Wannabe Princess

What Makes A Real Plus Size Woman? – I have spoken about my hatred of the term ‘real women’ before and I have no doubt that it is a subject that will come up again! However, what I hadn’t really come across until this morning was women campaigning for ‘real plus size women’….  Is there even such a thing?


I woke up to the (in my opinion) exciting news that Yours Clothing are working with Hayley Hasselhoff and that she is to be the face of their summer campaign! I am a sucker for a pretty girl in a pretty dress so this was quite exciting to me! I saw Hayley at British Plus Size Fashion Weekend and she is stunning! But a real plus size woman?

I wandered over to the Yours Clothing Facebook page for a bit of a nosey and I was really surprised at how much negativity there was surrounding Yours Clothings announcement. Many women were claiming that Hayley was ‘too small’ to represent them and that Yours Clothing should have chosen a ‘real plus size woman’ as the face of their summer collection.


It is easy to get carried away with the need to see clothes on bodies that we feel represent us, but we have to remember that bodies and clothing are not a one size fits all state of affairs! Yes, I would love to see size 28 models showing off clothes, but that means that everyone who isn’t that size misses out!

Even someone who is a size 28 could have a different body shape to me – the truth is that you’re never going to get a true representation. The truth is that Hayley, as a size 16 young lady is part of Yours Clothing‘s target market – they offer fast fashion for sizes 14+ and so she is the size of their customers, even if you feel that her body doesn’t reflect yours.

What is also important to remember is that size 16 girls want to see how clothes look on their body too, or at least as close as you can get it to! It’s fab that places like Yours Clothing use bigger models and plus size bloggers to showcase their clothing and show it off on different bodies, but we have to remember the smaller end of plus size too!

A view, real plus size woman

I have seen posts on Yours Clothings Facebook shooting down women for being too big, too bold, promoting obesity and now not plus size enough! Let’s face facts here, plus size means different things to different people. Someone at a size 16 is going to look a lot smaller than me, but a lot bigger than my sister. 


However, if someone shops at a plus size store (even if not all the time) and wants to label themselves as plus size – they’re all just as real as anyone else and their need for representation in the plus size industry is just as relevant!

I would love to see the day when we stop shooting each other down in flames – none of us are too small, too big, too short, too fat, too thin, too tall or too anything – we are exactly enough and that’s all we need! We all identify as a real plus size woman.

I personally love the shots put out of the summer collection so far and would love to see more, be a real plus size woman!


What do you think, what makes a real plus size woman?


Debz x


Don’t forget – If you’re new to Yours Clothing you can use my Blogger18 code to get £10 off of a £20 spend! A real plus size woman would!

I can’t find any links to buy this online as it is old stock, so I realise that it is quite unhelpful. However, the dress is a little different for me and so I wanted to share it.

I quite like the contrast of long sleeves and legs out. I don’t often wear sleeves but it really suits this dress. It was quite warm to wear as it is a thick material but that makes it perfect for cooler days!

Shoes are a £6 Primark bargain – their wide fit shoe range is amazing at the moment!

Do you own any dresses that are a little different to what you normally wear?

Debz xx

So.. summer is on it’s way(hopefully to stay!) and it comes to that time of year when we all like to flash the flesh. I have to admit that I love wearing skirts without leggings, shorts and t shirts and of course my beloved flip flops! For me, the hot weather is so much easier – no worrying about layering up and what you are going to wear to keep warm and dry. Instead you can just put on almost anything and you are good to go!

However, being plus size/fat/curvy/large whatever you want to call it dressing in this way is going to get you some reactions. One of the reactions that always baffles me is the “Wow, you look great you are so brave” or “I love this outfit, I wish I was as brave as you. I know that these compliments come from a good place, so I try not to feel disappointed at them, but invariably – I do!

As far as I am concerened, there is nothing brave about wearing clothes! My body is not a battle ground to be debated and there is nothing brave to me when it comes to choosing the clothes that I want to wear. If someone doesn’t want to wear the type of clothes that I do that is fine, but I choose to wear them because I like them and not because I am brave!

When you get messages along the lines of “WOW, how did you learn to be so confident” I know they come from a place of good, but they also baffle me… Is it really so baffling that someone who looks like me can love their body? If you don’t love yours then I am sorry and I really hope that one day you learn to, but being so shocked and surprised that I love me… That isn’t good! Why is it such a surprise that I am confident in my skin? Usually because deep down people don’t feel I should be… and that isn’t a good way of thinking.

If you feel happier covering up this summer then that is fine, but I’ll be getting out my pale, chubby body parts and there is nothing brave about that!

What will you be wearing this summer?

Debz xx

Using Primark To The Maxi – This weekend my mum and I headed to Primark for a bit of a shopping spree! Primark always makes me a little sad because of them not doing a ‘proper’ plus size range – but we can only hope! That said, I never come out of Primark empty-handed!

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