting someone else in the future. 

Do you find yourself hanging out with women who are closer to your size?

Of course - who doesn't have friends of a variety of sizes? If you don't then you might want to look at yourself and wonder if you are shallow. I have lots of amazing friends who vary in size from a size 10 to a size 36 (estimates, I have no idea about clothes sizes) and I wouldn't have it any other way. They're all my friends for different reasons and all bring different things to my life, just the way it should be.

How has your weight affected your sex life, if at all? 

I wouldn't say so. Of course it affects the people who are attracted to me - but that is the same as anyone else. Their body and the way they look affects who they are attractive to, nothing out of the ordinary about that.

When you've been single, has your weight affected your dating life?

I could write a book about my dating life - and in fact many people tell me 
I should! I have had a very chequered past when it comes to dating, but I don't put that down to my weight at all. The world is full of weird and wonderful people, I think most of the weird ones I have either dated or they are blocked on my Plenty of Fish account. 




Do you feel weird if the guy you’re with only dates larger women? 

Nope. Would a slim girl feel weird if a guy only dated slim women? We have to accept that men find our bodies attractive. Yes it is about personality and clicking with someone, but you have to find them attractive too - so if they like you and you're fat the chances are they like fat girls too!

Do you feel weird if he's only dated slimmer women before you? 


Not really. I would talk to him about his attraction to me and where it has come from. Sadly lots of men aren't comfortable dating a fat girl and wait a while to get out there and do it, so it wouldn't bother me if I was their first.


So there you have - I have a feeling a lot of my answers will be different to others but there you go. Please don't forget to check out the other ladies doing the posts too, they'll all make interesting reads!

Debz xx


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Sunday, 23 February 2014

Discovering Marisota

I have to be honest here, while I have known for ages that Marisota do plus size fashion (up to a size 32) they're not really a brand I think to check when I am looking for a new outfit. However, I love the fact that they exist, because choice is always good!

Last week they invited me down to an event in a beauty salon in Soho to be treated to a bit of a pamper and the chance to browse through some of their offerings this season... How could I resist?

I have been meaning to do something with my eyebrows for ages - I was an eyebrow treatment virgin. In the end I got them waxed and tinted as well as my eyelashes tinted - I love them!




I have to say - I was really impressed with the clothes that they had. When I saw the rail which was bursting with colour & shape I had to smile... It was so nice to see so many nice clothes, something I didn't expect at all.





I'll definitely be keeping a much closer eye on Marisota from now on.

Have you ever shopped there? What did you think?

Debz xx

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Sunday, 19 January 2014

Not So Mini Mouse

Yes... The typo is on purpose! I know, I am THAT funny!

Just a very quick post today on a lovely polka dot dress I picked up in the ASOS Sale. It's currently only £13, bargain! (It seems to be out of stock upon checking, but they have the lovely navy one for only £22! http://www.asos.com/ASOS-Curve/ASOS-CURVE-Exclusive-Skater-Dress-In-Spot-Print/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=2995287&WT.ac=rec_viewed)



I love the skater dress because it is a longer length - although I have tucked it up under the belt because I wanted it to be a bit shorter for the night out I was going on. I love the versatility. Teamed it up with a black belt that I picked up at the Plus London Plus Size Market for the grand old price of 50p!



I managed to do the whole of Saturday night out sober... partying and dancing til 3am. I was quite proud of myself - Dryathlon/Cancer Research you should be too! http://www.justgiving.com/Debbie-Aiken-dryathlete

If you're looking for a dress or two for a bargain price, I really can't recommend the ASOS sale enough at the moment.

Have you bought anything?

Debz x

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Saturday, 18 January 2014

Big Bird - My ASOS Curve Sale Bargain!

I have to admit being a fan of a sale - I mean, when you can get a dress at a bargain price - why not!? Just before Christmas ASOS announced a massive up to 50% off and I could have wept - who wants to be bargain dress shopping before Christmas?

Anyway - two dresses caught my eye and so I had to have them - which at a total of £22 for 2 dresses delivered was amazing! I got my hands on this brill bird print dress & a lovely polka dot one, which no doubt I'll write about in the future too!



I wore it out the other day teamed up with a stretchy belt, New Look Jacket, One One Three Leggings and a New Look lion necklace (which was another sale bargain at £2!)



I found the dress to be a very generous fit and I love the pattern - which is pretty but also plain, so can be dressed up in anyway you want. It's also elasticated under the bust, which helps to give it a lovely shape and be nice and flattering, for want of a better word!

What sale bargains have you snapped up?

You can grab this ASOS dress at http://www.asos.com/ASOS-Curve/ASOS-CURVE-Skater-Dress-In-Bird-Print/Prod/pgeproduct.aspx?iid=3118890&SearchQuery=bird%20print&sh=0&pge=0&pgesize=36&sort=3&clr=Print for just £13!

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Thursday, 16 January 2014

OMCZ Keeping It Casual

I decided this week to keep up my Outside My Comfort Zone post with Yours Clothings 'Onesie Wednesday'. I know that Onesies are a bit of a marmite situation, but I have to say I love them!



Yours Clothing kindly sent me this onesie to review, because it is a feature in their new range which goes up to a size 36. I remember two years ago being over the moon because I found one website which had one onesie available in my size - now I have so much choice for my size and places like Yours Clothing going even bigger and for me it is amazing! 




I love this onesie simply because it is comfy and cosy... its made of a lovely fleecy material which keeps me nice and toasty even on cold days. I have to say that when it comes to casual at home, I love nothing more than being in a onesie or a pair of pyjamas. The sizing of the onesie is great, it's long on me (but I am very short) so if you're a bit taller then go for it! I love the hood because it makes me feel all cosy and lovely.



You can buy this onesie up to a size 36 from here http://www.yoursclothing.co.uk/P/Red_and_black_star_print_hooded_onesie-(18330).aspx 

Yours Clothing do a range of clothing and nightwear up to a size 36. I can vouch for this item http://www.yoursclothing.co.uk/P/Pink_Scruffy_Pooch_Frill_Sleeve_Placement_Print_PJ_Set-(20185).aspx because they kindly sent me the pyjamas. Unfortunately I wore them ALL over Christmas and left them at home at my mums house 400 miles away so there is no photos of me in them - bad blogger! They're really comfortable and well made though, so definite worth a look!

Yours Clothing were kind enough to feature my photo on their Facebook page yesterday, and it now has over 300 comments of debate on how good (or not!) I look in the onesie... I'd love to know what you think of this type of casual wear?

Debz xx

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Wednesday, 8 January 2014

Super Size, Super Comfy

Sorry for the lack of blog posts, I have been up north for a couple of weeks and only just back in London. Today I had a lunch date with one of my bestests, but also had one of those days where you just want to be comfy! We were only going to the local Toby Carvery so I knew I didn't have to get super dressed up.

In the end, I opted for this new Yours Clothing gold leopard printed tunic top, which they kindly sent me just before Christmas. When they emailed me I was excited to learn that they are now offering a range of their items up to a size 36. Even though this is bigger than I personally need I am always excited to hear of new fatshion options and it's really great to see retailers listening to  the needs of their customers. They also sent me an amazing onesie, which I will review soon!



As you can see I went for very comfy - not a belt or accessory in sight! However, what I wore was perfect with me. I teamed it up with my Just 5 Pounds cardigan, One One Three leggings and some Primark boots - Comfy all the way!!



Yours Clothing have a number of items available up to a size 36, so if you have previously been put off by sizing then make sure you head over now. This item is now only £15 in the sale - bargain!

Have you bought anything from Yours Clothing lately?



If you haven't used Yours Clothing before then you can use the code 'blogger6' to get £10 off of a £20 spend. New customers only but what better excuse do you need to give them a try?

Debz xx

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Wednesday, 1 January 2014

Christmas Dress - A Tartan Treat

Happy New Year and all that jazz! I hope that 2014 turns out to be everything you could hope for and more!! 


I wanted to do a quick blog on the dress I wore on Christmas day, which is a lovely tartan midi dress that the lovely ladies at Topsy Curvy were kind enough to send me just before the big day! I am in love with the current tartan trend & think that the pattern and colours are so lovely!



I really like the vibrant red on this dress, which I think made it perfect for the festive season. I got a size down from my usual size however it didn't feel to small at all! I like the snug fit so it was perfect for me. I really like the black side panels which I felt broke up the pattern of the dress a little! I teamed it up with some leggings from One One Three (which are amazing by the way - lovely thick material and great sizing!). I have bought from Topsy Curvy before (you can use their website or Facebook to purchase from there) and find their stuff always comes quickly, well packed and generous sizes!


The dress is currently only £21 on their site too! http://topsycurvy.co.uk/shop/tartan-midi-dress/

I have seen loads of your festive blogging outfits - if you have any more to share I would love to see them!

Debz xx

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Monday, 30 December 2013

Dear Now Magazine

It any suprise you to know that some of your readers are fat - their bodies are also normal! 

I was surprised (although may I should not have been) to see your current front page - note I saw it online, I have not parted with my hard earned money to be told by you that MY body is NOT normal.

I find it sad that in this day and age you still feel that it is OK to call bigger bodies abnormal! That if you have the audascity to be bigger than average then a magazine can tell you that you are not normal!


Please tell me - which part of my body do you feel is NOT normal? I get it - I am over weight, I am fat, I am cuddly, plus size - whatever term you want to use that makes you feel comfortable with me and my body. I don't even really care if you feel that people 'like me' should lose weight (that's a whole new issue altogether) but how on Earth you can suggest that any body types are not normal is flabbergasting to me...

Is my body really THAT shocking!?



I'd love to know what other people think of this!

Debz

P.S Thanks to Body Gossip for the image I borrowed!


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Monday, 16 December 2013

Follow Up - The Fat Mermaid

A couple of weeks ago I blogged about the beautiful green sequin dress that AX Paris have on offer this year - but I didn't post any full length pics because I didn't want to spoil it for my Christmas party! http://imawannabeprincess.blogspot.co.uk/2013/12/a-sequin-surprise-fat-mermaid.html if you want to have a nosey at the post!




This weekend I spent the weekend with vodka, white wine and some of my beautiful friends - while wearing this amazing dress & wanted to share it with you.

I know some ladies prefer to shy away from bodycon dresses, but I really can not recommend this dress enough. Although it is is bodycon and quite tight, it is made from a nice thick material so I don't feel it clings everywhere, which is what many people don't like about body con dresses. The sequins are beautiful and I have yet to see this dress look bad on anyone - and if you follow any bloggers you'll see that it's a popular one!


Wouldn't be the same without some dodgy mirror selfie shots

If you're looking for a sparkly dress to wear this festive season I really can't recommend this dress enough! It's lovely! 

Debz xx

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Tuesday, 3 December 2013

Little Me - What Would You Say?

This week while reading some of my favourite blogs, I stumbled across the 'Love EVERY Body' project arranged by the lovely Leah over at http://justmeleah.blogspot.co.uk/. This week I saw people writing letters to their body, what they wanted to thank it for, blame it for, apologise for etc. but most of all what they wanted to love it for.




Then my sister published a blog post about her weight loss journey and how it hasn't made her happier. Yes, she is happier in a sense but not in another - weight loss, dieting and self love is a long journey and somewhat of a roller coaster.


"If anyone ever tells you being thin or a certain dress size will make you happy then they are lying. However you felt about your body and the insecurities you had before your weight loss will be the same no matter how your outward appearance changes."


Over recent weeks, one of my favourite songs has been Little Me, by Little Mix. I love the song, but I also love the message that it presses - that one day, you'll look back and want to tell yourself that everything will be OK.


"Wish I knew back then, What I know now, Wish I could somehow, Go back in time and maybe listen to my own advice. I'd tell her to speak up, tell her to shout out, Talk a bit louder, be a bit prouder, Tell her she's beautiful, wonderful, Everything she doesn't see"



I often get messages asking me how I became so confident, how I can be so happy with the way I look and whether my self-body-love is real! I don't really have the answers - only that Yes, I do like myself and I think you should like yourself! The only real thing I have to say on that is that lots of people think the same as you! There are people out there, who you see as perfect who feel just as unhappy with the shape of their body. YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

 So, if you could tell your 'little you' anything, what would you say?


I would tell my 15 year old self that everything will be OK, I'd tell my 21 year old self that moving up North will be the best decision you ever make and I would tell my 26 year old self that everything happens for a reason. I would tell myself as a teenager that one day you'll love yourself and as a twenty year old, you'll learn to embrace your body and like it! 

What about you?

Debz xx

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Friday, 29 November 2013

Powerfit Friday

Unless you have been under a rock, you have probably heard of the Powerfit dresses by Scarlett & Jo. I fell in love with these dresses when they were first launched and was really excited when I heard that they had extended their size range to go up to a size 32.

I have seen lots of beautiful bloggers wearing the power fit dresses (they come in a range of colours and designs) but no one that compares to me size wise - so before I invested in one, I wanted to try one on! Sadly, I am lazy and hadn't gotten around to going back to Evans to try one in store.

This week the lovely ladies at Scarlett & Jo emailed me to see if I would like to try the animal print powerfit dress, as they would like to send me one... How kind!



I finally got around to trying it on today - and I love it! Size wise I would say stick to your usual size. The dress is lined and panelled inside which means that you get a tight fit, but I like that the material is thick so it gives you a nice smooth shape.




What I like about the dress is that the print is in the middle, with a black border which gives a nice 'flattering' shape. You should all know that I don't worry too much about shape and being flattering, but I do think that this is a nice touch!

Unless you can catch a Scarlett & Jo sale (they do happen quite often) then these dresses are definitely at 'investment piece' price but to be honest with you, I would say that they are well worth the price - I currently have my beady eyes on a red one!

I have kept the pictures quite basic on this one, as I plan to dress it up to attend an Xmas event next week - I'll show you how it turns out afterwards!

Have you tried a Scarlett & Jo dress yet? What did you think??

Debz x

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