Monday, 2 December 2019

Ways To Build Confidence

When it comes to being confident, there isn't really a right or wrong way to get there. For most people it is a long journey, where things become easier and harder as they go along. Sometimes it can be a case of faking it until you make it, it all depends on you.

One of the things to remember is that it is an individual journey. What someone else tells you has worked for them may not work for you. So take things slow, work out what feels good for you and then go from there.

Seeking Inspiration

Social media is a great way of seeking out new inspiration. Mainstream media tends to bombard us with lots of people who look really similar, which can be disheartening when it comes to yourself. I made a conscious decision a few years ago to follow lots of different bodies. This gives me a constant reminder that all types of people exist and that just because I don't look like people on TV or in magazines, doesn't mean that my body is wrong.

Get Educated

There are different ways to get educated. I chose to look up lots about body positivity, fat politics etc. when I wanted to learn more. This has given me strength to stand up to people who may not have the same opinions as me. You might choose to sign up to somewhere like Tavistock Tutors to learn a new skill or refresh your memory in a qualification, Whatever you choose, learning more about a subject can be a great way to build your mental strength and confidence.

Getting Through Each Day

There are lots of little ways that you can help yourself feel more confident throughout the day. I find that being organised and knowing what I am up to during the day helps as it means that I feel less frazzled and anxious. If I am going anywhere on my own I always wear headphones and blast out some of my favourite tunes and I always make sure I wear comfortable shoes.

To be honest there is no ABC guide that I can write to help you become more confident. Just remind yourself that you are worthy and that your worth is not based on how you look. Wear clothes that you like and are comfortable, not what you feel other people should see you in. Follow a range of social media accounts and read lots about subjects that interest you. It can be a hard journey but it’s definitely worth it!

What confidence building tips would you like to share?


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Thursday, 28 November 2019

A Rainy Saturday in London

Despite loving London and even living there for 2 years, I don't go there nearly often enough! There is something magical about arriving into London, I've always loved it! When I lived up North I would arrive into the city via Euston and last weekend I got there via Waterloo and both were just as exciting!

This time, I went around London Bridge and there local area there. It's an area I haven't seen much of, but I am glad I took the plunge and visited. I took my partners daughter and we explored so much of the city in one day, it really was action packed! Next time I might splash out on a London Bridge Hotel and make a weekend of it!

We started the day at the British Museum before a trip to Harrods (just for a window-shop!). We then went from there to London Bridge to meet some friends for a long, leisurely lunch. We browsed a little bit of Borough Market, had a walk around the local area and accidentally stumbled across Doughnut Time - which was a very, very happy accident.

During the evening we met up with some family friends who invited us along to The Sky Gardens. WOW! This place is phenomenal and I am so glad we go to guy. The inside is brilliant and the views across London from 35 storeys up were fantastic. 

I really loved the fact that they had the windows engraved with what you could see from that particular frame, it was a really nice touch for someone like me who is geographically challenged!

If you're due to visit London I can't recommend enough.

We ended our day with a browse around the South Bank Christmas Markets before we walked to Waterloo to catch our train home. 

I am so glad I got to visit the capital again and it's definitely reminded me that I would like visit again!

Have you been? What are your favourite bits?

Debz x

*Collaborative Post - The spending money was gifted by, but all views are my own*

Wednesday, 23 October 2019

How to Fund a House Move

You've bought your very first house, laid down a sizeable deposit, paid stamp duty, the surveyor’s cost and conveyancers fees. It has been a costly process, but you’re certain that it will have been so worthwhile once you are able to settle down in your brand-new home. But wait. There's one more aspect of the process that you’ve forgotten about: the big move itself! So, what is moving house going to cost you? How can you finance it, and what exactly do you need to know? Find out below.

How much is a move likely to cost?

Many Britons are shocked to discover that the total cost of moving house can set them back £1,192.67, on 
average. In other words, it is safe to say that the entire process definitely isn’t cheap.

How to finance your move

Obviously, the best possible way to finance your move is to save up for it well in advance of looking for the perfect house to buy. Unfortunately, when you factor in having to save up for a 10% deposit as well, you may only be financially ‘ready’ to buy a property by the time you're 50! As a result, many people rely on the ‘Bank of Mum and Dad’ for help. Your parents may be willing to lend you a certain amount of money at little to no interest, which is much more viable and affordable than having to apply for an additional loan from the bank to settle your moving costs.

One of the best ways to finance your move, or at least keep the associated costs to a minimum is to make use of an online moving costs calculator. This will give you a good general idea of what you can expect to pay and will help you to evaluate any quotes that you receive from moving companies properly. Much like you can use websites like The Money Hub to compare different mortgage deals in an effort to find the best one, it is essential that you compare moving company quotes before accepting the right one. Just remember that when it comes to moving companies, the cheapest isn’t always the best. Look closely at the details of what the company is offering (do they offer to pack for you? Do they specialise in transporting fragile or sentimental items?) and speak to friends and family members for advice in terms of which companies they recommend before making a final choice.

If you find yourself strapped for cash after paying all the other fees associated with investing in a property, remember that it is indeed possible to rent a van and tackle the move yourself (hopefully with a bit of help from your loved ones!). It will take a lot of work, time and planning, but it will undoubtedly save you hundreds of pounds in the long run.

However you choose to finance your move, keep your eye on the prize. You will soon be all moved into the brand-new place that you will call ‘home' for many years to come.

Thursday, 3 October 2019

The True Icons - How Simply Be's Latest The New Icons Misses The Mark

If you follow any plus size influencers online then the chances are you've read about #TheNewIcons over the last couple of days. The prominent Simply Be campaign boasts that t is time to let plus size people to the front of campaigns, movies, adverts etc. and then (in my opinion) fails to do what they promised. The project launched yesterday with a big event in London and the models featured looked amazing (no negative thoughts towards them for this campaign at all) but even the black and gold dresses they wore are only available up to a size 26 - Not really iconic if you ask me!

You have probably seen on social media that I am far from alone in feeling like this and lots of people feel excluded and are fed-up of being excluded consistently in campaigns like this...So, Simply Be... Here are just a few of #TheTrueIcons you're missing out on by continuing to ignore a majority of body types!

L-R The Tall Plus Size - RaRa Poole  - What Gem Curve - Kirsty Louise

L - R - Rebs, Daisy, Lucy, Me!

L - R - Annie, Curvy Girl Thin, Odds and Trends, The Thirty Something Mum 

Want to join in? Tweet or Instagram your pics using #TheTrueIcons - Why not head over to see what is being shared!

Debz x

Saturday, 28 September 2019

Creating A Wedding Day That Every Guest Will Remember

A wedding day is a special event. Obviously, if you’re getting married, then you know that your wedding is going to be the best day of your life. But what about your guests? Your friends and family are the most important people in your life, but they’ve probably been to weddings before. They’ll probably go to weddings in the future, too. What’s going to make your special day stick out in their heads? Let’s try to answer that question. Here’s how to create a wedding day that every guest will remember.

Hire a wedding planner

You probably have amazing ideas for your wedding, but you might not know how to make those amazing ideas happen. That’s why you should hire a wedding planner. You can create a book of ideas to help your planner. That way, they’ll know what you expect of your big day. Obviously, that doesn’t mean you should leave the planning entirely up to them; your input will be important. The planner will want to know that they’re doing everything in the way you imagined. The purpose of hiring a professional is to impress every single guest with your expertly-crafted wedding. Of course, you might want some inspiration so you have a good book full of ideas to give to your planner. The following suggestions might help.

Provide memorable entertainment

Your ceremony might be very traditional and relatively similar to every other wedding your guests have attended, but the reception is your opportunity to truly surprise people. You need to provide memorable entertainment for them. A wedding band will provide a nice ambience, and the best man’s speech will probably receive a few laughs, but you can go further than that. Perhaps you could hire some retro cars to transport your guests from the main wedding venue to the reception venue. You might even want to hire a bouncy castle for the kids.

Perhaps you could hire a famous artist to play at your wedding reception. You don’t always need a lot of money to do this; many big artists will play for a reasonable price if they know that one or both of the people getting married is a fan of them. After all, it’s good publicity. You might want to consider photo booth hire, too. That could make your special day more memorable for guests. They’ll be able to entertain themselves by taking silly pictures together in a booth. You could even provide funny props and costumes for people to wear in their photos. This will give them something tangible to take home from your wedding, and that’ll help them to remember it for years to come.

Serve delicious food.

If you want to keep your guests happy, you just need to serve delicious food. Obviously, the rest of the advice in this article will help to make your wedding memorable, but people will definitely remember what they ate. Even if you manage to put together a beautiful wedding with amazing entertainment options, people will struggle to enjoy themselves if they’re hungry or simply unsatisfied with the dining options. You need to ask guests about dietary requirements before your wedding. You also need to put out a varied spread of food so that people stay well-fed throughout the day. You could even hire cocktail servers to carry around plates of sandwiches and other snacks for people. Maybe you could even give guests welcome baskets full of locally-sourced food and drinks. That would be a nice touch.

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Thursday, 26 September 2019

Laser Hair Removal - Is It For You?

Firstly, let me say that I am an advocate for doing exactly what you want with your own body. If you want to grow your body hair and dye it bright blue, absolutely go for it! However, on the flip side if you want to have a body free of hair, with long term results then this is something you should explore too. Remember you are the only person who has to live in your body, so you are the only person who gets to make decisions about what you do with it and how to live.

Removing Body Hair

When it comes to having a hair free body there are different methods you can use. It is important to explore all of your options & work out what is best for you. Remember that just because one method doesn't work well for you, that doesn't mean others won't! So keep at it and try waxing, shaving and even laser hair removal in order to find the method you like best. 

Laser Hair Removal

If you are someone that wants to get rid their body of hair without the hassle of shaving on a regular basis then laser hair removal might well be for you. If you are going to undertake this procedure then I would recommend using a reputable firm who offer a consultation beforehand. This gives you a chance to ask any questions you have (and you should make sure you go with loads!) and also find out a bit more about the procedure you're going to undertake.

Getting It Done

Once you have decided you would like the procedure done and you're all booked in, do what you can to make it as easy as possible. The firm you choose should give you an idea of how many sessions you'll need and how long this will take. Although recovery time is minimal there's no harm in making sure you have travel to/from the clinic sorted and some comforts at home ready for when you get home after each session.

Are there any beauty procedures you would undertake if you could?

Debz xx

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Wednesday, 18 September 2019

A Guide To Recovering From Unexpected Injury

We spend much of our life trying to avoid accidents or put ourselves out of immediate danger. The fact we are so naturally inclined to keep ourselves out of harm’s way is what makes unexpected accidents so jarring. Whether you’ve been in a car accident or come to harm in your own workplace, you may be struggling to grasp how to proceed. After all, an unexpected injury may require us to take time off work or engage in legal proceedings. 

Understand more

When we hurt ourselves, sometimes the instinct is to avert our eyes and ask, “how bad is it?” When you have experienced an unexpected injury, you may still be in the dark about how long you will be suffering from the effects of the accident. The best way to fully recover from harm is to, therefore, find out more about the nature of injury itself. By educating yourself, you will not only get a sense of how long you will be affected by the results of the accident but also how to care for your body in the meantime. By consulting your doctor you should be able to find out:

Will I need specialist care in the long-term?
Can I still exercise?
Do I have multiple treatment options?
Do I need to talk to my employer about time off?

It’s much better to find the answers to these questions rather than to speculate. This is particularly useful if you have anxiety surrounding the ‘What if’s?” When you are armed with knowledge, you can take a tailored approach to recovery. 


If you have been surrounded by colleagues and friends telling you to rest up since your injury, then listen to them. Our work ethic or sense of duty often makes us dismiss instructions to rest and take our time. However, when you have any sort of injury, whether it’s a sports injury or otherwise, it is important to listen to your body. Forcing yourself to move and put strain on the affected part of your body could lead to more complications later on. 

Do you require legal action?

While a court case might be the last thing we want in a period of unrest or uncertainty, it is often a sensible route to take. This is because an unexpected accident may cause you to take time off work or require expensive medical procedures. When you feel up to it, it might be a wise idea to sit down with a solicitor and see if you have a case for legal action. In particular, an injury from a car crash or an accident at work may require a solicitor’s advice. 

What constitutes as recovery for you will be very different to someone else who has experienced an unexpected injury. It’s, therefore, vital that you take a tailored approach. Taking time off to recover and sort out any compensation for healthcare payments are the best initial steps to take. Just like physical recovery, adapting to life throughout your time healing will take gradual steps. 

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