Showing posts with label Body Image. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Body Image. Show all posts

Your Body Doesn't Come With Buts...

Last night I watched the Katie Hopkins documentary and to be honest with you, I just found it a bit dull. I fully expected to be writing a blog post rant about how angry she made me but I just can't find it in me. She said nothing new, shed a few tears about how she understood people more now and then sent offensive tweets to just about anyone who would listen - Dull, Dull and Duller!

However, over the last few days I have seen advert after advert of TV fat programs - The Shut-Ins on Channel 4 and a program about fat people on benefits on Channel 5, all coming up in the next week or so. On top of Katies's part two tomorrow and re-runs of My Big Fat Fetish.

They're designed to be sensationalist, to tell you that overweight people are bad and that as a fat person you should strive to lose weight... As if being bombarded with weight loss product adverts throughout January wasn't enough.

I don't want to talk about them too much, I am sure it is easy to guess how I feel about them!

However... I am here to tell you that your body doesn't come with buts....

It is not only OK to be 'fat but healthy', you can be fat in anyway you want. If you don't want to be fat any more and want to diet instead, that is OK too!

You don't have to be striving to lose weight. You don't to give excuses for your body... You don't have to claim to be too busy to lose weight or too poor to buy healthy food. You can be just the way you are without having to give people a reason why! You don't need to be fat 'but only because I have *** illness".

You don't have to be 'fat but I exercise alot".You're allowed to be fat with NO JUSTIFICATION at all!

Your body. Your Rules. Your happiness comes first. Without exception.

Debz x

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Tell a Friend They're Fat? Tell A Friend They're Fab? Why Not Both?

You might have seen in the papers or online over the last few days that Steve Miller (weight-loss 'expert') has declared the 7th January 'Tell a Friend They're Fat Day'. Because we all know that shaming someone about their body is the best way to get them to lose weight... #sigh.

Of course, I hate the idea of this day and feel like it is a complete waste of time. Not only does it help to 'concrete' the idea that another persons body is your business but it promotes the idea of bullying  - neither of which I agree with. In fact the idea is so ludicrous that even The Daily Telegraph are against it, which in itself says something.

In a valiant attempt to overcome this Slink Magazine have announced 'Tell a Friend They're Fab Day' also taking place on the 7th January. The idea behind it being to turn the day into something positive, which is an amazing idea!

However, I was trying to find a way to blog and promote it in a way that I felt comfortable with. I don't necessarily agree with the idea of rather than telling someone they are fat, you should tell someone they are fab. It sort of, in a round about way it promotes the idea that fat is bad because we're denying talking about it. For me, telling me I am fat is as worthwhile as telling me I have brown hair & I'd love a campaign that promoted this idea for everyone. However, I love the idea of telling people they are brilliant and I had every intention of posting about it, as soon as I worked out exactly how I felt about it.
Thanks to Look Human

And then this happened. A fab post by The Arched Eyebrow which summed up how I felt about it. She has declared the day 'Tell A Fat Friend They're Fab Day'... Which I shall be doing! I shall also be telling my thin friends that they are fab & so are their bodies.

As Bethany points out, the whole idea behind Steves campaign is to make people shameful about their bodies, so pointing out that people have a fab personality isn't the only way that we should be fighting this. Instead we should be giving people the power to say Yes, I am fat but I am bloody fabulous as well! I am sure we have all had the 'Nooo you're not fat, you're fabulous' line given to us once or twice, but the truth is that I AM FAT (and fab!) and there is nothing wrong with that.

Anyway, there are links to all the campaigns in the post so have a read up and see how you feel about  them all! I'll be getting involved in the #YouAreFab and the #TellAFatFriendTheyreFabDay because I think all of my friends are fabulous and I love an excuse to tell them so!

I'd love to know your views!

Debz xx

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Get A Better Mirror - The To This Day Project

I have probably mentioned this poem before and to be honest with you, I probably will again. I can not stress how important it is to me to watch, read and listen to body positive influences. It saddens me that we have to go out there and find them, but it is great that they're there to be found, should we want to!

This one - The To The Day Project by Shane Koyczan gets to me everytime I rediscover it, so if you have a spare 5 minutes make sure you give it a watch. It's beautiful.

And if you can’t see anything beautiful about yourself
Get a better mirror
Look a little closer
Stare a little longer
Because there’s something inside you
That made you keep trying
Despite everyone who told you to quit

If you have any body image, confidence, fat, size related items that you think I would love to see - please share the links!

Share this post with someone who needs a little boost today!

Debz xx

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Loving You, Is Easy Because You're Beautiful

A few days ago I read this post by Lucia at U Can't Wear That and it really stirred something up inside me. If you haven't read it yet, please take 5 minutes out to read it, you won't regret it!

As plus size bloggers it can sometimes seem easy for us to put on a pretty dress, smile for the camera and 'be confident', but the truth is that it doesn't always come that easy. In fact I would say for most of us the journey to loving our bodies has been a long and varied one - with many people not knowing they would ever be in the position of loving their body just as much as they do - but it's proof you can get there! This is a bit of a rambly post, not sure where it's heading or if it even has much point, but I'll publish it anyway!

I honestly think that my confidence came with age - it came with the knowledge that although some people can be cruel most of the time people don't care if you're a fat body in a tight dress or whether you're covering up your calves with leggings - they're too busy going about their own business to pay much attention to you. 

However, as Lucia said it would be lovely to live in a world where we don't need to develop like fine wine and get 'better' with age, but instead grow up loving our bodies and being confident in our skin from the get-go. But how do we get there?

Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought that you shouldn't wear what you were wearing because you were too fat, too thin or had the wrong shaped body to pull of such a look? If you have, then you are far from alone! Now imagine your friends thinking that about themselves, ludicrous isn't it! Could you imagine saying any of the things you say to yourself, to your sister, your mother or your friend? The truth is that the horrible words you say to yourself, your loved ones are saying to themselves too and we need to make it stop!

Loving yourself is amazing and feeling confident in your own skin is something that money really can not buy. It's about more than pretty dresses and having access to a varied wardrobe of clothes - its about knowing you can put on any of those clothes and shine. It's about not being scared to walk into a pub on your own (we've all been there) or staying home because you 'have nothing to wear'. Yes, we all have those days and yes we all fight with our wardrobes on Saturday night trying on a thousand dresses only to end up with our original choice - but it is possible to do that with a body you love and are comfortable in.

I have spoken before and I will again about the importance of positive and varied media. I read Heat Magazine and I can't resist Chat Mag, but I also read plus size media, look at art containing disabled bodies, listen to poetry about body positivity and so much more. I honestly believe it has shaped me a life of being happy in my very big body and I can tell you now it's an amazing position to be in.

Much like Lucia in her article, I can only hope that we can all get there - in this world it isn't always easy but it is possible. Be a little easier on yourselves & compliment each other - we're the only ones who can build ourselves up instead of dragging each other down!

Leave someone you love a compliment today!

Debz xx

When A Former Fat Girls 'Tells Us Like It Is'

Dear Vicky Chandler

Here I was, spending a Sunday morning on my sofa catching up on Sunday Brunch when someone tweeted a link out to your article (For those who haven't seen the 10 Fashion Staples Every Plus Size Girl Should Own article you can read that here).

I must say I found in quite enlightening, I had no idea that as a short, fat girl I should avoid wearing ankle boots or that pencil skirts should be a certain pattern depending on my size. Of course, I already knew that my fat body should never be dressed up with horizontal stripes - every fat girl knows that rule.

I had no idea that the shape of my jeans mattered to a stranger on the internet, who would spend their time writing an article to tell me that delicate necklaces are a no no or that I shouldn't wear tops with a spaghetti strap - WHO KNEW!

I am of course, being a sarcastic little princess today because I think you, your rules and your body shaming are disgraceful. I feel sad for you that you need to write an article on how strangers should or shouldn't dress. Your weight loss is great and I am happy for you that you are happier in your skin  but just because when you were 5 stone heavier you wouldn't wear halternecks or thought that you looked bad in cropped length jacket that doesn't mean that your rules fit everyone.

So... Just to prove my point I put a call out to the people who live a life breaking your silly, pointless rules & just look how good they look whilst they do it!!

Rule: "steer clear of wide legged jeans if most of your weight is carried on your bottom half.. FYI NO SUPER SKINNY"

Skinny jeans on Arched Eyebrow

Rule: "Big designs are a no-no..."

Leah from
I stay right away from big designs.... *Sigh*
Rule: "Stripes are the hardest pattern to tackle, but the key is to avoid horizontal ones"
Emily from

Kim from Call Me Kim looking good in stripes!
Laura from

Rule: "I’m afraid that studs and delicate necklaces just don’t cut it"

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Kathryn in studs and a delicate neck chain  - shock horror!

I love Lauras studs!
Georgine Horne breaks some more rules!
Rule: "Pencil skirts... If you’re bigger on the bottom half, stick to a solid colour, preferably darker, and pair this with a lighter coloured top. If you’re slimmer on the bottom and want more of a curved effect, a brighter, more daring pattern will do just the trick."
Kathyrn looking great!

A pencil skirt AND ankle boots from Georgina at - Sin City!

Rule: RE Jackets "Avoid anything cropped and instead opt for hip length and longer"

Kathryn from in a great cropped jacket!

Oh Leah, not a cropped jacket AND stripes. Tut tut! ;)

Hannah from

Rule: "Not to state the obvious, here, but spaghetti straps and halter necks don’t do us any favours"
Georgina from Fuller Figure Fuller Bust - Spaghetti Straps, Halterneck and a moustache - winner!
Halterneck - OOPS!
Spaghetti straps - Oh no!
The lovely Mags from Twitter and friends

Urmm.. Straps!! Lucia at

Rule: "PLEASE, avoid ankle boots that seem to cut your height in half"
I see no problem with ankle boots here!
Sarah from breaking the 'rules' as usual!
Leah from

Ladies (and gents) STOP listening to these rules complied by strangers to tell you what you should and should not be wearing.

If you put something on and YOU think YOU look good and you like it on YOUR body that is all that matters. If you don't like ankle boots or halternecks that is fine too - your body your rules! And as these photos  show - the rules people make up mean nothing anyway because they look FABULOUS!

Do you have pics that break these rules?? I'd love to see! Send them to me on Instagram, Facebook or Twitter and use the hashtag #IBreakPlusSizeRules

A massive thank you to all the bloggers who raided old outfit posts, instagrams, dropboxes and more to help me put together this amazing collection of photos - you're all rule breakers and I couldn't be prouder! Some of the photos might be in a mismatch order because they came through so thick and fast on Twitter and Facebook. I couldn't use them all but they were all brilliant! Lots of them were hard to know where to place on the rules, because you all break numerous rules within one outfit - love it!
Debz xx

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She Looks Like A Corpse Someone Give Her A Burger!

*TRIGGER WARNING - Bullying & hateful words to do with size, eating disorders and more - quite a sensitive topic*

When it comes to ranting on the likes of Facebook and other social media, I am not often able to hold back, espeically when I see bullying or subtle (or not so) body bashing. 

Today a photo of a very thin lady came on on my Facebook news feed. This lady is very, very thin to the 'extreme' that you can see bones poking out from under her skin. The photo had "no fat chicks" all over it and according to what I have read, it is a lady that is scared and afraid of being overweight, or fat in anyway. I am not a doctor but I guess that would indicate an eating disorder of sorts, but that is not really for me to judge. You can see the photo I am talking about here *Trigger warning, very thin body and body hatred*. You'll need to click the link as I did not want to show it without a trigger warning (something I am trying to become more aware of!)

I agree that an image like this is shocking, for the body image insults if nothing else! However, the insults and pure ignorance posted towards this photo left me flabbergasted. I understand that we need to fight body image negativity, it's something that I do every day but I do not understand why people feel that body bashing and bullying is the best way to get there?

Click to view larger, sorry for the ultra-cool editing! ha
So... So far we have that she probably has some sort of eating disorder (again I am not a doctor but she posts a lot about not wanting to be fat and she is very thin so I can only assume), according to one of the earlier comments the best way to deal with this is to 'give this girl a double cheeseburger'. Then we have the comments about her looking like a corpse and a skeleton and her body being disgusting. I don't know whether it is because  I have had body shaming comments left on my photos online or not, but these comments leave me feeling very uncomfortable and I do not understand why anyone feels that mocking a body is the best way to deal with intolerance?

Click to view larger, sorry for the ultra-cool editing! ha

Another comment about this lady looking like a corpse and now she looks like a starved animal... AN ANIMAL! Someone thinks that because this lady is very thin it is OK to compare her to an ANIMAL!!! How does that even make any sense? We also have a comparison to a tooth pick & apparently these 'bitches snap in half'... Have you ever read anything so awful? Well actually, sadly I have but that doesn't make it right!

The conversation goes on and on about how she deserves it because she fat bashed, how her body is gross, so wrong, she needs a sandwich, her body makes someone want to throw up and the last comment as I write this is that she is a "freakshow".

I don't quite know what the point of this rant is, but I needed to get it out there! 

I truly, truly do not understand why people feel it is their right or their duty to comment on the body shape of another HUMAN! Not an animal or a tooth pick or even a fat whale, but a HUMAN! A person! Someone who is effected by words and lives their life being judged every day because of the shape of their body. I do not understand how people can say "Wow that skinny bitch fat bashed get her a sandwich" and think that it is OK because you know the two wrongs cancel each other out or something!

YES! Fight this lady (that is what she is - not a corpse, not a skeleton and not a freakshow) for her shallow views against fat people and her loved ones should get her help if she needs it but DO NOT use the shape of her body against her because you are no worse then the people who body shame every single day!

If you are ever tempted to use the shape of someones body against them for whatever reason, try to think about how you feel whenever others use yours against you? It's horrible - why would you want to inflict that feeling onto someone else?


Debz x

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But... She Looks So Much Better Fat!

Yesterday I wrote about Katie Hopkins and her mission to gain weight and then lose it again, to show how easy it is! The article had an amazing response - THANK YOU! And one of my busiest blog days ever, amazing!

Anyway, as you would expect from an article like this it got a lot of comments everywhere, but I have to say not all of them made me smile. As ever, I know that most of these comments come from a good place & people are simply rallying together to fight this bully and really that can only be positive, but I didn't like it!

She Looks So Much Healthier Fatter

Katie Hopkins has gained just over 3.5 stone and in her own words has gone from underweight to overweight (I don't know her BMI or anything so I can't judge that), so I can only take what she has said on the subject. However, what I read several times yesterday is 'she looks so much healthier fatter', which surely goes against what lots of us strive for? I have read time and time again larger people writing that they do not want people to judge their health just by the way they look, after all what do you know about someone's health just by looking at them? Health is such a complicated process and subject and not something that you can tell just be seeing how big or how small they are? Yes, she looks bigger but I can not agree that she looks healthier.

She Looks So Much Better Fatter

Looks are subjective and most of us would rather be seen for more than just the size of our waistband - so why should it be different for Katie Hopkins? It is fine if you think she is nicer looking with more weight on her, but you should remember that how good someone looks is subjective and personal - what you think looks good isn't the same across the board. Does being fatter or thinner make her 'better'? Not at all!

She Looks Normal Now

What is normal? Who are we to judge who looks normal and who doesn't? The only thing we really know about Katies weight gain is that she now looks fatter. Is fatter more normal? Does that mean anyone who shared Katies old weight/height statistics doesn't look normal? What an odd concept! 

I am not a Katie fan at all but I don't believe in fighting fire with fire. Just because she wants to judge us on the way we look because of our weight that doesn't mean that we should do the same. Let's fight her with education and tell her she is wrong - but we won't do that by using insults or non-factual statements about her body like she does ours!

Debz xx

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I Hate Fat People For Making Me Do This

I know, I know.. Another blog post about Katie Hopkins. And yes, I know I shouldn't be giving her any more attention but I am sorry I can not sit back and let her talk her absolute nonsense knowing that her words and actions are damaging.

So - Today Katie Hopkins gave her first TV interview on This Morning since gaining just over 3.5 stone for a new TV documentary she is recording. Apparently the idea is that she is going to show how you gain weight and how easy it is to lose it. She wants people to stop making excuses about their weight and lose it just as easy as she is supposedly going to from the 8th September.

On the sofa Katie did look bigger, but then when you gain 3.5 stone that is to be expected. However, in my opinion the whole interview was like a one woman pantomime! She was breathless when she talked and held her hip as she sat, like sitting on a sofa was so hard for her now she is fat. (She is in the region of 11 stone now)... I can assure you that as someone who weighs quite a bit more than Katie - sitting on a sofa and having a conversation does not make me breathless. We can see that she looks fatter, she does not need to put on over exaggerated symptoms to show 'how hard' life as a fat person is!

Thanks to
In a clip from the TV show, she cried about how much she had eaten in one day (apparently 6500 calories a day) she said "I hate fat people for making me do this", however I can assure that the feeling is quite mutual. 

Fat people did not make her accept money for making a documentary on fat people, we did not make her eat more than normal and gain weight on purpose nor will we make her need to lose it. Fat people did not ask her to go on a one woman crusade to 'educate' us into changing our bodies or to sit on TV and tell us that our bodies are incapable of good. 

Katies TV show is about not making excuses for being fat, but it is people like her that make fat people feel that they need to make excuses for their body. It can be hard living as a fat person in a thin world. It can be even harder to live in a fat body and say "I love by body just how it is and I do not want to change it". 

Instead people like Katie Hopkins make people feel like we need to excuse our bodies for being how they are - so people turn to health excuses, making sure people know that even though they're fat they eat well or exercise lots, they're fat because of stress or they're going to start a diet next week and lose all the extra weight they now have.

The truth is that if you're fat, THAT IS OK! 

You shouldn't have to feel like you need to reassure people about your life choices or let them know you intend to change it. It is programs like this and the general media pressure to have a small body that make people think that they need to excuse their body - BUT YOU DO NOT!!

Love the skin you're in and let others know you love it to. It is your body and you do not need to excuse it away!

Debz xx

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Body Positivity - Are We Fighting A Losing Battle?

I love my body. Yes, there are things about it I would change (who wouldn't?) but I love that it is mine and all the things that it allows me to do. I hope one day, everyone feels as content and comfortable in their own skin as I do, because it's a really lovely place to be at.

However, sometimes things happen that make me realise I am fighting a losing battle, because the lines of body positivity get blurred & every day I see examples of people bringing down one body type in order to make another body type feel good - but that method IS NOT WORKING!

In my eyes, you can not be positive about one persons choice to have a body like they do while you are slating another person and their choices. Yes, I understand that it is easier to relate to and understand a person who thinks the same as you but if someone has a different thought to you, that is OK TOO!

This morning, Kate Hopkins hit the headlines with her new TV venture - to gain 3 stone and then show how easy it is to lose it (that's another blog post)! However what I saw from comments at people (rightly so) horrified at her TV show was comments about the way she looks. People on Twitter and Facebook were making horrible comments about the way she looks, dress etc which just shows me that we're fighting an ever losing battle!

In my eyes, if we are angry at Katie Hopkins for her judgemental comments about fat people then fighting that with judgemental comments about the way she looks is pointless and harmful. Instead we need to look at rising above it and fighting her horrible judgemental views with education and strength, not resorting to name calling.

And then this morning I saw (although admittedly I haven't read the article) a headline in That's Life Magazine about plus size party Big Girls Paradise. The headline reads "If You're Thin, You're Not Coming In". The organisers of BGP are adamant that they knew nothing of the headline but I am not sure if that makes things better or worse! I have lost count of the number of BGP parties I have attended across 3 different cities in the last few years and I can hand on my heart say that thin people are welcome, more than welcome! 

Yes, BGP is a plus size positive environment but that doesn't mean anyone else isn't welcome, what nonsense! I have spoken about BGP and the improvements they can (in my opinion) make but one thing I can say is that no one is turned away because of their size - what a horrible place that would be if that were the case.

This headline apparently plucked out of thin air by That's Life Magazine only goes to try and strengthen the divide between fat and thin people. I can see horrified thin women reading that story and thinking FINE! Let them go their special club they don't need to be made to feel welcome in our clubs! Fair enough, that might be an exaggerated view but why do magazines like this need to add any fuel to the fire? We certainly do not need anything more to separate fat and thin people so these magazines need to sit up and realise that their sensationalised headlines make a massive difference!

So, we have magazines claiming that thin people aren't welcome in plus size parties and supposed body positive people slating on Katie Hopkins because of the way she looks - both of these supposed scenarios where people should be made to feel welcomed and loved, not slated.

So, body positivity are we fighting a losing battle or do you think we're making in-roads to where we need to be?

Debz x

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Plus Size Fashion - Why Aren't We Reading From The Same Page?

Last week I was sent an infographic from a PR company - nothing new there. However this one was about plus size summer trends and what we should and should not be wearing. It contained handy tips like do not wear a crop top with low-cut jeans or don't wear two peplum items together. I told them that this was nonsense and that if they had read my blog they would see that their 'advice' was everything that I stood against. I thought nothing more of it - until I saw a post where a girl had posted the infographic and that she AGREED with them - I was horrified!! I don't want to link to the post here, as this isn't a personal attack on anyone - but it was a general do and do list of what a plus size lady should wear. 

And I Get Dressed...

There has been a hashtag floating around lately of "And I Get Dressed" and this made me think of that. When I get dressed in the morning I wear the clothes that I like and the styles that I want to wear for me. I don't worry about whether someone else is going to feel uncomfortable because I am wearing shorts or whether the top I am wearing is considered flattering. I get that people won't like what I am wearing always and that sometimes I wear things other people wouldn't - but surely that is the beauty of fashion? I love the way I dress, it's a relatively new discovery for me to wear clothes I am passionate about and I don't intend to stop!

Maybe I am naive in thinking that the world of plus size bloggers think the same as me. Maybe it is silly to believe that we're fighting from the same corner for everyone to EffYourBeautyStandards and wear the clothes that they want to wear. I generally didn't think I would see a plus size blog telling me "And then there are some summer trends that we just shouldn't be a part of, for example, the booty shorts trend. "

If I want to wear booty shorts - why shouldn't I? How is the fact that I choose to wear a certain style of clothing wrong to you? If you don't want to wear them - that is OK! Just as it is more than OK that I want to wear them.

I know that as a plus size person I often have to battle against media influences in order to dress how I want and live the life I choose, but I honestly didn't realise that I was also fighting against other plus size people for the right to dress how I want.

To anyone who feels that I shouldn't wear "clingy fabrics like nylon and spandex" I am sorry that my body makes you feel uncomfortable. I am not sorry for wearing what I choose to wear, I am just sorry that the shape of someone's body and the material they choose to put on it is something that makes you feel so passionate that you need to write about it. I hope one day, you'll learn (like many of us have had to) that all bodies are good bodies and that the only body and clothing you should worry about is your own.


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How On Earth Do Your Love Yourself?

This week a post on the Fuller Figure Fuller Bust Facebook page got me thinking again! With the likes of Linda Kelsey and Katie Hopkins fighting in the opposite corner to us, how is it really possible to love ourselves? I know that body image troubles come in all shapes and sizes and that you don't have to be fat to have doubts about your self worth, but sometimes it seems the media is particularly against those that are overweight.

A post on Georgina's Facebook page was a question from a reader of hers asking about confidence and how to get more of it!

For me, a massive part of the journey to loving my body has been surrounding myself with a new type of media. Every day we are surrounded by media that tells us that our hair should be a different colour, we should be dressed in a different way and that our clothes should have a small size label attached to them. If our bodies dont meet those standards then the media bombards us with hints and tips on who to style ourselves on and how to get a bikini body! It's tough to fight against all of that, when that is all we see!

A few years ago I discovered a whole new world of media that is helpful and brings us up rather than drags us down. Now I regularly discover new articles, poetry, books, journalists, photos and more that work towards helping people love their bodies!

I thought I would share some of my favourites here, so feel free to have a read!

This post by Natasha Devon about health vs weight makes a fantastic read.

And this video by Meghan Trainor is a fun(not to be taken too seriously) look at loving your body if it is larger.

Twitter and Tumblr are full of quotes like the below, just search for tags like #Bodyimage to find them

Browse Instagram to see what people like Tess Munster, Honor Curves and many more have to say! Their pages are often full of positive words and pictures, so well worth checking out. Inclduing hashtags such as #EffYourBeautyStandards and #HonorMyCurves

Samatha Peterson has some fantastic things to say here

Artists like Carol Rossetti have some amazing, body-positive pieces of art like the one below

And there are hundreds more like them! I try to share any that I come across on my Facebook page, so feel free to come and give me a like if you want to see more. In general the media doesn't tell us anything positive, instead they want us to buy into not being good enough. Take responsibility and surround yourself with a much better, more positive media - you'll notice the difference, I promise!

Do you know any body positive influencers? Share them with me!!

Debz xx

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My Body Is Not Brave

So.. summer is on it's way(hopefully to stay!) and it comes to that time of year when we all like to flash the flesh. I have to admit that I love wearing skirts without leggings, shorts and t shirts and of course my beloved flip flops! For me, the hot weather is so much easier - no worrying about layering up and what you are going to wear to keep warm and dry. Instead you can just put on almost anything and you are good to go!

However, being plus size/fat/curvy/large whatever you want to call it dressing in this way is going to get you some reactions. One of the reactions that always baffles me is the "Wow, you look great you are so brave" or "I love this outfit, I wish I was as brave as you". I know that these compliments come from a good place, so I try not to feel disappointed at them, but invariably - I do!

As far as I am concerened, there is nothing brave about wearing clothes! My body is not a battle ground to be debated and there is nothing brave to me when it comes to choosing the clothes that I want to wear. If someone doesn't want to wear the type of clothes that I do that is fine, but I choose to wear them because I like them and not because I am brave!

When you get messages along the lines of "WOW, how did you learn to be so confident" I know they come from a place of good, but they also baffle me... Is it really so baffling that someone who looks like me can love their body? If you don't love yours then I am sorry and I really hope that one day you learn to, but being so shocked and surprised that I love me... That isn't good! Why is it such a surprise that I am confident in my skin? Usually because deep down people don't feel I should be... and that isn't a good way of thinking.

If you feel happier covering up this summer then that is fine, but I'll be getting out my pale, chubby body parts and there is nothing brave about that!

What will you be wearing this summer?

I would love to see your #MyBodyisNotBrave so share then on Instagram with the hashtag so I can check them out!!
Debz xx

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