Some of you may have seen that I was quoted in The DailyTelegraphs Wonder Woman section last week...
“Debz, 30, is an internet marketer, who also runs a plus
size fashion blog Wannabe Princess. She knows Miranda through Twitter (there’s
definitely a scene) and loves Club Indulge, although she says her size doesn’t
put her off going to mainstream nights.
“I’d go anywhere, I don’t really care, but we all come along
to this together, so it’s a good opportunity to see people.” Although she
admits: “If I can’t fit past someone here, I’ll tell them to move, whereas in a
normal club I’d feel like I had to squeeze past or go the long way round.””
Apart from learning that I probably shouldn't talk to
journalists when I am drunk, I was glad to have a link to my blog & some
new visitors - Hiiii!
Anyway, I guess write-ups like this lead to 'normal' people
discovering blogs and BBW websites etc. because it is something that they
wouldn't usually Google to find.
I had a lovely email from a lady the day after the article
and it made me realise that the blogs that we all write (And I don't mean this
in a big myself up way - I mean it generically across the board) are doing some
good!
" I stumbled accross your site through an article in a
paper about BBW night clubs. I was so happy to see this, you look so confident
and your clothes are fab.... I feel that in my life long quest to be thin I
have wasted so much time on being unhappy being fat. I have so much more
confidence now as I used to feel succesful when im thin and unsuccessful when
im fat! I am learning to accept me as a big person, not easy though, any tips
please, I love your style and confidence. xx"
I wrote back to the lovely lady (Hello if you are reading
this) but it made me think, how exactly do you 'get' confidence?
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| This has been saved on my computer for years, I do not know the original source - sorry! |
A few years back one of the biggest things for me was
realising that many people suffer with the same body image issues - whether
they're 'justified' or not. I started to post body positivity quotes that I
liked on my Facebook and I was surprised at the number of friends that related
to what I was saying. I always thought my thin, beautiful friends would never
understand how I felt but actually in this image-conscious world we are all
fighting the same battle.
What was also a big step for me was realising that if people
wanted to pick on something about your image/look/style they will - they'll
call you out for wearing glasses, or having the wrong haircut or having the
wrong clothes.
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| This has been saved on my computer for years, I do not know the original source - sorry! |
However the truth is that these people don't own me - they
don't have any bearing on my life or the good memories I make with the people
who do matter. Someone might make a comment in a nightclub or while I am out,
but they are the ones who spend their night concentrating on others - I am
usually so happy to be out with people I care about that I don't even register
other people’s negativity.
I am not saying I am 100% confident - who is!! But what I am
saying is that any issues I do have are just that - my own issues. I do not
have to let any ill confidences I feel about my body have a negative effect on
my life - or even my day.
Whatever size clothes you wear, you deserve to be
happy & have good people in your life, so never let the haters bring you
down!
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| This has been saved on my computer for years, I do not know the original source - sorry! |
I hope you're enjoying the sunshine
Debz xx
"Anyway, I guess write-ups like this lead to 'normal' people discovering blogs and BBW websites etc. because it is something that they wouldn't usually Google to find."
ReplyDeleteNot that I am considered 'normal' as far as bodies go, but I actually did Google to find this. My friend (who thinks she's fat and her life's main aim is to lose weight) told me that she can't wear a bodycon because she would look horrible. I said that's your call but I can assure you people would fall over each other telling you how great you look if you did wear one. And then she said something like only people of a specific size should wear bodycon. To prove her wrong, I googled "fat people wearing bodycon" to find pics of BBW wearing bodycon with confidence and awesomeness. That's how I chanced upon the blog. Now I love it, and you are subjected to too many comments from me. :P (Don't worry won't spam any more)
I don't consider your comments as spam at all - Thank you for being so passionate and having something to say :) It's good to know you found me on Google - and please tell your friend that fat people can most definitely wear bodycon!!x
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