I feel like once you start to get older and you remain
single, there becomes a pressure to date. People expect you to want to settle
down and have a family, so when you don’t do this, they can start to question
why this is.
single, there becomes a pressure to date. People expect you to want to settle
down and have a family, so when you don’t do this, they can start to question
why this is.
I haven’t always loved dating and I haven’t always had the
best experiences, so there are times when I just don’t feel like dating at all.
I have always felt happy with this, knowing that my love life (or lack of) is
my decision and mine only. But that doesn’t stop people asking why you’re
single or when you’re going to settle down. I understand, I’m 35 so a “proper
grown-up” but that doesn’t mean that I want to date just for the sake of it.
best experiences, so there are times when I just don’t feel like dating at all.
I have always felt happy with this, knowing that my love life (or lack of) is
my decision and mine only. But that doesn’t stop people asking why you’re
single or when you’re going to settle down. I understand, I’m 35 so a “proper
grown-up” but that doesn’t mean that I want to date just for the sake of it.
I have never been one of these people who want to date just
because it means a night out. I know lots of people like getting out of the
house and so an excuse to go for a drink with someone else is a good way to do
this. However, that doesn’t work for me. I only see the point in going on a
first date with someone, where I feel like there will be a chance of a 2nd
date. I know life doesn’t always work like that, but I do try to live by that
if I can.
because it means a night out. I know lots of people like getting out of the
house and so an excuse to go for a drink with someone else is a good way to do
this. However, that doesn’t work for me. I only see the point in going on a
first date with someone, where I feel like there will be a chance of a 2nd
date. I know life doesn’t always work like that, but I do try to live by that
if I can.
I always know when I am ready to do and when I need a break,
so I would say that you can listen to your own instinct and do what is right
for you.
so I would say that you can listen to your own instinct and do what is right
for you.
When To Start Dating
Whether you have been single for a while or just out of a
relationship, it can be hard to know when to dive into dating again. I would
say there are no set rules, people are ready at time times and move at
different paces. The best thing to do is go in with no expectations, that way
you can just go with the flow and make it something you like – after all, dating
is supposed to be fun!
relationship, it can be hard to know when to dive into dating again. I would
say there are no set rules, people are ready at time times and move at
different paces. The best thing to do is go in with no expectations, that way
you can just go with the flow and make it something you like – after all, dating
is supposed to be fun!
Remember as well, just because you have decided to join a
dating website doesn’t mean you have to rush out and meet people. There is
nothing wrong with sticking a toe in the water and getting a feel for it before
you dive right in. You might even just chit chat to a few people before you get
a feel for someone that you really want to get out there and meet – and that’s
okay too!
dating website doesn’t mean you have to rush out and meet people. There is
nothing wrong with sticking a toe in the water and getting a feel for it before
you dive right in. You might even just chit chat to a few people before you get
a feel for someone that you really want to get out there and meet – and that’s
okay too!
One of the best things about online dating is that you
literally get to decide. For starters, there are different types of dating
websites out there. Want a casual hook up? Fine! Feel like you only want to
date someone really local? No problem! Fancy a sugar daddy? Go for it! Adult dating sites? Go for it! Serious
relationship? You got it! Of course, you do need to take lots of online dating
and what people tell you with a pinch of salt, but there’s definitely great
places to start!
literally get to decide. For starters, there are different types of dating
websites out there. Want a casual hook up? Fine! Feel like you only want to
date someone really local? No problem! Fancy a sugar daddy? Go for it! Adult dating sites? Go for it! Serious
relationship? You got it! Of course, you do need to take lots of online dating
and what people tell you with a pinch of salt, but there’s definitely great
places to start!
Then of course, when you do sign up you get to choose what
goes on your profile and how much of yourself you put out there. For example if
you decide sex dating sites are the choice for you, you may decide to keep your
profile more vague than if you’re seeking a serious, long term relationship.
goes on your profile and how much of yourself you put out there. For example if
you decide sex dating sites are the choice for you, you may decide to keep your
profile more vague than if you’re seeking a serious, long term relationship.
When I join traditional dating websites I tend to opt for a
nice selfie and a couple of full length pictures. It’s important to me that
people can see exactly what I look like and that they are happy with that. I
have a few paragraphs about what I am looking for, my body and my expectations.
That way, everyone knows where they stand and there should be no nasty surprises.
Of course, that isn’t always the case so every time I meet someone I tend
precautions to ensure I am safe. Always meet in a public place and let someone
know where you are going.
nice selfie and a couple of full length pictures. It’s important to me that
people can see exactly what I look like and that they are happy with that. I
have a few paragraphs about what I am looking for, my body and my expectations.
That way, everyone knows where they stand and there should be no nasty surprises.
Of course, that isn’t always the case so every time I meet someone I tend
precautions to ensure I am safe. Always meet in a public place and let someone
know where you are going.
Don’t go anywhere private with someone until you feel
comfortable and it is always okay to go home if you don’t feel safe. Make your
own way home and if they insist that you stay, remind yourself you are well
within your rights to leave.
comfortable and it is always okay to go home if you don’t feel safe. Make your
own way home and if they insist that you stay, remind yourself you are well
within your rights to leave.
Whenever you date, whoever you date, however you date – have
fun!
fun!
Debz x
Debz Louise is a plus-size blogger based in Yorkshire. Behind many nationwide campaigns such as #WeaAreTheThey & winner of Best Blogger at the UK Plus Size Awards, she talkas about life as a plus-size 40-something woman in South Yorkshire.
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