Showing posts with label love your body. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love your body. Show all posts

Tuesday, 30 September 2014

Loving You, Is Easy Because You're Beautiful

A few days ago I read this post by Lucia at U Can't Wear That and it really stirred something up inside me. If you haven't read it yet, please take 5 minutes out to read it, you won't regret it!

As plus size bloggers it can sometimes seem easy for us to put on a pretty dress, smile for the camera and 'be confident', but the truth is that it doesn't always come that easy. In fact I would say for most of us the journey to loving our bodies has been a long and varied one - with many people not knowing they would ever be in the position of loving their body just as much as they do - but it's proof you can get there! This is a bit of a rambly post, not sure where it's heading or if it even has much point, but I'll publish it anyway!

I honestly think that my confidence came with age - it came with the knowledge that although some people can be cruel most of the time people don't care if you're a fat body in a tight dress or whether you're covering up your calves with leggings - they're too busy going about their own business to pay much attention to you. 

However, as Lucia said it would be lovely to live in a world where we don't need to develop like fine wine and get 'better' with age, but instead grow up loving our bodies and being confident in our skin from the get-go. But how do we get there?


Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought that you shouldn't wear what you were wearing because you were too fat, too thin or had the wrong shaped body to pull of such a look? If you have, then you are far from alone! Now imagine your friends thinking that about themselves, ludicrous isn't it! Could you imagine saying any of the things you say to yourself, to your sister, your mother or your friend? The truth is that the horrible words you say to yourself, your loved ones are saying to themselves too and we need to make it stop!




Loving yourself is amazing and feeling confident in your own skin is something that money really can not buy. It's about more than pretty dresses and having access to a varied wardrobe of clothes - its about knowing you can put on any of those clothes and shine. It's about not being scared to walk into a pub on your own (we've all been there) or staying home because you 'have nothing to wear'. Yes, we all have those days and yes we all fight with our wardrobes on Saturday night trying on a thousand dresses only to end up with our original choice - but it is possible to do that with a body you love and are comfortable in.

I have spoken before and I will again about the importance of positive and varied media. I read Heat Magazine and I can't resist Chat Mag, but I also read plus size media, look at art containing disabled bodies, listen to poetry about body positivity and so much more. I honestly believe it has shaped me a life of being happy in my very big body and I can tell you now it's an amazing position to be in.

Much like Lucia in her article, I can only hope that we can all get there - in this world it isn't always easy but it is possible. Be a little easier on yourselves & compliment each other - we're the only ones who can build ourselves up instead of dragging each other down!

Leave someone you love a compliment today!

Debz xx

Thursday, 18 July 2013

Where Can I Buy Confidence?

Some of you may have seen that I was quoted in The DailyTelegraphs Wonder Woman section last week...

“Debz, 30, is an internet marketer, who also runs a plus size fashion blog Wannabe Princess. She knows Miranda through Twitter (there’s definitely a scene) and loves Club Indulge, although she says her size doesn’t put her off going to mainstream nights.

“I’d go anywhere, I don’t really care, but we all come along to this together, so it’s a good opportunity to see people.” Although she admits: “If I can’t fit past someone here, I’ll tell them to move, whereas in a normal club I’d feel like I had to squeeze past or go the long way round.””

Apart from learning that I probably shouldn't talk to journalists when I am drunk, I was glad to have a link to my blog & some new visitors - Hiiii!

Anyway, I guess write-ups like this lead to 'normal' people discovering blogs and BBW websites etc. because it is something that they wouldn't usually Google to find.

I had a lovely email from a lady the day after the article and it made me realise that the blogs that we all write (And I don't mean this in a big myself up way - I mean it generically across the board) are doing some good!

" I stumbled accross your site through an article in a paper about BBW night clubs. I was so happy to see this, you look so confident and your clothes are fab.... I feel that in my life long quest to be thin I have wasted so much time on being unhappy being fat. I have so much more confidence now as I used to feel succesful when im thin and unsuccessful when im fat! I am learning to accept me as a big person, not easy though, any tips please, I love your style and confidence. xx"

I wrote back to the lovely lady (Hello if you are reading this) but it made me think, how exactly do you 'get' confidence?

This has been saved on my computer for years, I do not know the original source - sorry!


A few years back one of the biggest things for me was realising that many people suffer with the same body image issues - whether they're 'justified' or not. I started to post body positivity quotes that I liked on my Facebook and I was surprised at the number of friends that related to what I was saying. I always thought my thin, beautiful friends would never understand how I felt but actually in this image-conscious world we are all fighting the same battle.

What was also a big step for me was realising that if people wanted to pick on something about your image/look/style they will - they'll call you out for wearing glasses, or having the wrong haircut or having the wrong clothes.

This has been saved on my computer for years, I do not know the original source - sorry!


However the truth is that these people don't own me - they don't have any bearing on my life or the good memories I make with the people who do matter. Someone might make a comment in a nightclub or while I am out, but they are the ones who spend their night concentrating on others - I am usually so happy to be out with people I care about that I don't even register other people’s negativity.


I am not saying I am 100% confident - who is!! But what I am saying is that any issues I do have are just that - my own issues. I do not have to let any ill confidences I feel about my body have a negative effect on my life - or even my day. 

Whatever size clothes you wear, you deserve to be happy & have good people in your life, so never let the haters bring you down!

This has been saved on my computer for years, I do not know the original source - sorry!


I hope you're enjoying the sunshine

Debz xx



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