Quick Confidence Boosts You Need in Your Life

Confidence is a big thing. When you've got it, you feel like you can take on the world. You can walk down the street with your head held high, comfortable in your own skin, and not care what other people think of you. You notice people smile at you and you smile right back, feeling fantastic.

When it's gone, you can't look in the mirror; you hate walking down the street, you struggle to make eye contact with anyone and when you do you only notice scowls and negativity.

Short-term, a lack of confidence can be a blip. We all have bad days, and whatever your body shape, it can be easy to focus on the negatives. But, sometimes it's more than that. These off days can join together. You can find yourself hiding away, not seeing your friends, not wanting to go out, and avoiding doing the things that you used to love.

Long-term this lack of confidence can lead to anxiety and mental health issues, poor posture, a lack of sleep, high blood pressure and severe depression. You could find yourself struggling with eating disorders or panic attacks.

If it gets to this point, you may need to see a doctor and make some bigger lifestyle changes. But, before then there is a lot that you can do to give yourself a boost. Fill your days with small boosts, and you might find that your confidence starts to soar. Let's take a look at some.

Do Something for Yourself

Our lives today are so busy. Walk down the street, and you'll see people in a rush. We work long, tiring hours, many of us face a long and stressful commute. We look after our families, manage our blogs and keep our homes tidy. We are always on the go. Believe it or not, being so busy can have a negative effect on your confidence and how you feel about yourself.

Sometimes, it's important to remember that you should work to live, not live to work. This is true even if you love your job and relish going into the office. You work to earn money, to enable you to have a life. So, use it. Give yourself a break. If you are feeling low, or just not quite right, go to the shop, and buy something for yourself. Not because you need it, or because it will be good for you, just because you want it, and it will make you smile. This could be something tiny, like a box of chocolates or a bottle of wine, or something more expensive like a gorgeous new outfit.

If you are short on cash, go window shopping, spend an afternoon trying things on and taking photos, or sit in the park and read your favourite book. Anything that makes you happy can help to raise your mood and improve your confidence. Do it as often as you can.

Let Things Go

Another side effect of being so busy is that we can often feel like we can't give everything enough time or focus. If you work a full-time job and have a blog or another online hobby or business, it can feel like there just aren't enough hours in the day to get it all done. You constantly hear that if you want your blog to be a business, you need to give it full-time commitment, but how are you meant to do this while working too?

Working mothers and fathers can feel the full force of this when they try to give both their family and their career their full attention.

When you are trying to do everything, it can be so easy to feel like you are failing at everything. Sometimes, it's ok to let yourself off the hook. If you need to hire a cleaner to help, do it. If paying for a VA to help with your blog will help, go for it. If you need to find someone to take the kids one day a week just so that you've got time to rest, do it. Give yourself a break; you're not failing, you are a busy woman doing her best.

Get Some Rest

Everything seems worse when you are tired. Life looks grey, all of your faults come into sharp focus, and it can be hard to look past them. No one can be a confident, sunny and bright person when they are exhausted, and all their energy is going on merely functioning.

Sleep is so massively important to living a healthy and happy life. If you're not getting enough, you're not going to be at your best, and your confidence will suffer. Here are a few simple tips to help if you are struggling to get a good night's sleep:

  • Switch all devices off at least an hour before bed. Then, leave them in another room overnight, so you're not tempted to have a look if you do wake up.
  • Avoid eating or drinking in the few hours before bed. Don't drink any caffeine after dinner.
  • Get into a routine. Start going to bed and getting up at the same time and your body will fall into a routine. It's not just for babies!
  • Exercise. If you've got a largely sedentary lifestyle, you may find that while your mind is exhausted, your body isn't. Try to at least go for a walk every day, even if it's just around the block on your lunch hour.
  • Talk with a counsellor or psychologist - get some help and advice from someone who can offer their expert opinion. 


That brings us to exercise. Exercise doesn't just help you to get a better night's sleep. I t also releases adrenaline, serotonin, and endorphin's which can improve your boost and boost your confidence. If you are able to, do a little exercise in the morning, and you'll spend the rest of the day feeling proud and confident. Listen to your body, it will tell you how much movement it needs.

If part of your problem with confidence is down to your body shape or size, then you may also be nervous going to the gym. There's really no need. Find a friendly local gym, where the trainers have at some point asked themselves Is a Personal Trainer course difficult? And been filled with worries and doubts. There are plenty of gyms out there filled with normal people, that aren't super fit and toned. Speak to a trainer and get some advice on what exercises would be best for you. If you really don't want to exercise in public, don't force yourself and make your confidence worse.

Instead, focus on walking more and try some home workout videos.

Surround Yourself with Love

Are there people in your life that make you feel rubbish? Family members that are always making little comments, jokes that actually cause upset? Friends that you are always chasing for a get-together, but never seem to put any effort in themselves? People that you find really hard work, or those that make you unhappy, aren't worth your time. We've already talked about how we don't have enough time, and how our time is precious, so why waste it on people who make you feel bad?
Cut negativity out of your life.

Spend time instead with those friends that build you up. The people that make you smile and feel great about yourself. You'll be much happier with two fantastic friends that are there when you need them, make an effort to see you and fill your life with love and laughter, than with ten friends that you bring negativity to your door.

This goes for social media too. We all seem to follow and friend so many people now, few of these are actual friends. Some, we knew 20 years ago and others we've never met. If they are people that make you laugh or smile, keep them. If their posts are nothing but annoying, delete them.

Love and Be Loved

Love is perhaps the best way to boost your confidence, but it's hard to do when it's low. When you are struggling with your confidence and not feeling great about yourself, it's hard to let someone else love you. You'll find it difficult to trust their love and to fully accept it. But, finding someone that loves you, exactly as you are can be the biggest boost you can get. The first step to this is learning to love yourself, and then allowing yourself to love someone else.

Fake it

Have you heard the saying "fake it until you make it"? That's certainly true of confidence. If you're not feeling it, either personally or professionally, fake it. Walk down the street with your head held high and a huge smile on your face. Look people in the eye and speak with confidence and authority. If you can make other people believe it, you might start to feel it yourself.

Make an Effort

We should all be able to feel great in our pyjamas, with bed hair and no makeup. But, when you don't, make an effort. Sometimes when you are feeling down, or unwell, putting some makeup on, getting dressed up, or getting your hair done can make the world of difference.

Confidence is different for everyone, so find what works for you and stick with it.

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