Anyone who knows me personally will know that my little sister has
lost quite a lot of weight over the past 2-3 years and fantastically well she
has done at it too! But, after a conversation with her tonight (YAY for sister
time) I realise that we all take for granted just what weight loss does (or
doesn’t do) for you.
lost quite a lot of weight over the past 2-3 years and fantastically well she
has done at it too! But, after a conversation with her tonight (YAY for sister
time) I realise that we all take for granted just what weight loss does (or
doesn’t do) for you.
I’m not going to get into facts and figures
because we all know that I feel those aren’t important, being happy in your own
skin is far more essential that wearing the jeans size that the media says you
should. What is important is that she set herself a goal and stuck to it – as
she does now!
because we all know that I feel those aren’t important, being happy in your own
skin is far more essential that wearing the jeans size that the media says you
should. What is important is that she set herself a goal and stuck to it – as
she does now!
Would You Ever Ask Someone What They
Weigh?
Weigh?
I don’t think I have ever asked someone
what they weigh! I am not sure I would even ask someone their dress size
(unless it was for practical reasons) let alone what the scales read when they
take the (sometimes brave) step to step onto them.
what they weigh! I am not sure I would even ask someone their dress size
(unless it was for practical reasons) let alone what the scales read when they
take the (sometimes brave) step to step onto them.
My sister told me today that since she has
lost weight, she has been asked how much she weighs more times than she cares
to remember… She recalls that when she was ‘fat’ no one ever asked her this.
It seems that people see the transformation she has gone through has given
people a reason (excuse?) to ask her what she weighs… This isn’t just
friends, but work colleagues and people she barely knows!
lost weight, she has been asked how much she weighs more times than she cares
to remember… She recalls that when she was ‘fat’ no one ever asked her this.
It seems that people see the transformation she has gone through has given
people a reason (excuse?) to ask her what she weighs… This isn’t just
friends, but work colleagues and people she barely knows!
You Look So Much Better Now!
You would imagine that our media obsessed
world would lead to compliments of “you look so much better now you are
thin” which she says happens… But that isn’t where it ends. She gets
comments such as “Oh, have you put on a bit of weight, you look so much better
for it”… She hasn’t gained weight & to be honest, is that anyone else’s
business? People telling her she looks better thin, others telling her she looks better (when they think she is) bigger… How is anyone supposed to win!?
world would lead to compliments of “you look so much better now you are
thin” which she says happens… But that isn’t where it ends. She gets
comments such as “Oh, have you put on a bit of weight, you look so much better
for it”… She hasn’t gained weight & to be honest, is that anyone else’s
business? People telling her she looks better thin, others telling her she looks better (when they think she is) bigger… How is anyone supposed to win!?
I don’t want to go into personal details
of her life (and I have asked her if I can blog about this) but it made me
realise (once again) that it isn’t just fat people that get comments on the way
they look. She has worked hard at her body and yet people still tell her she
looks good thin, or that she looks better a bit bigger. Not people whose
opinion she has asked for or even someone who has entered into discussion with,
but just people who feel it is their right/obligation/job to comment on whether
she looks good at whatever weight they think she looks better at.
of her life (and I have asked her if I can blog about this) but it made me
realise (once again) that it isn’t just fat people that get comments on the way
they look. She has worked hard at her body and yet people still tell her she
looks good thin, or that she looks better a bit bigger. Not people whose
opinion she has asked for or even someone who has entered into discussion with,
but just people who feel it is their right/obligation/job to comment on whether
she looks good at whatever weight they think she looks better at.
To me, she has always been beautiful and I
would never comment on it and she’s my sister – why other people think they
should is baffling… I am sure she is not the only person who goes through
this. In fact I know she isn’t – many of us deal with peoples comments on OUR
body every single day.
would never comment on it and she’s my sister – why other people think they
should is baffling… I am sure she is not the only person who goes through
this. In fact I know she isn’t – many of us deal with peoples comments on OUR
body every single day.
Let’s all just
remember we are not put on this earth to be visually pleasing to other people
at all. We are put on this Earth to live our life exactly how we want & we
do not and should not live our life in a way that just pleases others. If
people do not like the way we look then they can simply choose to look the
other way!
remember we are not put on this earth to be visually pleasing to other people
at all. We are put on this Earth to live our life exactly how we want & we
do not and should not live our life in a way that just pleases others. If
people do not like the way we look then they can simply choose to look the
other way!
Be-You-Tiful
Debz xx
Debz Louise is a plus-size blogger based in Yorkshire. Behind many nationwide campaigns such as #WeaAreTheThey & winner of Best Blogger at the UK Plus Size Awards, she talkas about life as a plus-size 40-something woman in South Yorkshire.
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