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Monday, 4 May 2015

The Infamous Tess Dress - Yours Clothing

Ahhh... The Tess Dress!

I spotted this dress a few months ago when I headed to Birmingham to meet Tess Munster. In fact, you might remember that a group of us bloggers all wore this dress and posed for a photo with Tess! I loved the dress then but it only went up to a size 26. This meant it fitted but not quite as comfortably as I would have liked so I didn't buy it :(



Anyway, a couple of weeks ago I spotted it on their website right up to a size 32. I don't know when that snuck in but I was very happy! So, of course I bought it straight away. 


The material of the dress is really nice and thick which means that it doesn't cling if that is something you are worried about. The thick material doesn't mean that it is too hot for summer though as the length is great and the sleeveless arms mean it is nice and cool. Yours now have this dress in a range of colours but for me it was always going to be about bright pink! It's currently £35 on their website (new customers can get £10 off by using the code Blogger18)


I love the dress and will more than likely snap up another in a different colour at some point!



Would you wear the Tess Dress?

Debz xx

P.S Got a tattoo this week!


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Friday, 18 July 2014

Plus Size Fashion - Why Aren't We Reading From The Same Page?

Last week I was sent an infographic from a PR company - nothing new there. However this one was about plus size summer trends and what we should and should not be wearing. It contained handy tips like do not wear a crop top with low-cut jeans or don't wear two peplum items together. I told them that this was nonsense and that if they had read my blog they would see that their 'advice' was everything that I stood against. I thought nothing more of it - until I saw a post where a girl had posted the infographic and that she AGREED with them - I was horrified!! I don't want to link to the post here, as this isn't a personal attack on anyone - but it was a general do and do list of what a plus size lady should wear. 

And I Get Dressed...

There has been a hashtag floating around lately of "And I Get Dressed" and this made me think of that. When I get dressed in the morning I wear the clothes that I like and the styles that I want to wear for me. I don't worry about whether someone else is going to feel uncomfortable because I am wearing shorts or whether the top I am wearing is considered flattering. I get that people won't like what I am wearing always and that sometimes I wear things other people wouldn't - but surely that is the beauty of fashion? I love the way I dress, it's a relatively new discovery for me to wear clothes I am passionate about and I don't intend to stop!




Maybe I am naive in thinking that the world of plus size bloggers think the same as me. Maybe it is silly to believe that we're fighting from the same corner for everyone to EffYourBeautyStandards and wear the clothes that they want to wear. I generally didn't think I would see a plus size blog telling me "And then there are some summer trends that we just shouldn't be a part of, for example, the booty shorts trend. "

If I want to wear booty shorts - why shouldn't I? How is the fact that I choose to wear a certain style of clothing wrong to you? If you don't want to wear them - that is OK! Just as it is more than OK that I want to wear them.

I know that as a plus size person I often have to battle against media influences in order to dress how I want and live the life I choose, but I honestly didn't realise that I was also fighting against other plus size people for the right to dress how I want.

To anyone who feels that I shouldn't wear "clingy fabrics like nylon and spandex" I am sorry that my body makes you feel uncomfortable. I am not sorry for wearing what I choose to wear, I am just sorry that the shape of someone's body and the material they choose to put on it is something that makes you feel so passionate that you need to write about it. I hope one day, you'll learn (like many of us have had to) that all bodies are good bodies and that the only body and clothing you should worry about is your own.

Debz

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Friday, 11 July 2014

How On Earth Do Your Love Yourself?

This week a post on the Fuller Figure Fuller Bust Facebook page got me thinking again! With the likes of Linda Kelsey and Katie Hopkins fighting in the opposite corner to us, how is it really possible to love ourselves? I know that body image troubles come in all shapes and sizes and that you don't have to be fat to have doubts about your self worth, but sometimes it seems the media is particularly against those that are overweight.

A post on Georgina's Facebook page was a question from a reader of hers asking about confidence and how to get more of it!


For me, a massive part of the journey to loving my body has been surrounding myself with a new type of media. Every day we are surrounded by media that tells us that our hair should be a different colour, we should be dressed in a different way and that our clothes should have a small size label attached to them. If our bodies dont meet those standards then the media bombards us with hints and tips on who to style ourselves on and how to get a bikini body! It's tough to fight against all of that, when that is all we see!


A few years ago I discovered a whole new world of media that is helpful and brings us up rather than drags us down. Now I regularly discover new articles, poetry, books, journalists, photos and more that work towards helping people love their bodies!


I thought I would share some of my favourites here, so feel free to have a read!


This post by Natasha Devon about health vs weight makes a fantastic read.

http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/natasha-devon/body-image-and-health_b_5573580.html

And this video by Meghan Trainor is a fun(not to be taken too seriously) look at loving your body if it is larger.




Twitter and Tumblr are full of quotes like the below, just search for tags like #Bodyimage to find them

Browse Instagram to see what people like Tess Munster, Honor Curves and many more have to say! Their pages are often full of positive words and pictures, so well worth checking out. Inclduing hashtags such as #EffYourBeautyStandards and #HonorMyCurves

Samatha Peterson has some fantastic things to say here http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/06/03/samantha-peterson-slam-poetry_n_5438474.html

Artists like Carol Rossetti have some amazing, body-positive pieces of art like the one below




And there are hundreds more like them! I try to share any that I come across on my Facebook page, so feel free to come and give me a like if you want to see more. In general the media doesn't tell us anything positive, instead they want us to buy into not being good enough. Take responsibility and surround yourself with a much better, more positive media - you'll notice the difference, I promise!


Do you know any body positive influencers? Share them with me!!


Debz xx


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Thursday, 17 October 2013

OOTD: Leather Biker Jacket & ASOS Wrap Top

I know, I know - what a lovely, imaginative title - you lucky bunch! My creative juices are really flowing this morning, can you tell?

Anyway, I finally got around to wearing this lovely purple wrap dress that I got from ASOS for my birthday (thanks Gem!) and thought I should blog about it! - It's also now only £15.00 in the sale - bargain!





I teamed it with leggings (obviously!) and then to leave the house I wore my New Look biker jacket and a pretty cake scarf which I also got for my birthday!



As always I am loving my accessories - I teamed this outfit up with my new Black Heart Creatives necklace (Thanks Leighanne) and a long, heart necklace from Primark!




I am notoriously bad for wrapping up warm for winter - I hate layers and wearing too many heavy clothes so generally I don't wrap up at all! This is the first coat (jacket!) I have owned in years. That said, I do love the look and the fit of the jacket so I don't see any reason why I wouldn't carry on wearing it for winter - seeing as it's freezing already, I think we're in for a cold one!




Have you bought anything new for your winter wardrobe?

Debz xx


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Friday, 11 October 2013

Gemma Cruickshank Collexions: The Launch

Earlier this week I was invited down to Mary Janes Bar in Tower Hill to see the official unveiling of the Gemma Cruickshank Collexions. If you're not sure who Gemma is or why you should be excited about this, you can see my interview with her here.

Gemma is an independent fashion designer and this week unveiled her first collection - and what a collection it was. 

I apologise for the bad quality of the photos  - it was SO busy and everyone was SO keen to see the collection that we couldn't all get the photos we wanted. However, what a great sign for Gemma that SO many people are keen to see what she has to offer - Go Team Gemma!



With live music, fantastic organisation, buy one get one free cocktails and banana cake made by Gemma's mum to die for  - it was a night not to be missed!



It was also nice to meet lots of new people and catch up with a few familiar faces!


And of course, catch up with the lovely lady herself!


I am sure there will be a whole host of better photos up very soon - as well as her line being launched for sale properly. In the meantime check out her website or #TeamGemma on most social networks to see what is going on and all the photos from the night!

Debz xx

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Monday, 7 October 2013

Let Your Haters Be Your Motivators!

This weekend I had to witness some wicked comments on Facebook which got me thinking! I won't link to the page they were on, or reference them too much as I really do not want to give it anymore promotion than it needs.

On a BBW Facebook page, someone posted a photo of a lady in a BBW night club in a tight, short dress. The larger lady was showing some flesh, but radiated confidence. I should point out that the lady was NOT looking at the camera and as far as I can tell doesnt know the photo was taken, let alone posted by someone else on a Facebook group - which itself upset me!

However, it was actually the comments on this page that upset me the most! Ladies were SO quick to knock this other lady down. Comments about how trashy she looked, how her outfit was 'so wrong' and how she should have some self respect and wear something else. People were commenting that her outfit was inappropriate and that she should not go out in public like that, because it is not what people want to see!

My comments about how we dont dress for other people and how we should stand together as one fell on mostly deaf ears - and what a shame that is! Not only do I feel that we should all respect eachother anyway, but as a BBW group I found it upsetting that larger ladies would put down someone larger for wearing what they want. 

Yes, the dress with tight and short. Yes, she showed off some flesh. Yes, it might not be something would I would wear - but who cares what they lady wears! What she does with her life and what her clothing choices, make no difference to me and my day! This lady was at a BBW night club, not a shopping trip to Asda, so let her wear what she wants to I say!

And then today - I posted this photo on Instagram!



I know, a photo of me in a pretty dress is not unusual, so you wouldn't think it would be such a big deal, but i think you'll see from these screen grabs that not everyone agrees! (I would usually block out a name, but seeing as these comments were made on a public forum (Instagram) and can be seen my anyone (my Instagram isn't private) I have chosen not to)









I have no problem at all with this lady and her life style choices, I don't even care if she looks at me and thinks I am disgusting - but what scares me is how quick she is to comment on a photo of someone she doesn't know just to try and bash them down?


The world is a big, bad scary place. The media tell us all the time that we're not good enough, that we should lose a dress size in two weeks or that we should get a bikini body for summer. All of this is thrown in our faces almost unavoidably - and I don't care, I am happy in my skin and I don't want to change. But why do ladies like the one above feel that they can comment on me and my lifestyle? Even if she doesn't understand me and my choices, I am just a stranger to her - what do I matter?

Ladies (and gentlemen), use your haters as your motivators! These people who want to rip you down and make you feel unworthy - DO NOT LET THEM! You are amazing and beautiful and don't let the world tell you otherwise. Spend time with your friends, cherish your family, buy pretty dresses whatever your size, eat too much, sleep too much, dance too much, slut drop until your thighs hurt but whatever you do, do not let them steal your shine - because you are worth more than you could even imagine!

Debz xx


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Thursday, 3 October 2013

The New Power Generation

Over the last few days I have seen a number of different discissions on Twitter and other social media platforms about the 'younger' generation and how we can teach them to love themselves.

I grew up very lucky that I can not remember ever really hating my body, but I know that isnt the case for everyone. I also know that body image issues and hatred don't just happen when they are seemingly justified. The truth is that from every direction we are told how to feel about how bodies, how they should look and what we should be doing to improve them  - so is it any wonder that young girls (and boys) are growing up not knowing how to love and respect their body.

One of the biggest discussions over the last few days is what the government and schools can do to help young people like their body, for me - it isn't rocket science!

The media is full of slim celebrities telling us about their bodies, even in subtle ways! But the likes of Blogger, Twitter, Tumblr and more are full of inspirational women of ALL sizes telling us to stick it to the man! 

Why not show children in schools the tweets, videos, words of wisdom from these people who survive every single day in this big, bad world!

Some of the inspirational people I would love to see shown to school children:

Mary Lambert




I love this poem by Mary Lambert. The I Know Girls (Body Love) poem might be a little hard-hitting but the sentences about body love are fantastic and something every girl should hear! 

And with words like "I am a big girl. A voluptuous, curvy, dress-wearing lesbian. I love my body; it’s the only one I’ll ever have. I eat a lot of greens and work out and drink gin martinis and put M&Ms in my froyo and sometimes I don’t do anything but watch Project Runway. I am allowed to look sexy, feel sexy, and be in love. I am worthy of all of those things, and so are you. Own your good and bad, and all the scary parts that you’ve been covering up because it is yours and no amount of judgement can tell you how to love your body. In the words of Sonya Renee, the body is not an apology. You are magic." which is posted on her Facebook recently she should be used more when it comes to teaching people to love their bodies!

Natasha Devon

I have mentioned Natasha Devon before and I will again! She already does so much for helping young people love their bodies - her company Body Gossip go into schools to talk about confidence and body love! It would be great if more was made of this.


Rachel Wiley

I have blogged about her poem before  - 10 thoughts on being loved by a skinny boy. I love stuff like this and find the words inspirational. I follow her on Twitter and she often tweets out words of wisdom, which young people would most definitely benefit from!

This is just a small, tiny, teeny handful of the women who put themselves out there everyday to help people love their bodies. Online campaigns such as Eff Your Beauty Standards and Honor My Curves are full of everyday women showing their own body love. People such as Tess Munster show that you can love your body and make a career out of it!

Even if schools can't promote these precise people, why not show young people a way of looking up inspirational people online? I am sure there are plenty of people I don't know about (I would love to read about them if you know any!)... but I read a lot of Tumblr and Twitter and everyday I am inspired by something that is posted!

Who are your main inspirations?

Debz xx


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Friday, 27 September 2013

Trying New Shops is Hard!

For years I avoided ASOS Curve. I heard from a friend once that they bought something that didn't fit properly and so I avoided it too! Their bad experience was enough to put me off of even trying it! For me, I went for years of sticking with shops I knew! When you know how a shop cuts their tops and how their jeans fit on you, it can be tempting to stick with them, after all - better the devil you know!

However, I am happy to say I WAS WRONG! My wardrobe is now packed full of delightful ASOS Curve items and my shopping basket on their site full of even more. I genuinely can not get enough of their pretty clothes and sales-goodness! I am sad that I missed out on so many years of happy shopping just because I was too afraid to try.

Being afraid might seem like a big word - perhaps apprehensive is better! But when you're spending big bucks on clothes, the last thing you want is to have to send them back again. Not only is this a hassle, but you have the disappointment of holding something pretty in your hands that will never be yours!

However... I beg you - try!! If there is a dress, a top, a pair of jeans or anything else you have seen that you liked but though "oh not, that won't fit me" - try! What's the worst that could happen? Over the last 12 months I have tried so many new retailers (Topsy Curvy, AX Curve, Excite Clothing....) and I am so glad I did.



On this note, Yours Clothing have let me give you an offer! By using the voucher code "Blogger 6" at their check out you'll get £10 off of a £20 spend. You must be a new customer and sales items don't count, but it could be the perfect way for you to try something on the site for size! 

They have loads on offer on their site! I found their sizes pretty true to size, so whatever you are looking for, order in your normal size, use the code 'Blogger6' to save yourself your money and then await your exciting package of clothes to come through the post!



I'd love to know what you bought and what you thought!

Debz x



*Blogger6 gives new customers £10 off of a £20 spend. Non sale items only. Affiliate link.

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Saturday, 17 August 2013

"Fat Girls In Bodycon Dresses Make Me Vom"

Ok... So they don't actually make me vom, but work with me on this...

I am proud of the mixture of friends that I have. I like to think that they're mostly open-minded and non-judgmental... And then every so often (and I mean very rarely) one of them says something that makes me sit back and think!

Today one of my friends had a Facebook status up that was something along the lines of "Big girls shouldn’t wear body con dresses, it makes me vom". The comments on the status went on to say that she thinks that they shouldn't even sell these dresses in that size and that because she is bigger she has a right to say it.

It will come as a surprise, but I am not one to keep my mouth shut. I absolutely disagree with her opinion and couldn’t sit back and say nothing. I wrote on there that I was a fat girl who wore these body con dresses and felt that her opinion was wrong. I understand completely if someone chooses not to wear any style of clothing, but condemning a whole group of people for wearing something just because you do not have the confidence to do so seems alien to me.

I told her that when I dressed in the morning (or the evening) I did not dress for her or anyone else. I explained to her that it was not my job to be visually pleasing to her or anyone else and that just because she didn't like that style of clothing tat doesn’t mean that others don't! And then the status got deleted.

Wear what you want and feel happy doing it!
I was all ready to come on here all guns blazing and rant about the status - but I put something on my Facebook status and 20 people liked it straight away. It made me realise that actually not everyone thinks this way and that most people are happy to let others get on with their own lives. 

I know that we all take a second glance when we see someone wearing something unique but I don't know of many people who would claim that something shouldn’t be sold to people just because they choose not to wear it themselves! It made me sad and angry, that someone would still think in this backwards way. We seem to be making leaps and bounds when it comes to plus size fashion and I absolutely feel that people should wear whatever they want to wear whatever their size. 


When you get dressed in the morning remember to wear what you want to wear. You do not dress to please other people. It is not your job to look good for other people. You were put on this planet to live your live and not be visually pleasing to people - especially strangers!

If you are someone who feels sick because of what other people wear... Ask yourself why what they have in their wardrobe or on their body affects you!

And then, like a beacon of hope I came across this video by the BEAUTIFUL Tess Munster this morning, which sums up perfectly what I wanted to say, in much less words! 


I love her and I feel that she is such an inspiration and quite frankly, if you can't see her beauty then you need your eyes testing.

Thankfully there are online campaigns such as 'Eff Your Beauty Standards' and 'Honor My Curves' which are helping to pave the way online for people to be happy in their own skin. Personally I love both of these campaigns and love reading peoples involvement in them! If you haven't come across them before, please check them out! 

How do you deal with peoples negatives comments?


Debz xx


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Saturday, 3 August 2013

I'm Fat Therefore No Where Does My Size

Evans are an amazing plus-size retailer, but we have to get out of this mindset that they are the only place we can shop at! The truth is that plus size fashion is bigger (excuse the pun) and better than ever.

I have and will continue to review plus size retailers as I find them, as I see pieces I like etc etc BUT I wanted to put together a list of some of the plus size fashions shops and websites I know of, because you can absolutely dress exactly how you want and there definitely shops that fit you, your shape AND you size!

I really think it is important that we tell women that there are options out there for them, no matter what dress size they wear so please if possible share, tweet, like and distribute this link so we can have a nation of fierce looking fatties who are happy in the clothes that they are wearing!

(Also note this is absolutely not the only choices out there, just a few of the ones I know/like/want to try - They are mostly UK retailers but do offer shipping abroad mostly!)

Simply Be - One of the most known plus size retailers, offering most ranges up to a size 32. My ABC feature on their dresses can be read here.

Simply Be Dresses

Crazy Clearance - Mostly ex Simply Be stuff at discounted prices

Just Curvy - Up to a size 26 - I haven't tried these but they have a huge range of pretty dresses, well worth checking out!

Very - Mostly up to a size 28 but the odd piece in a 30 and 32.

Matalan - Rogers & Rogers items go up to a size 30. Some nice work wears items from what I have seen

Love Ur Curves Facebook Page - Independent retailer, have an online Facebook page and a shop in Essex. I reviewed some of their leggings here.

Love Ur Curve Leggings


AX Paris - Dresses up to a size 26 (You can get AX Curve dresses on other sites up to a size 32)

Curvissa - I haven't tried these yet but clothing up to a size 32.

Clothing At Tesco - Up to a size 28, I assume their clothing stores have a range of plus size items too!

Bon Marche - Clothing up to a size 32, I have yet to try these!

ASOS Curve - My new favourite find. Up to a size 28, but generous sizing so you can usually size down one or two sizes on items. Free postage and returns. I reviewed my most recent ASOS purchase here.

Casta Luna - Up to a size 36.

La Redoute - Up to a size 32, I haven't tried these yet but they have some nice looking pieces

Marks & Spencers - Up to a size 28, I assume their stores has a range of plus size too

H & M - Not a massive range but a few items up to a size 28.

Lovedrobe - Online retailer with a massive range of items up to a size 32. I reviewed some of their summer dresses here.

A selection of Lovedrobe dresses
Domino Dollhouse - American store, lovely pieces up to a size 5XL and sometimes bigger. I reviewed some of their items here.

Excite Clothing - Online retailer with a massive range of items up to a size 32. I reviewed some of their dresses here.

Chubby Cartwheels - Lovely, unique items up to a size 5Xl and bigger.

Yours Clothing - UK clothing retailer with a few stores stocking up to a size 32. I reviewed some of their items here.

New Look Inspire - Recently expanded their range and now offer clothes up to a size 30/32.

This is far from the only options out there - I will have missed, forgotten and probably not know about some! But hopefully that will help some of you, please share & spread the word that fat fashion is possible!

Do you know of any retailers that I have missed? I'd love to hear your recommendations!

Debz xx

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Thursday, 25 July 2013

Someone Tell OK Magazine That Body Bashing Is Not OK!

Dear OK Magazine.

As a BBW Blog I write about a lot of issues surrounding body image, positivity and generally learning to love yourself. Unfortunately in our already very judgemental society it is often a case of 1 step forward and 2 steps back because of publications such as yourself. I did not expect to be writing about the royal baby... but you have really made me feel like I have to!

I understand that our nation is image obsessed and that in order to sell copies of your magazine you want to report on what you think that people want to read. I even understand to an extent when you want to report about celebrities who have lost or gained weight, because that is after all what you think your readership want to read!




But OK Magazine, it is NOT OK to make a nation of new mothers feel like they are not good enough because they have not sprung back into shape. When I saw the front page of your Royal Baby special magazine I cringed a little but it didn't get my back up - maybe it should have, but maybe we are just so used to seeing magazine reporting how new mothers should be fit and back into their tightest jeans within months. I saw your magazine being reported online and simply rolled my eyes that you would release a special addition of your magazine on the day the royal baby was born, simply about how this bundle of joys mother should get back into shape straight away.

And then, this morning I woke up to social networking websites reporting on a (now deleted) tweet and I was flabbergasted that you think it is OK to send something like that - although, maybe the fact that the tweet has been deleted shows that you know that body bashing a brand new mother who gave birth just 26 hours before is not OK!




Living in this world is tough - the obsession with body image is growing and as a publication that sells thousands of copies a week you have a massive bearing on how people feel about things like this. When you send disgusting tweets like this, you send a generation of new mums into panic because they too have a body that shows the evidence of the new life they have created.

Kate took brave steps that most of us do not have to do; she walked out to hundreds of cameras wanting to broadcast her body to the world. She knew that millions (if not billions) were waiting to see what she looked like... and who wants to do that just a day after they have given birth? To send a tweet out that hints towards her looking like she has given birth to more than one person is a disgrace and I cannot understand why you haven’t already issued an apology.

I hope for every expectant mothers and every new mothers sake you see the error of your ways, apologise quickly and tell them that their miracle bodies are absolutely in their right to show the world that they gave birth to a baby and that there is no pressure for anyone to lose weight, tone up, fit back into their jeans quickly.

Take note OK Magazine, because what you did is far from OK!

Debz x



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Thursday, 18 July 2013

Where Can I Buy Confidence?

Some of you may have seen that I was quoted in The DailyTelegraphs Wonder Woman section last week...

“Debz, 30, is an internet marketer, who also runs a plus size fashion blog Wannabe Princess. She knows Miranda through Twitter (there’s definitely a scene) and loves Club Indulge, although she says her size doesn’t put her off going to mainstream nights.

“I’d go anywhere, I don’t really care, but we all come along to this together, so it’s a good opportunity to see people.” Although she admits: “If I can’t fit past someone here, I’ll tell them to move, whereas in a normal club I’d feel like I had to squeeze past or go the long way round.””

Apart from learning that I probably shouldn't talk to journalists when I am drunk, I was glad to have a link to my blog & some new visitors - Hiiii!

Anyway, I guess write-ups like this lead to 'normal' people discovering blogs and BBW websites etc. because it is something that they wouldn't usually Google to find.

I had a lovely email from a lady the day after the article and it made me realise that the blogs that we all write (And I don't mean this in a big myself up way - I mean it generically across the board) are doing some good!

" I stumbled accross your site through an article in a paper about BBW night clubs. I was so happy to see this, you look so confident and your clothes are fab.... I feel that in my life long quest to be thin I have wasted so much time on being unhappy being fat. I have so much more confidence now as I used to feel succesful when im thin and unsuccessful when im fat! I am learning to accept me as a big person, not easy though, any tips please, I love your style and confidence. xx"

I wrote back to the lovely lady (Hello if you are reading this) but it made me think, how exactly do you 'get' confidence?

This has been saved on my computer for years, I do not know the original source - sorry!


A few years back one of the biggest things for me was realising that many people suffer with the same body image issues - whether they're 'justified' or not. I started to post body positivity quotes that I liked on my Facebook and I was surprised at the number of friends that related to what I was saying. I always thought my thin, beautiful friends would never understand how I felt but actually in this image-conscious world we are all fighting the same battle.

What was also a big step for me was realising that if people wanted to pick on something about your image/look/style they will - they'll call you out for wearing glasses, or having the wrong haircut or having the wrong clothes.

This has been saved on my computer for years, I do not know the original source - sorry!


However the truth is that these people don't own me - they don't have any bearing on my life or the good memories I make with the people who do matter. Someone might make a comment in a nightclub or while I am out, but they are the ones who spend their night concentrating on others - I am usually so happy to be out with people I care about that I don't even register other people’s negativity.


I am not saying I am 100% confident - who is!! But what I am saying is that any issues I do have are just that - my own issues. I do not have to let any ill confidences I feel about my body have a negative effect on my life - or even my day. 

Whatever size clothes you wear, you deserve to be happy & have good people in your life, so never let the haters bring you down!

This has been saved on my computer for years, I do not know the original source - sorry!


I hope you're enjoying the sunshine

Debz xx



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