Showing posts with label #Wearethethey. Show all posts
Showing posts with label #Wearethethey. Show all posts

A New Years Revolution

I remember a few years ago, sitting around a table on New Years Day with a whole host of people - all catching up about their New Years Eve over a cup of tea. As it so often does, the conversation turned to the changes people had planned for the New Year and of course their resolutions. It seemed to go almost like clockwork around the table as people told everyone else of their plans - to walk more, to go swimming 3 times a week, to give up sugary drinks etc. Then it became 'my turn'... I immediately said that I had made none - and was met with silence. I don't think it was that people thought I should "improve" myself but more that they couldn't believe I didn't want to change anything - they were flabbergasted.


That's the thing isn't it? It isn't about what we have always wanted to change or what made us unhappy in September but instead a date in a calendar tells us that we simply must think of a flaw and work to improve it.

Now, don't get me wrong. I am always someone that feels you should make the improvements you want to make. If there is a part of your life that is holding you back or is affecting your life negatively then you can make the changes you need to - if and when you want to. However don't allow the date on a calendar dictate that you must do that now,

It's a difficult one - because for many people 1st January can be the motivational date they need to make changes they have always wanted. It's the month of searching for new jobs, clearing out your wardrobe and making other changes you want. 

Of course you can't mention New Year resolutions without weight loss talk and eating "better". I will say this - your body is your body and you are the only person who has to live in it. If you want to make changes then I will never tell you not to - do what you need to be happy! That said; don't allow the world that you NEED to change. Do whatever you need to do for your body but only because you want to. Your body, your rules. And if you do want to change anything about your body then don't use a marked date on the calendar tell you that now is the time to do it. Do it when you're ready and not a minute soon.

This New Year make your resolution to be part of a revolution and vow not to make any changes at all. You are perfectly fine this January just as you were before New Years Eve and don't you forget it! Use your time now to think about all you have achieved, overcome, helped others achieve and so much more. Think about the times you have laughed, lived and enjoyed yourself. You did all of that without having to "improve" your body and you can do it again in 2016!

That said, if you are wanting to use the start of a new year to start a fresh then Sophie from Busy Little Fee has come up with a great idea - 16 in 16. Read all about it here. Her at lots of bloggers have put together the things that they would like to achieve this year. These aren't on a whim ideas or was to change your body, but instead solid ideas on what they want to have happen this year. Give it a read!

Debz xx

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We Are The They - And We're Not Going Away!

You might have seen on Channel 4 last night a program called My Big Fat Wedding.

The program followed a few plus size brides and their search for the perfect wedding dress. Pretty harmless you would think - just some very happy brides to be sharing some special moments from their big day.

Sadly the world of social media did not agree. Instead Twitter became busy with people shocked at the very notion of plus size dresses. In fact it has even led to a blog post this morning (which I refuse to lead to) which claims that our nation is fat because plus size clothing exists.

I asked this blogger what she thought I should do without clothing (if they didn't sell clothes in my size) and her answer was lose weight.... I'm not sure what I am supposed to do in the interim!

Anyway, the point is once again that this is all very anonymous. It is SO easy to say that 'they shouldn't be able to wear clothes' and 'they are unhealthy make them thinner' but that doesn't put real people in the picture. I've even seen some one suggest that 'obesity kills' labels be added to all my clothing.. EXCUSE ME!?

It's time to remind people that we are REAL people. All we want is the basic right to clothing. I honestly find it baffling that people would take away the right to clothing in my size because I might be unhealthy!

So at 8pm tonight I want to do another wave of We Are The They Posts. So get your Twitter and Instagram ready to post photos on your social media.... Let's show those who think we should be denied clothing WHO we are and why we're important! #WeAreTheThey - Make sure you use the tag!

ALSO! I want to blog properly about this at 8pm (This is rushed.... I know you'd never tell) and I'd love to include your photos! Send them over by 7pm tonight and I'll do my best to include them all, including any blog links. Email them to (or drop me an email with your blog address if you want me to just pick one for you)

#WeAreTheThey and we're not going away!

Debz x

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We Are The They - A Follow Up!

If you haven't heard of #WeAreTheThey then click here or give it a Google. Long story short it is about breaking the mould... breaking fashion rules if you will, well tonight anyway! It is about standing up against anything that 'they' shouldn't do or how 'they' should be made to feel and saying HEY! We're real people and you shouldn't be treating us like this.

This evening from 7pm I invite YOU (and your friends and family - no matter their shape and size) to tweet a picture (or 10) of them breaking fashion taboos! Use #WeAreTheThey when you do - I want to see you all!

As ever, my amazing plus size blogger family have sent it pictures of them breaking ALL DA RULES! Don't they look beautiful??

Yours Truly and Murder of Goths

So we have body wearing, crop top embracing, arm flashing, figure hugging, striped design loving plus size women living and loving life! They make me so proud!!

What rules do you like breaking??

Debz xx

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They Shouldn't Wear That - But I Always Will #WeAreTheThey

Unless you have been on Mars for the past week you will have seen that something quite amazing has happened with a little hashtag I started - #WeAreTheThey.

I decided that I wanted to keep the movement going and so tonight we're once again hitting blog posts and social media! The idea behind the set of posts this evening is what 'they' shouldn't wear. What size body you have, there are usually a set of rules put to you to help you dress 'better'. Whether that's to accentuate your curves, stop you from looking to short or avoiding heels if you're tall. I say stuff that and where what you want.

Browse the #WeAreTheThey hashtag tonight and you'll see a whole range of beautiful, amazing women showing you exactly how they break fashion rules! Why not add your own?

Do Not Wear Short Dresses

Avoid Stripes

Don't Wear Oversized Swing Dresses

You're Too Fat For Primark

The only rule you should listen to when it comes to dressing yourself is whether you want to wear it or not!


So many bloggers joined in with the challenge and I can't possibly link to them all. I will be retweeting and sharing on Twitter though, so come over and see!

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When Retailers Get It Right - #WeAreTheThey

A really, really quick blog post today, my world has gone crazy! So many people are supporting are #WeAreTheThey and it's amazing. Today it's been featured on The Huffington Post, Look Magazine, Plus Size Model Magazine, The Daily Telegraph and so many other places. So much positivity and I am in love with everyone who supports it.

As if on cue Lady V London have bought out a brand new range of dresses under their Lady Voluptuous umbrella. If you are new to my blog then have a read through old Lady V London blog posts - I have shouted my love for them from the rooftops many times!

The new dress is called Phoebe and she is beautiful!

The reason I wanted to rush out a blog post about them is because as a collective Lady V London stock dresses from a size 8 right up to a size 32. There are a few retailers that stock a fantastic range of sizes but a brand that stocks size 8 to 32 is literally amazing to me.

Over the last few days we have seen the #WeAreTheThey take off as living proof that we do need something like this. It is proof that as women we need clothing ranges that suit us and that small sizes, big sizes and everything in between.

Personally I think I need the flamingo dress in my life, but they're all beautiful - There are also new versions of the Cossette dress!

#WeAreTheThey and we need fashion just as much as anyone else! 

Lady V London you did good!

Debz xx

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Why We Need 'We Are The They' #Wearethethey

Yesterday I wrote a post putting a face to the people bullies refer to when they say 'they should feel ashamed. I clicked post and suddenly the world went BOOM! A few hours later #WeAreTheThey was the 2nd most talked about topic on Twitter. People from all over were posting their photos and words of support. Men and women of all shapes and sizes embraced the hashtag and it literally made my heart want to burst with joy seeing so many people standing together against bullies. 

I don't even mean just Jamelia any more, it has become so much more than that. Now we stand together as a team against those who bully others because of the way they look.

And then, well today - WOW! The campaign has been mentioned on different radio stations thanks to some amazing bloggers for spreading the word. It has been mentioned in The Daily Mail, The Mirror, The Metro and Look Magazine. There are too many blog posts for me to even keep up with reading and we trended again today.

I am so proud of everyone who has shared photos and words of love. Who have battled the trolls who took glee from writing negativity in our hashtag and even an article where we were compared to animals being fattened to slaughter - awful.

But as much as those people fought to bring us down  - they didn't. 

We as a collective team rose above it and we trended and we caused a ripple in the media and THAT is why we need campaigns like this.

The truth is that there will always be bullies and there will always be people who want to bring us down. They'll always talk about the way others look and make claims about what they deserve just because of the size of their bodies. I would love a world where these people do not exist but we're a long way off of that. So for now, we need to stand together and create a force to be reckoned with and a support work.

The biggest power we have is showing others that they are not alone. The more people we can show that loving their body is not a sin the better and that is why the success of #WeAreTheThey has literally filled my heart with joy.

#WeAreTheThey and we are not ashamed. 

You all amaze me. Thank you x

Debz xx

If you feel the same as me then please share this post on ANY social media you can. Let's spread the word. If you're below a size 6 or above a size 20 then tweet and Instagram your photos. Let's put even more faces to the people Jamelia feels should be made to feel uncomfortable. 

Use the hashtag on any posts so I can see you all!!

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Jamelia - We Are The 'They' #Wearethethey

Unless you have been living under a rock for the last few days, you will have heard about Jamelias comments regarding clothes shopping on the high street. I blogged about it here.

Today she has 'apologised'. Reassuring us that she only meant 'extremes' in sizes and that she feels the high street should stock sizes 6 to 20... It really is quite laughable. 

I feel that by saying 'they' should shop in specialist shops and 'they' should be made to feel uncomfortable it is all very anonymous. It is easy to say that a bunch of blank faces (and bodies) should be treated a certain way, but what Jamelia (and anyone who agrees with her) needs to realise is that WE are real people. We have REAL feelings, REAL jobs, friends and families. When you say that people should make 'them' feel uncomfortable you are encouraging them to treat US differently.. US as in real people.

So, Jamelia and anyone who feels that 'they' should be made to feel uncomfortable...


Sam // Lisa // Kate // Daisy

Rebs // Emma
// Stephanie // Becky 

Lindsey // Kerry // Charlene //  April //

Zoe // Michaela // Lucia

Susan // Lisa

Dawn // Lauren // Alyssa // Janet 

Katie // Cat // Rebecca // Vicky

Sharon // Katt // Joanne Sian

Elaine // Hayley // Sue

Shereen // Kerry-Ann // Tammy 

Nikki // Claire // Fig // Leah

It is worth pointing out these these women are bloggers and non bloggers, wives, girlfriends, sisters, mothers, cousins, friends, white, black, tall, short, large, extra large, casual dressers, vintage dressers, tea drinkers, bike riders, gym goers, couch potatoes..... and above all else the women that Jamelia feels should be MADE TO FEEL ASHAMED just for buying clothes to go on their back.

If you feel the same as me then please share this post on ANY social media you can. Let's spread the word. If you're below a size 6 or above a size 20 then tweet and Instagram your photos. Let's put even more faces to the people Jamelia feels should be made to feel uncomfortable. 

#WeAreTheThey and we are not ashamed.

Use the hashtag on any posts so I can see you all!!

Debz xx

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Dear Jamelia #Wearethethey

Dear Jamelia...

I don't know if you realise it, but there have been fat women around for very many years. As a 32 year old woman, I grew up as a chubby child and a fat teenager. Even those older than me, very many generations before me have been fat. You may or may not agree that fat people are healthy and you may assume that this 'epidemic' needs to be cured, but surely you have to agree that fat people are just that, people.

Let me assure you that I have been fat for a very long time - for almost as long as I can remember. Long before there were plus-size fashion blogs to read and long, long before there were options outside of Evans when it came to clothes to wear on my body. This lack of inspiration and clothing options did not make we want to be thin. Instead, it made me a fat girl stuck in a body wearing clothes that did not make my heart sing or my mind happy.

It saddens me that someone in your inspirational position could almost pray for someone's unhappiness. The fact that you WANT someone to feel uncomfortable whilst they are clothes shopping sickens me. If you think that the fact someone wears clothing a couple of sizes 'too big' makes them the right kind of victim to shame and bully then your position as a TV presenter makes me sad. You speak to a nation of people every lunch time and you have the power to do such good. Today you choose to tell people that fat people should be made to feel uncomfortable when they are clothes shopping - what type of person does that?

I understand if you do not want to be fat. I even understand if you are baffled by my weight and how I could possibly be happy in the skin I am in. I even get that you could feel as though something should be done about the health of our nation. What I do not understand is the call to arms to ask fashion retailers to shame us. If you feel that as a fat woman denying me the right to go shopping on the high street with my friends is going to make me thin you are mistaken. All it does is make me a fat, unhappy person rather than one that is happy and strives for better. As a fat women I work hard and I need clothes to wear to work - if you feel that I should be SHAMED when I walk into a store to buy them then I feel you must be a very narrow-minded individual. Why should I be made to feel uncomfortable when I go out to stores to spend my hard earned money on clothing for my body?

I saw on Twitter that you have been supporting the #SelfieEsteem campaign put on by Good Morning Britain. This is all about teaching people to love their reflection and what they see when they take a photo. 4 days later you are saying that fat people should be made to feel ashamed when they shop for clothes - how exactly do you think that is going to affect peoples self esteem? You can't pretend to battle the issue of negative self esteem whilst you are one of the people who are part of the problem!

I hope that you look back on what you said and realise that the notions you are asking for are misguided. I promise you that fat people have been around for far longer than plus size fashion stores. I also promise you that throughout years of body shaming and fat bullying our nation is still overweight. Perhaps it is time to take a different approach? You are a strong, independent woman and I hope one day you find the power to bring up other women (no matter their dress size) rather than bring them down.

Debz xx

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