Friday, 25 January 2019

Does Life Begin at 30? 40? 50?

As a nation, we tend to make a big deal out of age. When it comes to milestones, we’re supposed to have achieved certain things by certain ages and sometimes this seemingly tick-box exercise can be really draining. If you don’t have a mortgage, or children, or a career by certain ages then the media will have you believe that you’ve not achieved what you are supposed to have done; and that is enough to leave anyone feeling bad!

When Does Life Begin?

One of the big things we do is concentrate on life milestones – life begins at 30! You really know yourself when you’re 40! Wait until you’re 50, you won’t look back! However, I’m not sure I’m a big fan of this way of thinking, because really life can start whenever you want and you can achieve whatever you want, when you want and there are no rules.

The truth is that, if you are in the right mindset – life begins today! If there is something you want to change, or something new that you want to try – today could very well be the day you make that happen!

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Making The Best Of Your Life

Whether you’re considering life after 50 years old, you’re approaching 40 and you’re not sure what to do next or you are about to turn 21 and are scared about the prospect of a whole life in front of you, the best thing you can do is simply embrace life and live your best one.

As most of you will know, I’m not a big fan of rules and therefore I simply am an advocate for doing what you want and when. If this does mean that you embrace a big milestone birthday like turning 50 and use this as an excuse to try a new hobby or go on a new adventure, then I say go for it! However, if you’re no where near a milestone birthday then why put it off? Go get that new adventure today! You have nothing to lose!

Finding New Things To Try

If you are at a stage where you want to try something new then why not get some inspiration online? Pinterest is full of crafting ideas and hobbies that you can try. Instagram is full of holiday destinations if you want to travel somewhere new and bloggers are always talking about their latest hobbies and adventures. Thanks to the internet and social media, we have a whole world at our finger tips full of ideas and inspiration so make sure you make the most of them!

So, although I am not one for New Years Resolutions, and we’re well on the way to being done with January (YAY) if there is something you have been considering trying in the future why not make 2019 the year that you make it happen? It doesn’t have to be your 50th birthday this year, you don’t have to be turning 60  - just embrace it and make it happen, what are you waiting for?

Debz x

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Wednesday, 23 January 2019

Time To Start Thinking About A Spring Wardrobe?

It might be a case of wishful thinking, but is it too soon to start thinking about Spring? I know most of us have woken up today to work full of ice and snow and January feels like it has been about 10 weeks long, but please can we start to think about Spring and warmer weather?

Spring Wardrobe

What I like about Spring is that you can wear pretty much what you have done in the colder weather, but with less layers! So if you’re into wearing designer ladies tracksuits you can do so without a massive coat and thick socks – which is perfect for me! Most of you will know I am not a fan of winter at all, so a life without having to wear a coat is definitely one I dream of!

Shopping For New Clothing

Of course, one thing that is GREAT about this time of year is the January sales, of which I’ve noticed OD’s Designer Clothing has a great one! This is fantastic for being able to treat yourself to some new bits and pieces without having to worry about the price tag too much!

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What I have been doing since January is a big sort out of the clothes I already have. I’ve sorted them into boxes for storage and boxes for stuff that I want to sell, as well as many coat hangers full of stuff I want to keep. I still have a few bags of stuff to sort out, but it has given me a firmer idea of what I have and therefore what I might want to buy.

When you know what you have in your wardrobe, it makes it much easier to shop for new things. You know what you have and what new items you can match with these so you can basically get a new outfit without having to buy everything brand new! For example, I discovered a few skirts I had forgotten about, so in the January sales I’ll be on the hunt for some new tops and possibly boots to go with this!

Be honest, am I too keen thinking about Spring or are you with me on this one?

Debz xx

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Finding The Right D├ęcor For The Perfect Home

Whether you’re moving home or have just decided to give your house a bit of a spruce up, shopping for home accessories can be really exciting. I love that there are so many choices out there now that you really can decorate and style your home in anyway that you like. There are plenty of retailers online that offer some amazing stuff and then places like Etsy offer homemade and outside of the box options to ensure that there is something for everyone. Of course, this also means that whatever you want to spend there should be something for you too!
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What Do I Need To Buy?
Chances are, like me, you’re on a budget when it comes to buying things for the home. Oh, it would be lovely to just be able to buy exactly what we want without worry but for most of us that simply isn’t the case. For me, when it comes to deciding what I need to buy, I start with a list! I’ll be honest, I do love a list so that probably comes as no surprise. I generally write down each room in the house and make a note of items that I really like and want to stay and then a list of items that I would like to replace, or simply don’t have at all.
This often gives me a good starting point on what I need to buy and how much I need to spend out. It also lets me make a decision on what is priority and perhaps what is more of a want rather than a need!
Finding The Right Items
Once I have this I can start to put together ideas of what I would like to buy. Pinterest is really good for this if you want to spend a bit of time exploring options as it allows you to get inspiration from all over the place. I actually discovered a really cool website called Lions Homes recently and they have loads of really cool items, so it’s always worth having a browse and seeing what you can find out there.
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For me, I know that I want to get more funky accessories, wall art etc around my home so that is definitely something that I am on the look out for. I love the accessories section on Lions Home because they have loads of different items, and a hand menu down the side which makes it easy for me to look at exactly what I want.
Share Your Ideas With Me
One thing I love doing is look at peoples home style choices online. I’m always looking at places like Instagram and getting home envy! I definitely want to perfect my home style choices so if you have any ideas on where I can shop or where I can get some really cool inspiration from please let me know as I would really love the advice!

Debz xx

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Tuesday, 22 January 2019

How To Get Your Ex Back

How to get your ex back

This sounds like a familiar situation we’ve once found ourselves in at some point in our lives, right? Yes, am talking about break ups. In as much as love is always regarded as a good thing, it can turn people to monsters when you start having misunderstandings between you and your partner and finally hell brakes lose and just like that you broke up.

Good thing however is, if this was something that was meant to be the two of you will most probably find a way to sort things out and hopefully get back together again. But then, what do you need to do when you finally realize that it was you who was on the wrong side?

Unless you wanted it to happen, more often people become remorseful and start to look for ways in which they can bring back the love they once shared and be happy again. In the process of trying to get back together with your ex, some of us do things that will only worsen the situation hence ruin their chances of getting back together. Anyway, if you ever find yourself in this situation, below are some few pointers that can help you on how to get your ex back.

  • Give space
If you just broke up with your partner, it is always not a wise thing to go running after him or her after a month and try to contact them.

Some try to contact their ex even before a month is over. This is wrong as both of you need to take some time and cool off probably try to come in terms with the situation.

Remember that you’ve just been in an argument and your ex might probably be irritated. Trying to contact them will only make the situation worse.

  • Friends and families
Friends will be there when things are not going well but family will always be there. You don’t need to isolate yourself from them as they might give you some help and all the support you need during your tough times.

Open up and talk about it with them, let it all out and free yourself from it. This will prevent you from doing something stupid and keep you in good mental and emotional state.

Some often keep things to themselves and then suddenly decide to commit suicide when they can’t handle it any more. You can keep yourself occupied by going out with your friends and try to feel free as this will help you feel better.

  • The challenge ahead
After realizing that you are the course of the problem, it will be up to you to try and make things better. This is usually the most challenging part you will have hence the need to be fully prepared to face it.

As said before, it is important if you share your thoughts and feelings with other people so as to help you feel better. Keeping everything to yourself and leaving with sorrows can be dangerous as this might lead you to do things that will only worsen the situation.

Try to go for some confidence and boost your self-esteem by getting fit and also improving on your general look. Click here to see how to handle a break up.

  • Try a slight contact

Remember when we said you need to give yourselves some time to chill out? Well, this doesn’t necessarily mean that you go mute forever. After some time, you can try going for a slight contact and perhaps try texting just some casual stuff.

Ask about how he or she has been and things like that. Remember to be more careful not to blow up your chances by pushing her to meet with you or even start asking stupid things. Just be light on the conversation, keep it short and precise.

  • Don’t play games
Well, there are many games that you can go ahead and play but don’t make yourself cleaver and think that you can make your ex jealous by quickly finding another partner.

This is always not healthy at all as it will make your ex to feel that he or she made the right choice breaking up with you thus ruining your chances of getting back together.

A lot of people always struggle to find love and would do anything just to have a perfect relationship with their partners.

However, since no man is perfect, you might face a few challenges here and there but the right thing to do is find a way to solve the issues together as partners.

You need to build a great trust between the two of you and be patient enough to give each other time to adjust. But if none of that is working and you find yourselves breaking up, these tips might help you get your ex back if done correctly. Also, there might be signs that you should get back together, don’t ignore them. 

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Friday, 18 January 2019

Buying The Perfect Wedding Dress

If you're getting married, the chances are you've given some consideration to what you're going to wear for the big day. In the past options for plus size brides have been limited, which is a shame because it can promote the culture that you must lose weight in order to get married. I've recently been asked to introduce AW Bridal to you, and I am delighted to say they have dresses up to a size 30!

Although I am not on the look out for a plus size wedding dress, I am always delighted when fat fashion gets a look in and shops offer a size range that suit people! I think it is really important that people can wear whatever they want no matter their size and I am glad that retailers are catching up with this thought too!

I've had a browse of the AW Bridal website and they see to have something for everyone. I know when I was a bridesmaid at a friends wedding a few years ago finding a dress was a worry - so I am glad to say that AW bridesmaid dresses are a thing!

Making Shopping Easy

One thing I liked about their site is that they have a really handy size chart, which you can display measurements in centimeters or inches. Stuff like this can make finding dresses so much easier - especially when it is something like a wedding dress which is essential that it fits correctly.

If you are shopping for something like this, I would recommend measuring yourself accurately rather than guessing, as this gives you the best chance of getting something that fits you well and is comfortable to wear!

Their dresses look exquisite and they really do have something that would be to the style of most brides and bridesmaids looking for a traditional dress!

Have you shopped for a wedding dress? What was your experience like?


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Tuesday, 15 January 2019

Planning the Perfect Wedding

When it comes to planning a wedding, there are probably hundreds of of magazines, blog posts and guides you can read that will tell you how to have the perfect day. However, as handy as these guides are - who really can say what is perfect?

The truth is that there is always a  big build up to a wedding, with worry about everything running smoothly and going to plan. This is fine, but I imagine that sometimes the worry of this can spoil the lead up to the big day and in some cases the day itself. The truth is that there is no real set list of what makes a wedding perfect. We're all different, have different tastes, needs and budgets. If I were planning a wedding, I think the most important thing would be staying true to myself and ensuring that whatever I do plan, I am doing it because I want to and not because I think it is what is expected or what I think my guests will like.

Planning What You Want

Whatever you plan, your guests just want you to be happy and enjoy your day. So, make sure you plan what you want to do and stick to it. That being said, there is nothing wrong with reading up on some wedding inspiration and getting ideas on what you would like for your big day. You can even Google ideas around what you would like and really plan something special.

For example, I am a massive fan of photos - I don't think you can take to many! So something like a wedding photo swap would be perfect. There are loads of ways that you can get photos involved in your wedding - for example I would almost definitely have a photo booth with some fun props! These are great ice-breakers to help get everyone chatting together and you'll be left with some fun photos and amazing memories to look back on.

Get Inspired

The internet is a hive of wedding inspiration, so you can definitely take something away from these. I think, for me, the important thing would be to not copy items exact – because whatever type of wedding I would have, I want it to be unique.

Don’t forget as well, there are many different types of ceremony you can have, even if the big white wedding idea isn’t for you. You can also use some wedding ideas of other parties and special occasions. Want a photo booth for your 40th birthday? Favours for the table when you turn 30? Guest book at your 21st? Why not!

Just remember that whatever type of celebration you are arranging, it is for you and all about you. So plan something fun, but make sure it is something that you want and you’ll enjoy. Plan it and then get on with enjoying it, because if we’re all honest with ourselves – that is the most important part!

What are your must haves for a wedding or party?

Debz xx

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Thursday, 10 January 2019

Clothing Alterations And Beyond: How To Feel Confident In Whatever You Wear

Confidence is the key to happiness. Feeling great in whatever you wear could change how you live each day.

For years, society has dictated what’s in fashion and what should be in our wardrobes. We feel under pressure to fit in with the latest trends or to buy clothes specifically ‘suited’ to our body types, even though they may not necessarily be very ‘us’. It seems to be the way of the world these days.
However, to really become happy in your own skin when it comes to how you dress, it’s important to listen to yourself. What do you feel good in? Which style of fashion would you love to wear day to day? The answers to these questions should speak volumes.
So, how can you make sure you’re always confident with what’s in your wardrobe? Here are a few steps to consider:

Don’t be a sheep!

If you don’t feel confident in your own skin, it can show. As we’ve already mentioned, you need to listen to yourself. If you’re simply filling your wardrobe with the latest winter fashion that isn’t really ‘you’, then what’s the point?
You’ll have your own unique style hidden away somewhere – everyone does! This is what you should be embracing. Want to wear dresses whatever the weather? Are ripped jeans and a baggy shirt more your thing? Go for it! Don’t shy away from who you really are.

Cheaper can be better!

To be fashionable in your own way, you don’t have to search through designer brand rails or spend a fortune on an outfit. More than likely, you’ll find something perfect on the high street or even a charity store. In fact, sometimes, you can find incredibly similar items from a selection of different clothing stores!

Clothing alterations can be a godsend.

If you have a lot of great clothes already stored in your wardrobe but they don’t really fit anymore, you don’t need to throw them out completely. Clothing alterations could be just the ticket and adjusting your current clothing stash could be all that is needed. Whether you need jeans alterations or your favourite dress taking in or letting out, you can, a lot of the time, salvage your favourite pieces.
It can also be relatively simple to make a few tweaks to an outfit to make it suitable for any occasion. If you have a shirt you like to use as an everyday item, for example, then adding a belt and some leggings can make a lot of difference! It’s all about using your imagination to your advantage.

Don’t pay too much attention to size.

Size is just a number. If you’re thinking you need to be a certain size to fit in with the fast-paced fashion world, think again. It’s more important that an item of clothing fits you instead of you forcing yourself into a size that is uncomfortable, and, thankfully, a lot of clothing brands and stores are quite accommodating. Do your research and choose what fits!

Do the opinions of others matter?

Sometimes, the opinion of a friend or family member can be invaluable to a person. We’ve all asked the question, “Does this suit me?” when waltzing out of a clothing store’s changing room. However, sometimes, you just know when something looks good on you.
A dress, for example, may not be to the taste of others around you, but that doesn’t stop you feeling a million dollars in it. So, instead of always listening to what other people say, listen to yourself once in a while! After all, you do know best when it comes to your fashion choices.

Dress to impress – the right clothes will improve your confidence!

Hopefully, these tips will encourage you to live for the moment, and to dress for you and no one else. Do you have any tips in mind to stay confident in yourself? What is your preferred style? Let me know in the comments!

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