Hard Out Here - Is It What We Really Need?

You know me - I love anything that is body image positive, especially those people who use arts, music, poems etc to get their message across.

I have to admit that I heard about Lily Allens song long before I actually listened to it. With people quoting it's lyrics on Twitter and shouting about how great it was that Lily Allen had waxed lyrical about an issue that is so close to our hearts.

I read the lyrics and really loved what I read:

"If I tell you about my sex life

You call me a slut
Them boys be talking about their bitches
No one's making a fuss"

"You're not a size six

And you're not good looking
Well, you better be rich
Or be real good at cooking
You should probably lose some weight
'Cause we can't see your bones
You should probably fix your face
Or you'll end up on your own
Don't you want to have somebody who objectifies you?
Have you thought about your bar who's gonna tear it in two?
We've never had it so good, uh huh
We're out of the woods
And if you can't detect the sarcasm
You've misunderstood"

I listened to the song and I have to confess to liking it - catchy melody and lyrics I can relate to, what more does a song need?

And then I read a tweet from Pop Idol winner Michelle McManus

And she linked to this newspaper article from a few years ago


Now, I guess you could say that if Lily Allen thought she did look fat, then comparing it to someone else could be a good way of getting her point across... But then is dragging another female into a story about your own negative body image really a good step to take?

I have had a little play on Google and have also come across an open letter Lily Allen penned to Cheryl Cole a few years ago.

"Cheryl, if you're reading this, I may not be as pretty as you, but at least I write and sing my own songs without the aid of Auto-Tune," she said. "I must say, taking your clothes off, doing sexy dancing and marrying a rich footballer must be very gratifying, your mother must be so proud, stupid bitch." 

Cheryl posted back saying "I have had enough of her and her big mouth," she said. "Over the last few months she has called [Girls Aloud bandmate Nicola Roberts] ugly, which I bit my tongue over. She called other bandmate Sarah Harding] vile and my husband horrendous, but seems to have conveniently forgotten all of that." 

So it seems that Lily perhaps hasn't always been as kind as she could have been... Since then she is said to have made peace with Cheryl, saying 

So.. is it OK to be calling other females ugly and then a few years later releasing a song about image and 'setting the bar' of what you should look like? I say, yes. After all, we're all entitled to change and we all grow as people. If she has embraced beauty and can now write about issues such as "You should probably lose some weight, cause we can't see your bones" then good for her!

I really love that Lily Allen has recorded a song about body image and her take on the music industry, I just hope it is for all the right reasons! I love positive body image and I wish more people in the public eye would speak up about it and tell people it is OK to have a body, whatever size that is, that doesn't fit the media norm...I just hope that it's a permanent change in her outlook and we won't be reading negative stories from her in the future

What do you think?

Debz xx


  1. Really great post and I agree! She changes her standpoint depending on what sort of publicity she is trying to court.

  2. i think lily allen made those comments a long time ago, when she was very young - we've all done it and we all do it - shes a mother now and i definitely think her attitude has changed alot i love her

  3. I think I'd have liked the song a lot better if she hadn't done a Miley Cyrus and exploited black dancers for her own amusement. What is it with white pop singers using black dancers in an over-sexualised manner and the obsession with bloody twerking? Jesus.

    I think Lily Allen does a good job of getting herself in the papers, but isn't a very nice person. Maybe motherhood has mellowed her. Guess time will tell.

  4. I love you Debz. Proud of you for making people actually open their eyes!!

    ps: how amazing does Michelle Mcmanus look in her twitter pic!

  5. Written or verbal your words are always straight to the point and real. I'm very proud and honoured to be able to call you a friend x

  6. I am new to this country and her music but I heard so many things about her not being friendly. Hopefully she is sincere now. Ill give her a chance but wll be very vigilant =) your post is a nice reminder of how things really are

    1. Thank you! She has been away for a few years, so hopefully this is a nicer, more grown up Lily and she'll keep up the good work of this song! xx