10 Honest Thoughts On Being Loved by a Skinny Boy – Thanks to the wonder of Facebook I discovered this amazing piece by Rachel Wiley today! It isn’t the sort of thing I usually blog about, as I don’t have much to say on it – but I loved it and think it could really benefit some people!
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Black and Bling
At the weekend I was lucky enough to be invited to the Hen Party of one of my good friends! The original plan was a picnic day in London (with a treasure hunt) and then to go to see a show at Wonderground in Waterloo. Unfortunately the weather put a dampener on our plans – so we ended up having dinner and drinks (what a shame!) in Leicester Square before we went to see the show in Waterloo. If you haven’t been to see LIMBO at Waterloo then I can not recommend it enough! The show was breathtaking and Wonderland is fantastic – really worth a visit!
We also paid a cheeky visit to M and M world in the afternoon too! It wasn’t my idea honest 😉
The dress code was ‘black and bling’ and people didn’t appoint! As you know, I don’t really tend to wear black so I did wonder what I was going to wear. Then I remembered that I bought this black sparkly dress from Excite clothing last year on eBay and thought it was perfect.
Ignore the badly posed, selfie style photos – I really need to work out the timer on my camera.
Anyway to go with the theme I wore a set of silver bangles from Primark and a frog sparkly necklace from Love Ur Curves.
Dress: Excite Clothing
Pink Leggings: Love Ur Curves
Bangles: Primark
Frog Necklace: Love Ur Curves
Shoes: Primark
Ear Rings: eBay
What did you get up to this weekend?
Debz
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Campaign To Standardise Womens Clothing Sizes
Standardise Womens Clothing Sizes – I have blogged a couple of times about the difference in clothing sizes depending on what you buy and where you buy it from. It is OK when you get an idea of how clothing sizes run for you (ASOS are very generous, I find Yours Clothing a little small) but it is a pain!
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Gym’ll Fix It! My Sisters Story From The Otherside Of The Coin.
Anyone who knows me personally will know that my little sister has
lost quite a lot of weight over the past 2-3 years and fantastically well she
has done at it too! But, after a conversation with her tonight (YAY for sister
time) I realise that we all take for granted just what weight loss does (or
doesn’t do) for you.
lost quite a lot of weight over the past 2-3 years and fantastically well she
has done at it too! But, after a conversation with her tonight (YAY for sister
time) I realise that we all take for granted just what weight loss does (or
doesn’t do) for you.
I’m not going to get into facts and figures
because we all know that I feel those aren’t important, being happy in your own
skin is far more essential that wearing the jeans size that the media says you
should. What is important is that she set herself a goal and stuck to it – as
she does now!
because we all know that I feel those aren’t important, being happy in your own
skin is far more essential that wearing the jeans size that the media says you
should. What is important is that she set herself a goal and stuck to it – as
she does now!
Would You Ever Ask Someone What They
Weigh?
Weigh?
I don’t think I have ever asked someone
what they weigh! I am not sure I would even ask someone their dress size
(unless it was for practical reasons) let alone what the scales read when they
take the (sometimes brave) step to step onto them.
what they weigh! I am not sure I would even ask someone their dress size
(unless it was for practical reasons) let alone what the scales read when they
take the (sometimes brave) step to step onto them.
My sister told me today that since she has
lost weight, she has been asked how much she weighs more times than she cares
to remember… She recalls that when she was ‘fat’ no one ever asked her this.
It seems that people see the transformation she has gone through has given
people a reason (excuse?) to ask her what she weighs… This isn’t just
friends, but work colleagues and people she barely knows!
lost weight, she has been asked how much she weighs more times than she cares
to remember… She recalls that when she was ‘fat’ no one ever asked her this.
It seems that people see the transformation she has gone through has given
people a reason (excuse?) to ask her what she weighs… This isn’t just
friends, but work colleagues and people she barely knows!
You Look So Much Better Now!
You would imagine that our media obsessed
world would lead to compliments of “you look so much better now you are
thin” which she says happens… But that isn’t where it ends. She gets
comments such as “Oh, have you put on a bit of weight, you look so much better
for it”… She hasn’t gained weight & to be honest, is that anyone else’s
business? People telling her she looks better thin, others telling her she looks better (when they think she is) bigger… How is anyone supposed to win!?
world would lead to compliments of “you look so much better now you are
thin” which she says happens… But that isn’t where it ends. She gets
comments such as “Oh, have you put on a bit of weight, you look so much better
for it”… She hasn’t gained weight & to be honest, is that anyone else’s
business? People telling her she looks better thin, others telling her she looks better (when they think she is) bigger… How is anyone supposed to win!?
I don’t want to go into personal details
of her life (and I have asked her if I can blog about this) but it made me
realise (once again) that it isn’t just fat people that get comments on the way
they look. She has worked hard at her body and yet people still tell her she
looks good thin, or that she looks better a bit bigger. Not people whose
opinion she has asked for or even someone who has entered into discussion with,
but just people who feel it is their right/obligation/job to comment on whether
she looks good at whatever weight they think she looks better at.
of her life (and I have asked her if I can blog about this) but it made me
realise (once again) that it isn’t just fat people that get comments on the way
they look. She has worked hard at her body and yet people still tell her she
looks good thin, or that she looks better a bit bigger. Not people whose
opinion she has asked for or even someone who has entered into discussion with,
but just people who feel it is their right/obligation/job to comment on whether
she looks good at whatever weight they think she looks better at.
To me, she has always been beautiful and I
would never comment on it and she’s my sister – why other people think they
should is baffling… I am sure she is not the only person who goes through
this. In fact I know she isn’t – many of us deal with peoples comments on OUR
body every single day.
would never comment on it and she’s my sister – why other people think they
should is baffling… I am sure she is not the only person who goes through
this. In fact I know she isn’t – many of us deal with peoples comments on OUR
body every single day.
Let’s all just
remember we are not put on this earth to be visually pleasing to other people
at all. We are put on this Earth to live our life exactly how we want & we
do not and should not live our life in a way that just pleases others. If
people do not like the way we look then they can simply choose to look the
other way!
remember we are not put on this earth to be visually pleasing to other people
at all. We are put on this Earth to live our life exactly how we want & we
do not and should not live our life in a way that just pleases others. If
people do not like the way we look then they can simply choose to look the
other way!
Be-You-Tiful
Debz xx
Where Can I Buy Confidence?
Some of you may have seen that I was quoted in The DailyTelegraphs Wonder Woman section last week…
“Debz, 30, is an internet marketer, who also runs a plus
size fashion blog Wannabe Princess. She knows Miranda through Twitter (there’s
definitely a scene) and loves Club Indulge, although she says her size doesn’t
put her off going to mainstream nights.
size fashion blog Wannabe Princess. She knows Miranda through Twitter (there’s
definitely a scene) and loves Club Indulge, although she says her size doesn’t
put her off going to mainstream nights.
“I’d go anywhere, I don’t really care, but we all come along
to this together, so it’s a good opportunity to see people.” Although she
admits: “If I can’t fit past someone here, I’ll tell them to move, whereas in a
normal club I’d feel like I had to squeeze past or go the long way round.””
to this together, so it’s a good opportunity to see people.” Although she
admits: “If I can’t fit past someone here, I’ll tell them to move, whereas in a
normal club I’d feel like I had to squeeze past or go the long way round.””
Apart from learning that I probably shouldn’t talk to
journalists when I am drunk, I was glad to have a link to my blog & some
new visitors – Hiiii!
journalists when I am drunk, I was glad to have a link to my blog & some
new visitors – Hiiii!
Anyway, I guess write-ups like this lead to ‘normal’ people
discovering blogs and BBW websites etc. because it is something that they
wouldn’t usually Google to find.
discovering blogs and BBW websites etc. because it is something that they
wouldn’t usually Google to find.
I had a lovely email from a lady the day after the article
and it made me realise that the blogs that we all write (And I don’t mean this
in a big myself up way – I mean it generically across the board) are doing some
good!
and it made me realise that the blogs that we all write (And I don’t mean this
in a big myself up way – I mean it generically across the board) are doing some
good!
” I stumbled accross your site through an article in a
paper about BBW night clubs. I was so happy to see this, you look so confident
and your clothes are fab…. I feel that in my life long quest to be thin I
have wasted so much time on being unhappy being fat. I have so much more
confidence now as I used to feel succesful when im thin and unsuccessful when
im fat! I am learning to accept me as a big person, not easy though, any tips
please, I love your style and confidence. xx”
paper about BBW night clubs. I was so happy to see this, you look so confident
and your clothes are fab…. I feel that in my life long quest to be thin I
have wasted so much time on being unhappy being fat. I have so much more
confidence now as I used to feel succesful when im thin and unsuccessful when
im fat! I am learning to accept me as a big person, not easy though, any tips
please, I love your style and confidence. xx”
I wrote back to the lovely lady (Hello if you are reading
this) but it made me think, how exactly do you ‘get’ confidence?
this) but it made me think, how exactly do you ‘get’ confidence?
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| This has been saved on my computer for years, I do not know the original source – sorry! |
A few years back one of the biggest things for me was
realising that many people suffer with the same body image issues – whether
they’re ‘justified’ or not. I started to post body positivity quotes that I
liked on my Facebook and I was surprised at the number of friends that related
to what I was saying. I always thought my thin, beautiful friends would never
understand how I felt but actually in this image-conscious world we are all
fighting the same battle.
realising that many people suffer with the same body image issues – whether
they’re ‘justified’ or not. I started to post body positivity quotes that I
liked on my Facebook and I was surprised at the number of friends that related
to what I was saying. I always thought my thin, beautiful friends would never
understand how I felt but actually in this image-conscious world we are all
fighting the same battle.
What was also a big step for me was realising that if people
wanted to pick on something about your image/look/style they will – they’ll
call you out for wearing glasses, or having the wrong haircut or having the
wrong clothes.
wanted to pick on something about your image/look/style they will – they’ll
call you out for wearing glasses, or having the wrong haircut or having the
wrong clothes.
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| This has been saved on my computer for years, I do not know the original source – sorry! |
However the truth is that these people don’t own me – they
don’t have any bearing on my life or the good memories I make with the people
who do matter. Someone might make a comment in a nightclub or while I am out,
but they are the ones who spend their night concentrating on others – I am
usually so happy to be out with people I care about that I don’t even register
other people’s negativity.
don’t have any bearing on my life or the good memories I make with the people
who do matter. Someone might make a comment in a nightclub or while I am out,
but they are the ones who spend their night concentrating on others – I am
usually so happy to be out with people I care about that I don’t even register
other people’s negativity.
I am not saying I am 100% confident – who is!! But what I am
saying is that any issues I do have are just that – my own issues. I do not
have to let any ill confidences I feel about my body have a negative effect on
my life – or even my day.
saying is that any issues I do have are just that – my own issues. I do not
have to let any ill confidences I feel about my body have a negative effect on
my life – or even my day.
Whatever size clothes you wear, you deserve to be
happy & have good people in your life, so never let the haters bring you
down!
happy & have good people in your life, so never let the haters bring you
down!
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| This has been saved on my computer for years, I do not know the original source – sorry! |
I hope you’re enjoying the sunshine
Debz xx
My First Ever ASOS Curve Purchase
ASOS Curve Purchase – When I read about the ASOS Curve last week, I had to make a purchase. Having never bought from ASOS Curve before I wasn’t 100% sure what to buy – but in the end I opted for 3 new dresses… I know, surprising! haha [Read more…]
Once You Go Black… Plus Size Patterned Leggings
Plus Size Patterned Leggings -As I went out last night I wore two outfits yesterday… I debated between two short posts and one massive one & decided to split the posts up! Once again I decided to showcase a pair of my new Love Ur Curves leggings and opted for the blue leggings with white hearts. I found this to be a great fit, but they are longer than the plain/block coloured leggings i also picked up. It wasn’t a problem, but maybe something to be aware of. [Read more…]