Showing posts with label plus size bloggers. Show all posts
Showing posts with label plus size bloggers. Show all posts

Friday, 29 May 2015

I Promise To Love You - A Plus Size Promise

A few weeks ago the magnificent Katt from A Curvy Cupcake put up a vlog about how she wanted this summer to be different for her and her body. In the video she promised herself that if she was warm she would show her arms without shame. This might seem like a small deal, but for many the implication is massive!

I loved the idea of this so decided to rope in loads of bloggers to do the same. Today we're all posting our #PlusSizePromise. You can see a list of the other bloggers taking part in this at the bottom!


With Thanks


I Promise To Love You

Sometimes our bodies make us angry - it could be our inability to do something, a dress not fitting right or something else. I promise that even at times if I feel disappointed in my body, I will love it!

I Promise Not To Blame Myself

It is so easy to get angry at the lack of plus size shopping options and feel that you are too fat to shop. Whilst shopping is getting better for people like me (at the upper end of the scale) it is sometimes frustrating to see SO MANY ranges stop at a size 24. Rather than be disappointed that I am too big for these ranges, I promise to blame the retailers for not being savvy enough to make clothes for my body.

I Promise Not To Back Out

I find myself getting in a rutt and finding reasons not to attend events I would like to go to, simply because I am too anxious or afraid. I want to do less of this and more of the things that actually make me happy, if I can drag myself out of the house to attend!

What do you promise yourself this summer?

Debz xx

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Monday, 18 May 2015

It's Just A Curvy Convention With Voyeuristic Intention

On Saturday I attended the very first Curvy Convention in London and I have to say that I had a great day! 

As ever I expect there to be a barrage of blogger reviews and photos online so I don't want to talk too much about the day, because I think you can read that anywhere! I have to say though, that the day was much better than I expected, for the first ever one it did great. One thing I would say is that the range of models they used was brilliant - I am sure you'll see in everyone's photos that there were short, tall, all sizes, ages and colours which was fantastic. I felt it was a shame that the largest model was a size 26 I would love to have seen the brands showcasing their items in all of the sizes they sold - IE a size 32. But as I mused over the event yesterday I wondered if there were other 'representations' that were missed which I didn't notice because I was too busy thinking about myself. But overall, the range of models was noticeably varied and fantastic!

The Sense of Community

I joke about attending the Curvy Convention with voyeuristic intention, but it is a little like that. There are not many places you can go where you can see hundreds of women who look just like you! I love that I can lust over dresses and ask people where they got them from, with a strong chance that I will be able to wear it too! Watching catwalks, getting up close and personal with brands and chatting to the people who make and sell you your clothes is fantastic. You can speak to them about what you would like to see and they can tell you about their plans it's brilliant.


Me and the Topsy Curvy Girls, Blogger Babes, Lucia, myself and Kat (Thanks for the pic!)

I wrote a long soppy post on Facebook last night, but I really want to repeat it here.


I always feel lucky for the inspirational people I have in my life - but then I remember I put myself there. Rather than listen to prejudices and the media about my body and lifestyle choices I sought out a community that simply says 'it's ok to be you'. And I tell you now, those 5 words are so powerful. I spent yesterday surrounded by amazing plus size women showcasing fashion - not just clothing options but real, forward thinking fashion for fat bodies. You can tell me it's not needed or wrong but hundreds of women in that room will tell you differently. Being in a room of women who lift each other up (so many people coming up to me about ‪#‎wearethethey‬) is amazing. I then spent the evening drinking rum, tequila and sambuca in a room full of people who I would never have met if it wasn't for this funny little fat world we've worked hard to carve for ourselves. Feeling a bit soppy but the point is don't ever feel that because you don't fit in that you are wrong. Instead find (or build) a community of people who think just like you - it'll change your life. Possibly still drunk but #wearethethey and we're stronger than Jamelia's words

Lucie Fat Beauty, Caroline Curvy Wordy, Sam Fatty Boom Tatty and Georgina She Might Be Loved

The truth is that the community WE HAVE made is fantastic. We have come together to create something special and yes, we can't all arrange events but the fact that we travel to attend them, work together to promote them and generally get together to make them work makes me so happy. It might just be a few times a year but these events are fantastic and I can only hope that everyone has a chance to find something just as special in their lives! I can't wait to go back to Curvy Con next year! 

See you at Style XL?

Debz xx

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Wednesday, 22 April 2015

Jamelia - We Are The 'They' #Wearethethey

Unless you have been living under a rock for the last few days, you will have heard about Jamelias comments regarding clothes shopping on the high street. I blogged about it here.

Today she has 'apologised'. Reassuring us that she only meant 'extremes' in sizes and that she feels the high street should stock sizes 6 to 20... It really is quite laughable. 


I feel that by saying 'they' should shop in specialist shops and 'they' should be made to feel uncomfortable it is all very anonymous. It is easy to say that a bunch of blank faces (and bodies) should be treated a certain way, but what Jamelia (and anyone who agrees with her) needs to realise is that WE are real people. We have REAL feelings, REAL jobs, friends and families. When you say that people should make 'them' feel uncomfortable you are encouraging them to treat US differently.. US as in real people.



So, Jamelia and anyone who feels that 'they' should be made to feel uncomfortable...


WE ARE THE 'THEY'






Sam // Lisa // Kate // Daisy




Lindsey // Kerry // Charlene //  April //


Zoe // Michaela // Lucia

Susan // Lisa

Dawn // Lauren // Alyssa // Janet 


Katie // Cat // Rebecca // Vicky

Sharon // Katt // Joanne Sian


Elaine // Hayley // Sue

Shereen // Kerry-Ann // Tammy 


Nikki // Claire // Fig // Leah

It is worth pointing out these these women are bloggers and non bloggers, wives, girlfriends, sisters, mothers, cousins, friends, white, black, tall, short, large, extra large, casual dressers, vintage dressers, tea drinkers, bike riders, gym goers, couch potatoes..... and above all else the women that Jamelia feels should be MADE TO FEEL ASHAMED just for buying clothes to go on their back.

If you feel the same as me then please share this post on ANY social media you can. Let's spread the word. If you're below a size 6 or above a size 20 then tweet and Instagram your photos. Let's put even more faces to the people Jamelia feels should be made to feel uncomfortable. 

#WeAreTheThey and we are not ashamed.

Use the hashtag on any posts so I can see you all!!

Debz xx


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Friday, 19 December 2014

When Plus Size Fashion Gets It Right - H&M Did Good!

You will see a few blog posts down that I blogged about the H&M Tulle Skirt. As soon as I saw it on the website I knew I had to have it. It was like nothing I had seen in plus size fashion before. especially in a size 30 (and beyond, considering how stretch it is).

It sounds a bit silly, but news of the skirt travelled quite quickly through the social scene amongst plus size bloggers, simply because it was so unique! Now over the past few weeks you'll have seen a number of bloggers blog it and that is testament to just how good it is.





Lucia from UCantWearThat


Leah from Just Me Leah


Claudia from Curvy Claudia

Naomi from Diamonds N Pearls


Look at all the lovely, different ways it has been styled!

The skirt is SOLD OUT in every size on the H&M website. It came back in stock in a size 2XL one afternoon this week and was sold out by dinner(tea?) time.

Now, tell me that there is no a need for pretty, affordable fast fashion in plus sizes. Tell me that up to a size 24 is all that sells and that there is not a market for 24+. Because if you tell me that, I'll tell you that it is because the opportunities just aren't there! I just know that if people at the higher end of plus size fashion had the chance to buy beautiful clothing in their size they would snap it up. The Estellas by Lady V London and Fuller Figure Fuller Bust are another testament to this! (They're in the sale this weekend - GO GO GO!)

I am quick to complain when fashion retails don't do sizes high enough (#HeresWhatIWouldHaveSpent) but I also want to celebrate when things go well. Fingers crossed the skirt comes back into stock (in a plethora of colours would be fantastic!)!

What have you see that has been done well in the plus size fashion industry lately?

Debz? 


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Friday, 26 September 2014

The Lady Who Went To Tea Featuring Lady V London

You might remember a few months I wrote very excitedly about the Estella Dress by Lady V London, designed by Georgina at Fuller Figure, Fuller Bust. At my birthday celebrations earlier this week I could have cried with happiness when my friends presented me with a package that contained one of them! I am SO happy to say I am now a proud Estella Dress owner and it feels good!




This morning I ran a Macmillan Coffee Morning locally to me and I used it as an excuse to wear the dress out for the first time... Well tea and cake does go perfectly with a pretty dress like this. The dress fits perfectly and I love the shape it gives my body. 





I had to wear a vest to underneath to protect my modesty and I would probably usually wear it with a cream or white best top but I don't think the black top looks bad at all! (On that note, I hear that  the new out Lady V London dresses have an improved fit with a stitch on the wrap part at the front so I would be interested to try it).



The material is a lot thicker than I expected but not in a way that makes it too hot or too stiff to wear. It doesn't have much stretch but that does mean that it 'brings you in' and I love the shape that this gives me. I wear the waist quite high so the length is perfect but you could easily get away with this if you were taller too!




Lady V London have just released a range of polka dot dresses in the same shape, which I would love to try especially with the extra stitch on the wrap to give a better fit.

Do you have an Estella dress? Which one is your favourite?

Debz x

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Friday, 19 September 2014

As Seen On Someone - A Look at ASOS Curve

I don't know if it is just me, but I really feel like ASOS Curve is killing it at the moment. What I like about browsing the range of clothes at ASOS Curve is that it always feels like there is a selection of outfit types... like they're a plus size retailer that actually recognises people like different things. From skater and swing dresses to over sized t shirts and bodycon dresses there is all sorts!

I have bought a few items from ASOS over the last few weeks, some of which I haven't worn yet and some of which I just haven't photographed yet. New additions to my own personal ASOS Curve collection include



I love a bit of floral and I think that ASOS do these patterns so well!

I am off to London this weekend and all of these items are in my suitcase, so I will finally have some photos to show you. In the mean time - here's some amazing bloggers looking great in their ASOS outfits for my As Seen on Someone feature (clever eh?)

Hannah from fhttp://fabulouslyfatfashion.com/ looking brill in her ASOS jeans




Miss Kathryn from MissKathrynsMistakes in a beautiful sunflower dress (I regret not buying this)


Mrs Bebe in looking great in ASOS jeans and shirt and some ASOS dungarees


Laura from Laura on Life in an oversize graffiti print dress from ASOS



Lucia from U Can't Wear That in a paisley print dress & a squiggle print dress



Big Fat Betty in her ASOS outfit



Leah from Just Me Leah in a lovely ASOS strapless dress


A bit of smock dress loveliness from Natty Nikki!




Last but not least, Pink Gemma




Of course, I've worn the odd bit of ASOS in the past too ;)




Have you tried ASOS yet? Did you like it?

Debz xx

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Thursday, 18 September 2014

Yours Clothing At Westfields, Derby

A few months ago (I haven't had a chance to post this for ages - sorry)I went to visit Lucia from www.ucantwearthat.com and as she lives in Derby we decided to visit the Yours Clothing store at Westfields. Being able to visit a physical store and try on clothes in my size is amazing and something that I really enjoy! Actually Westfields in Derby is really good for plus size shopping, so if you get the chance to go - make sure you do! They have Yours Clothing, Simply Be, Evans, Bon Marche, New Look Inspire and Primark! 

I wrote a piece for the Yours Clothing website about my visit to the store, you can read that here!

When I visited I wore my turquoise dress from Yours Clothing and thought I would share some pics. You can see the original pics here but I thought this one shows the lovely pattern and colours a bit better. Excuse my squinty eyes - it was SO sunny! (I really miss the sunshine!)



Look how pretty the Yours Clothing shop is!!



Have you visited a Yours Clothing store? What did you think?

They're actually doing a pretty good job of opening up loads of stores up and down the UK - find your nearest Yours Clothing store here.

Remember If you're new to Yours Clothing you can use my Blogger18 code to get £10 off of a £20 spend on their website.

Debz xx

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Sunday, 14 September 2014

When A Former Fat Girls 'Tells Us Like It Is'

Dear Vicky Chandler

Here I was, spending a Sunday morning on my sofa catching up on Sunday Brunch when someone tweeted a link out to your article (For those who haven't seen the 10 Fashion Staples Every Plus Size Girl Should Own article you can read that here).



I must say I found in quite enlightening, I had no idea that as a short, fat girl I should avoid wearing ankle boots or that pencil skirts should be a certain pattern depending on my size. Of course, I already knew that my fat body should never be dressed up with horizontal stripes - every fat girl knows that rule.

I had no idea that the shape of my jeans mattered to a stranger on the internet, who would spend their time writing an article to tell me that delicate necklaces are a no no or that I shouldn't wear tops with a spaghetti strap - WHO KNEW!

I am of course, being a sarcastic little princess today because I think you, your rules and your body shaming are disgraceful. I feel sad for you that you need to write an article on how strangers should or shouldn't dress. Your weight loss is great and I am happy for you that you are happier in your skin  but just because when you were 5 stone heavier you wouldn't wear halternecks or thought that you looked bad in cropped length jacket that doesn't mean that your rules fit everyone.

So... Just to prove my point I put a call out to the people who live a life breaking your silly, pointless rules & just look how good they look whilst they do it!!

Rule: "steer clear of wide legged jeans if most of your weight is carried on your bottom half.. FYI NO SUPER SKINNY"

Skinny jeans on Arched Eyebrow

Rule: "Big designs are a no-no..."

Leah from thirtysomethingcurvyme.com
I stay right away from big designs.... *Sigh*
Rule: "Stripes are the hardest pattern to tackle, but the key is to avoid horizontal ones"
Meeeee!
Emily from http://www.fashion-north.com/


Kim from Call Me Kim looking good in stripes!
Laura from http://laurapantslifestyle.blogspot.co.uk/

Rule: "I’m afraid that studs and delicate necklaces just don’t cut it"

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Kathryn in studs and a delicate neck chain  - shock horror!


I love Lauras studs!
Georgine Horne breaks some more rules!
Rule: "Pencil skirts... If you’re bigger on the bottom half, stick to a solid colour, preferably darker, and pair this with a lighter coloured top. If you’re slimmer on the bottom and want more of a curved effect, a brighter, more daring pattern will do just the trick."
Kathyrn looking great!


A pencil skirt AND ankle boots from Georgina at http://www.shemightbeloved.com/ - Sin City!

Rule: RE Jackets "Avoid anything cropped and instead opt for hip length and longer"

Kathryn from http://www.misskathrynsmisstakes.co.uk/ in a great cropped jacket!

Oh Leah, not a cropped jacket AND stripes. Tut tut! ;)


Hannah from http://fabulouslyfatfashion.com/

Rule: "Not to state the obvious, here, but spaghetti straps and halter necks don’t do us any favours"
Georgina from Fuller Figure Fuller Bust - Spaghetti Straps, Halterneck and a moustache - winner!
Halterneck - OOPS!
Spaghetti straps - Oh no!
The lovely Mags from Twitter and friends


Urmm.. Straps!! Lucia at www.ucantwearthat.com

Rule: "PLEASE, avoid ankle boots that seem to cut your height in half"
I see no problem with ankle boots here!
Sarah from http://plussizeproud.wordpress.com/ breaking the 'rules' as usual!
Leah from http://justmeleah.co.uk/

Ladies (and gents) STOP listening to these rules complied by strangers to tell you what you should and should not be wearing.


If you put something on and YOU think YOU look good and you like it on YOUR body that is all that matters. If you don't like ankle boots or halternecks that is fine too - your body your rules! And as these photos  show - the rules people make up mean nothing anyway because they look FABULOUS!


Do you have pics that break these rules?? I'd love to see! Send them to me on Instagram, Facebook or Twitter and use the hashtag #IBreakPlusSizeRules



A massive thank you to all the bloggers who raided old outfit posts, instagrams, dropboxes and more to help me put together this amazing collection of photos - you're all rule breakers and I couldn't be prouder! Some of the photos might be in a mismatch order because they came through so thick and fast on Twitter and Facebook. I couldn't use them all but they were all brilliant! Lots of them were hard to know where to place on the rules, because you all break numerous rules within one outfit - love it!
Debz xx

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