Every so often I come across something that grabs my attention and I have to write about it. Admittedly it is usually something to rant about and someone that has made me mad, but tonight it’s about something so beautiful it made my eyes leak.

I know that sometimes the whole issue of body image can be tiring. With so many issues surrounding us and so much that tries to bring us down, it can be exhausting. However, I also know that for many, many people there are others battles which can make life tough too!

It is easy for me to write about how you should love yourself and what you can do to make loving your body easy but today I discovered a young lady that actually does something to help people. Not with body image issues as such, but just a boost for those who need it, how amazing is that?


I watched Surprise Surprise today and came across a lovely lady called Jodie Ann Bickley who actually makes an effort to make a difference to peoples lives with her One Million Lovely Letters project.

It’s inspirational to me that someone would take time out of their day to make someone else’s life a little better and the One Million Lovely Letters project is nothing less than beautiful! She writes letters back to anyone who has written to her feeling a little down or hopeless and so far has written thousands of letters to people all over the world – how outstanding is that?


I love that there are people out there who want to actively make a difference in peoples lives and there are no words to describe how inspirational I think Jodie is.


Have a read of the project website – it’s beautiful! http://onemillionlovelyletters.com/


Debz xx


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Earlier this year when Matalan announced that they were going to expand their plus size range, I was excited! Since then they have continued to add items to their range and I have to say I am constantly impressed.


One of the nicest things about the Matalan plus size range is the fact that it goes up to a size 30 and personally I am pleased whenever I see a range that goes above a size 26! When you look at the Matalan range you’ll see that there are some lovely going out items and a good mixture of basics, so there is something for everything.


Some of my favourite picks are:

Have you bought anything from Matalan lately, what’s caught your eye?


Debz x


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You might remember a few months I wrote very excitedly about the Estella Dress by Lady V London, designed by Georgina at Fuller Figure, Fuller Bust. At my birthday celebrations earlier this week I could have cried with happiness when my friends presented me with a package that contained one of them! I am SO happy to say I am now a proud Estella Dress owner and it feels good!

This morning I ran a Macmillan Coffee Morning locally to me and I used it as an excuse to wear the dress out for the first time… Well tea and cake does go perfectly with a pretty dress like this. The dress fits perfectly and I love the shape it gives my body. 

I had to wear a vest to underneath to protect my modesty and I would probably usually wear it with a cream or white best top but I don’t think the black top looks bad at all! (On that note, I hear that  the new out Lady V London dresses have an improved fit with a stitch on the wrap part at the front so I would be interested to try it).

The material is a lot thicker than I expected but not in a way that makes it too hot or too stiff to wear. It doesn’t have much stretch but that does mean that it ‘brings you in’ and I love the shape that this gives me. I wear the waist quite high so the length is perfect but you could easily get away with this if you were taller too!

Lady V London have just released a range of polka dot dresses in the same shape, which I would love to try especially with the extra stitch on the wrap to give a better fit.


Do you have an Estella dress? Which one is your favourite?


Debz x


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Double Floral Pattern – Cute as a Bunny – I am just back from spending a long weekend in London, and it was brilliant! I wore some lovely new outfits, so expect some outfit posts coming up over the next few days.
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Plus Size Fashion – I have to admit that I had to think twice about writing this post because I really do not want to isolate brands that I have worked with and might work with in the future. But then I realised I couldn’t think like that because my blog started out as my own little corner of the internet to rant and rave about items and I can’t let that change.
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When it comes to ranting on the likes of Facebook and other social media, I am not often able to hold back, espeically when I see bullying or subtle (or not so) body bashing. 


Today a photo of a very thin lady came on on my Facebook news feed. This lady is very, very thin to the ‘extreme’ that you can see bones poking out from under her skin. The photo had “no fat chicks” all over it and according to what I have read, it is a lady that is scared and afraid of being overweight, or fat in anyway. I am not a doctor but I guess that would indicate an eating disorder of sorts, but that is not really for me to judge. You can see the photo I am talking about here *Trigger warning, very thin body and body hatred*. You’ll need to click the link as I did not want to show it without a trigger warning (something I am trying to become more aware of!)


I agree that an image like this is shocking, for the body image insults if nothing else! However, the insults and pure ignorance posted towards this photo left me flabbergasted. I understand that we need to fight body image negativity, it’s something that I do every day but I do not understand why people feel that body bashing and bullying is the best way to get there?

Click to view larger, sorry for the ultra-cool editing! ha

So… So far we have that she probably has some sort of eating disorder (again I am not a doctor but she posts a lot about not wanting to be fat and she is very thin so I can only assume), according to one of the earlier comments the best way to deal with this is to ‘give this girl a double cheeseburger‘. Then we have the comments about her looking like a corpse and a skeleton and her body being disgusting. I don’t know whether it is because  I have had body shaming comments left on my photos online or not, but these comments leave me feeling very uncomfortable and I do not understand why anyone feels that mocking a body is the best way to deal with intolerance?

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Another comment about this lady looking like a corpse and now she looks like a starved animal… AN ANIMAL! Someone thinks that because this lady is very thin it is OK to compare her to an ANIMAL!!! How does that even make any sense? We also have a comparison to a tooth pick & apparently these ‘bitches snap in half’… Have you ever read anything so awful? Well actually, sadly I have but that doesn’t make it right!


The conversation goes on and on about how she deserves it because she fat bashed, how her body is gross, so wrong, she needs a sandwich, her body makes someone want to throw up and the last comment as I write this is that she is a “freakshow”.


I don’t quite know what the point of this rant is, but I needed to get it out there! 


I truly, truly do not understand why people feel it is their right or their duty to comment on the body shape of another HUMAN! Not an animal or a tooth pick or even a fat whale, but a HUMAN! A person! Someone who is effected by words and lives their life being judged every day because of the shape of their body. I do not understand how people can say “Wow that skinny bitch fat bashed get her a sandwich” and think that it is OK because you know the two wrongs cancel each other out or something!

YES! Fight this lady (that is what she is – not a corpse, not a skeleton and not a freakshow) for her shallow views against fat people and her loved ones should get her help if she needs it but DO NOT use the shape of her body against her because you are no worse then the people who body shame every single day!


If you are ever tempted to use the shape of someones body against them for whatever reason, try to think about how you feel whenever others use yours against you? It’s horrible – why would you want to inflict that feeling onto someone else?

Disgraceful…


Debz x

Yesterday I wrote about Katie Hopkins and her mission to gain weight and then lose it again, to show how easy it is! The article had an amazing response – THANK YOU! And one of my busiest blog days ever, amazing!

Anyway, as you would expect from an article like this it got a lot of comments everywhere, but I have to say not all of them made me smile. As ever, I know that most of these comments come from a good place & people are simply rallying together to fight this bully and really that can only be positive, but I didn’t like it!

She Looks So Much Healthier Fatter


Katie Hopkins has gained just over 3.5 stone and in her own words has gone from underweight to overweight (I don’t know her BMI or anything so I can’t judge that), so I can only take what she has said on the subject. However, what I read several times yesterday is ‘she looks so much healthier fatter’, which surely goes against what lots of us strive for? I have read time and time again larger people writing that they do not want people to judge their health just by the way they look, after all what do you know about someone’s health just by looking at them? Health is such a complicated process and subject and not something that you can tell just be seeing how big or how small they are? Yes, she looks bigger but I can not agree that she looks healthier.


She Looks So Much Better Fatter


Looks are subjective and most of us would rather be seen for more than just the size of our waistband – so why should it be different for Katie Hopkins? It is fine if you think she is nicer looking with more weight on her, but you should remember that how good someone looks is subjective and personal – what you think looks good isn’t the same across the board. Does being fatter or thinner make her ‘better’? Not at all!


She Looks Normal Now


What is normal? Who are we to judge who looks normal and who doesn’t? The only thing we really know about Katies weight gain is that she now looks fatter. Is fatter more normal? Does that mean anyone who shared Katies old weight/height statistics doesn’t look normal? What an odd concept! 

I am not a Katie fan at all but I don’t believe in fighting fire with fire. Just because she wants to judge us on the way we look because of our weight that doesn’t mean that we should do the same. Let’s fight her with education and tell her she is wrong – but we won’t do that by using insults or non-factual statements about her body like she does ours!


Debz xx