Choosing who you want to be part of your bridal party can be one of the most difficult decisions
when it comes to planning your wedding. For some people, the decision is an easy and an obvious
one. For other couples, deciding who is going to be the best man and bridesmaids can keep them
awake for nights on end. If you feel like you fall into the latter category, fear not. There are a
number of different steps you can take to ensure you end up with the perfect bridal party for you.
So, let’s take a look…
when it comes to planning your wedding. For some people, the decision is an easy and an obvious
one. For other couples, deciding who is going to be the best man and bridesmaids can keep them
awake for nights on end. If you feel like you fall into the latter category, fear not. There are a
number of different steps you can take to ensure you end up with the perfect bridal party for you.
So, let’s take a look…
Think twice before asking – There is no rush when it comes to asking people to be your
best man, bridesmaids, ushers, and so on. Therefore, make sure you take a moment so that
you can truly think about whether or not you have made the right decision. No matter how
confident you are, it certainly helps to take a moment to mull over all of your options. After all,
once you have asked someone to be in your wedding party, you can’t go back on this.
best man, bridesmaids, ushers, and so on. Therefore, make sure you take a moment so that
you can truly think about whether or not you have made the right decision. No matter how
confident you are, it certainly helps to take a moment to mull over all of your options. After all,
once you have asked someone to be in your wedding party, you can’t go back on this.
Don’t feel you have to ask someone because they asked you – A lot of people feel obliged
to ask someone because they played a role at their wedding. Just because you were a
bridesmaid at someone else’s wedding does not mean they have to be one at yours. As
time goes on, friends change and we enter different stages in our lives.
You may have been best friends with someone at university and been in the bridal party when
she got married. However, if you have not spoken for three years, you do not need to include her
in your bridesmaid gang. She won’t expect you to either. Your bridal party should be filled with
people you genuinely want, rather than you feeling like you need to return favours or even
the score.
to ask someone because they played a role at their wedding. Just because you were a
bridesmaid at someone else’s wedding does not mean they have to be one at yours. As
time goes on, friends change and we enter different stages in our lives.
You may have been best friends with someone at university and been in the bridal party when
she got married. However, if you have not spoken for three years, you do not need to include her
in your bridesmaid gang. She won’t expect you to either. Your bridal party should be filled with
people you genuinely want, rather than you feeling like you need to return favours or even
the score.
Choose responsible friends – This is especially the case when it comes to the best man. The
last thing you want is for the best man speech to have everyone squirming in their chair
because it is so awkward and laced with tales about the groom’s ex-girlfriend. The last thing you
want to do is spend your wedding babysitting people in your bridal party, so make sure you pick
people you can rely on to be responsible.
last thing you want is for the best man speech to have everyone squirming in their chair
because it is so awkward and laced with tales about the groom’s ex-girlfriend. The last thing you
want to do is spend your wedding babysitting people in your bridal party, so make sure you pick
people you can rely on to be responsible.
Think about including your sisters and brothers – If you are an only child, you will be skipping
this paragraph. If not, you may want to think about including your brother and sister, even if
you are not particularly close. We don’t want to sound like your mum, but your brother and
sister are going to be there for all of your anniversaries and you will probably become closer
as you get older, so it can be nice to include them in your special day.
this paragraph. If not, you may want to think about including your brother and sister, even if
you are not particularly close. We don’t want to sound like your mum, but your brother and
sister are going to be there for all of your anniversaries and you will probably become closer
as you get older, so it can be nice to include them in your special day.
Consider the size of your wedding – You should also think about the size of your wedding when
determining the size of your wedding party. Most people tend to have four people on either side.
However, you can have as many or as few groomsmen and bridesmaids as you want.
Nevertheless, it usually wise to keep the number of people you have in your bridal party in line
with the number of attendees you are going to have. After all, if you are going to have a small
wedding with only around 50 guests, it’s not a good idea to have 12 in your bridal party.
determining the size of your wedding party. Most people tend to have four people on either side.
However, you can have as many or as few groomsmen and bridesmaids as you want.
Nevertheless, it usually wise to keep the number of people you have in your bridal party in line
with the number of attendees you are going to have. After all, if you are going to have a small
wedding with only around 50 guests, it’s not a good idea to have 12 in your bridal party.
Make sure your expectations are honest – The next step is to think about the sort of role you
want your wedding party to play. Do you want all of your bridesmaids, for example, to assist
you with shopping for your wedding dress, choosing invites, and so on? Or, do you simply want
them to show up on your wedding day and be there for you while you say “I do”? There is no
right or wrong with this. It is all about what you want for your wedding. However, your answer
to these questions can impact the sort of person you ask to be in your bridal party. If you are
looking for people to help you throughout the entire planning phase, you will want to go for
friends that are reliable whom you can count on.
want your wedding party to play. Do you want all of your bridesmaids, for example, to assist
you with shopping for your wedding dress, choosing invites, and so on? Or, do you simply want
them to show up on your wedding day and be there for you while you say “I do”? There is no
right or wrong with this. It is all about what you want for your wedding. However, your answer
to these questions can impact the sort of person you ask to be in your bridal party. If you are
looking for people to help you throughout the entire planning phase, you will want to go for
friends that are reliable whom you can count on.
Research other roles – Last but not least, if you have a large group of friends and you are
worried that people are going to be left out, why not look for other roles? There are plenty of
other ways that people can get involved in your wedding. For example, do you have a musically
inclined friend who would love to play at your wedding reception? Or, maybe you could have a
few ushers who lead people to their seats when they arrive? There are lots of other ways to get
other people included, so make sure you think outside of the box.
worried that people are going to be left out, why not look for other roles? There are plenty of
other ways that people can get involved in your wedding. For example, do you have a musically
inclined friend who would love to play at your wedding reception? Or, maybe you could have a
few ushers who lead people to their seats when they arrive? There are lots of other ways to get
other people included, so make sure you think outside of the box.
As you can see, there are a number of different factors that you should consider when you are
trying to decide on how is going to be part of your bridal party. From your bridesmaid to your
best man, you want to make sure that you have the right people standing by you on the most
important day of your life. Use the steps that have been presented above and you should be able
to come to the best decision for you.
trying to decide on how is going to be part of your bridal party. From your bridesmaid to your
best man, you want to make sure that you have the right people standing by you on the most
important day of your life. Use the steps that have been presented above and you should be able
to come to the best decision for you.
Debz
Debz Louise is a plus-size blogger based in Yorkshire. Behind many nationwide campaigns such as #WeaAreTheThey & winner of Best Blogger at the UK Plus Size Awards, she talkas about life as a plus-size 40-something woman in South Yorkshire.
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