A few days ago I read this post by Lucia at U Can't Wear That and it really stirred something up inside me. If you haven't read it yet, please take 5 minutes out to read it, you won't regret it!
As plus size bloggers it can sometimes seem easy for us to put on a pretty dress, smile for the camera and 'be confident', but the truth is that it doesn't always come that easy. In fact I would say for most of us the journey to loving our bodies has been a long and varied one - with many people not knowing they would ever be in the position of loving their body just as much as they do - but it's proof you can get there! This is a bit of a rambly post, not sure where it's heading or if it even has much point, but I'll publish it anyway!
I honestly think that my confidence came with age - it came with the knowledge that although some people can be cruel most of the time people don't care if you're a fat body in a tight dress or whether you're covering up your calves with leggings - they're too busy going about their own business to pay much attention to you.
However, as Lucia said it would be lovely to live in a world where we don't need to develop like fine wine and get 'better' with age, but instead grow up loving our bodies and being confident in our skin from the get-go. But how do we get there?
Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought that you shouldn't wear what you were wearing because you were too fat, too thin or had the wrong shaped body to pull of such a look? If you have, then you are far from alone! Now imagine your friends thinking that about themselves, ludicrous isn't it! Could you imagine saying any of the things you say to yourself, to your sister, your mother or your friend? The truth is that the horrible words you say to yourself, your loved ones are saying to themselves too and we need to make it stop!
Loving yourself is amazing and feeling confident in your own skin is something that money really can not buy. It's about more than pretty dresses and having access to a varied wardrobe of clothes - its about knowing you can put on any of those clothes and shine. It's about not being scared to walk into a pub on your own (we've all been there) or staying home because you 'have nothing to wear'. Yes, we all have those days and yes we all fight with our wardrobes on Saturday night trying on a thousand dresses only to end up with our original choice - but it is possible to do that with a body you love and are comfortable in.
I have spoken before and I will again about the importance of positive and varied media. I read Heat Magazine and I can't resist Chat Mag, but I also read plus size media, look at art containing disabled bodies, listen to poetry about body positivity and so much more. I honestly believe it has shaped me a life of being happy in my very big body and I can tell you now it's an amazing position to be in.
Much like Lucia in her article, I can only hope that we can all get there - in this world it isn't always easy but it is possible. Be a little easier on yourselves & compliment each other - we're the only ones who can build ourselves up instead of dragging each other down!
Leave someone you love a compliment today!